Love has nothing to do with marriage, so it must die in the end

Corene 2022-04-21 09:03:51

I watched "Elegy" today, the story of an old man falling in love with a young woman.
I can't help but envy that a successful old man can still attract beautiful little girls in his later years, not to mention his bed partner who has been by his side for decades.
After watching, when I was moved by its romantic story, I couldn't help but pouted because of the old man's infidelity.
Until I saw a comment: "Maybe this is love", I sneered for a while, then thought for a while, and ignored that this was the connotation of the film.
This is love. When you can't get it, you think like crazy. After you get it, you're afraid of losing it. If you can't run away, you'll feel like it's tasteless. That's love.
Love has nothing to do with occupation, age, character, hobbies and knowledge, as long as that person arouses the fire of your desire, that's it.
Old men love a girl because of her beautiful body. And the girl loves the old man because of his extensive knowledge.
Everything went smoothly.
Love is never one-on-one, but love can make people jealous and monopolistic. Then came the constraints of marriage and moral fidelity, helping insecure people to restrain their partners, and it became a loyalty agreement concluded within this society.
And marriage is something we must uphold in living in social laws, because it is closely linked with moral judgment, public opinion, and career prospects. We can only choose to stay with one person until we grow old.
So it's scary how important this choice is.
Those who, because of their age, have to find someone to marry and have children, really have no ego. They are completely unaware that this choice is so important to their future life and fully surrender their happiness and happiness to the pressure imposed by society.
Perhaps, two people who are not in love can get along with each other. Shared life experiences will make them feel close and cherish each other. It's just the sublimation of this kind of affection, nothing to do with love.
In the latter part of the movie, the young girl lost her breasts because of breast cancer, and the old man finally let go of his inferiority complex, and both of them were finally happy.
Perhaps at this time, love has died, replaced by mutual affection and affection. They may live the rest of their lives with this long-term relationship and voluntary responsibility, and there will be no third party.
Maybe it doesn't matter if love is dead or not. There are so many feelings in people, who cares or can tell which one will let us go through life?

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Extended Reading
  • General 2022-03-25 09:01:23

    Penelope Cruz is beautiful! Nothing to say!

  • Kyra 2022-03-25 09:01:23

    Is it delicate and poetic, I like everything

Elegy quotes

  • Consuela Castillo: Beautiful picture.

    David Kepesh: Beautiful woman.

  • David Kepesh: [interview on the Charlie Rose show] We're not all descended from the Puritans.

    Charlie Rose: No?

    David Kepesh: There was another colony 30 miles from Plymouth, it's not on the maps today. Marymount it was called.

    Charlie Rose: Yeah, alright, you mention in your book...

    David Kepesh: The colony where anything goes, went.

    Charlie Rose: There was booze...

    David Kepesh: here was booze. There was fornication. There was music. There was... they even ah, ah, ah, you name it, you name it. They even danced around the maypole once a month, wearing masks, worshiping god knows what, Whites and Indians together, all going for broke...

    Charlie Rose: Who was responsible for all of this?

    David Kepesh: A character by the name of Thomas Morton.

    Charlie Rose: Aah, the "Hugh Hefner" of the Puritans.

    David Kepesh: You could say that. I'm going to read you a quote of what the Puritans thought of Morton's followers: 'Debauched bacchanalians and atheists, falling into great licentiousness, and leading degenerate lives'. When I heard that, I packed my bags, I left Oxford, and I came straight to America, America the licentious.

    Charlie Rose: So what happened to all of those people?

    David Kepesh: Well, the Puritans shot them down. They sent in Miles Standish leading the militia. He chopped down the maypole, cut down those colored ribbons, banners, everything; party was over

    Charlie Rose: And we became a nation of straight-laced Puritans.

    David Kepesh: Well...

    Charlie Rose: Isn't that your point though? The Puritans won, they stamped out all things sexual... how would you say it?

    David Kepesh: Sexual happiness.

    Charlie Rose: Exactly. Until the 1960s.

    David Kepesh: Until the 1960s when it all exploded again all over the place.

    Charlie Rose: Right, everyone was dancing around the maypole, then, make love not war.

    David Kepesh: If you remember, only a decade earlier, if you wanted to have sex, if you wanted to make love in the 1950s, you had to beg for it, you had to cop a feel.

    Charlie Rose: Or... get married.

    David Kepesh: As I did in the 1960s.

    Charlie Rose: Any regrets?

    David Kepesh: Plenty. Um, but that's our secret. Don't tell anybody.

    [laughter]

    David Kepesh: That's just between you and me.