When I was a child, when I was cooking and sweeping the floor, I would pour out my grievances at my brother, but I scolded me vigorously: You see, it’s all because of you. If I had replaced you with that family’s sister, why would it be my turn now? I will do it. A few words have to be explained here. My mother often said when my brother was naughty, if I had known, it was time to replace you with a girl from another family. My mother had always wanted a daughter. Fortunately, my brother's heart is strong enough, and his inertia is strong enough, he doesn't eat this set at all. This is life, some people are born to eat and sleep, and some people should sweep the floor and cook. Thinking about it this way makes it a lot better. In other words, I had to accept my fate.
The movie "Like Father Like Son" also talks about changing children, but it is real. The Nonomiya family lived a standard urban middle-class life. Her husband, Nonomiya, graduated from college and worked in a large company. His wife, Nonomiya Green, was a full-time wife. His son was smart and well-behaved. The key is that the husband is still handsome and his salary is not low; the wife is still very beautiful, sensible and warm-hearted; the son is still very good, not angry with the teacher, and has nothing to bully female classmates to go to the women's toilet. However, it should never be wrong. The hospital where the wife gave birth informed that after the birth of his child, due to the negligence of the hospital, he may have carried the wrong child. A later test found that the DNA of the parent and child did not match. a bolt from the blue. The husband just found the cause of the fatality - outside the car window, it was raining heavily, and Nonomiya Ryota slapped the glass with his palm. The soothing background music of the piano also came to an abrupt end—I was so good, my baby couldn’t even play the piano well, so let me just say, it must be a genetic fault. Later, his wife Nonomiya Green cried and said, "You can't accept that Kyodo is not as good as you." It means that he despised the child and questioned his wife from the very beginning. The blood does not match, just to change, the husband is not as entangled as the wife.
In the world of Nonomiya, people in the family should be well-organized and organized, work hard, and not be so emotional. On the night of overtime, he told his wife that he would accompany Qingduo on weekends. The wife said, you have said this many times. Zhaimu said to him later, you should spend more time with your children. Many said, I still have a lot of work to do. Saiki said that his father is also an irreplaceable job. According to many meanings, he has a career and cannot be delayed; the daily expenses of the family and the life of a family of three must be borne by him. If he spends a lot of time with his family, then the other end will collapse. His thoughts were not without merit.
Compared with the Nonomiya family, the other party who led the wrong child is Saiki Xiong. In the small town, Saiki runs a maintenance department and a grocery store, and his wife Yu Xiangli works in a fast food restaurant. The economy is not well-off, so naturally it cannot compare with the Nonomiya family, and the house is also dilapidated. However, the Zhaimu family is very happy. The father and son have a close relationship and often play together. Zhaimu helps the children (the two sons and one daughter of the Zhaimu family) repair toys, take baths with the children, and often take the family out on trips. When the parents met, a video about Shuqing that Yudai Saiki showed to the Nonomiya Ryo and his wife was shot during an outing - the couple also understood the child very well. Therefore, after the exchange, Shuqing was panicked because he stayed in the house in the city (his father didn't play with him, and he couldn't go out to fly kites like he did in the countryside) and ran back to his original home, and went to pick him up. Many couples said that they should teach Shuqing a lesson, instead of praising him for making mistakes, but the Zhaimu couple did not understand.
The different atmospheres of the Saimu family and the Liaoda family are actually the difference between the two concepts. Speaking of which, it is the difference between urban and rural areas, and two different ways of life. In a small way, it is the difference in the specific way of dealing with the previous generation and the next generation. Many of them want my son to work hard and be as capable as he is, so he can't give up easily (such as playing the piano). Maybe when we think of this, many of us will object, so there is no fun in life. But in fact, most of us in the modern city have lived like this, either for the sake of further education, for the examination of grades, or for the sake of becoming a person, or for more wealth. Zhaimu pays more attention to a happy life. Having money or not is another matter. Life must be happy. The family must play together and integrate with each other.
Written here, this article actually wants to talk about the father-son relationship. In daily life, the relationship between mother and child may be more harmonious, and the child is more dependent on and closer to the mother - this is the case with Nonomiya Green and Keita in the film - the relationship between father and son is often antagonistic, and there are many conflicts. It is even said that with the advancement of modern life, single-parent families are more and more common or fathers spend more and more time away, and the role of mothers in family education will be highlighted. However, the relationship between father and son is difficult to explain. Saying that the father doesn't love the child, maybe every father will express his objection and won't admit it if he is beaten to death. In fact, we also saw a lot of reluctance, and later confessed to lawyer friends that although he won the lawsuit, he was not a winner-because he hurt Qingduo's heart, and at the same time could not win Shuqing's trust —— Later, when I saw the photos that Qing Duo took for him secretly, I shed tears that I couldn't easily shed. Therefore, there is no need to condemn Nonomiya many. I am willing to believe another explanation: fathers are more rational, and sometimes do not know how to express love, because they insist on restraint, sometimes they like to be a little manly, and they are not willing to take the initiative to understand their son. In addition, Nonomiya has made great strides in his studies and work, and he has not suffered many setbacks (although he has also been forced by his father, and his relationship with his parents is not very good), it is difficult for him to understand the emotional twists and turns of the curve, do not understand Difficulties and subtleties of human life. The relationship between people is sometimes very complicated and takes time to manage. He thinks that the world is linear, and many things can be solved by converting them into monetary units. In fact, at first, he wanted to use money to pass the fast. Mu, after winning two sons, he also has a superior attitude towards the Zhaimu family. Of course, you can also say that if you suffer setbacks and experience the hardships of life, you may also become the perverted Cao Qiqiao written by Eileen Chang. That is another question, and there is no need to dwell on it here. Besides, Cao Qiqiao's second half of her life is not worthy of her suffering. As Dostoevsky said, she did not gain a new life from her suffering.
At this time, the father and son need to push down a wall together, a wall that hinders understanding. There are many ways. It may be that the son later became a father and understood the painstaking efforts of the old father (many said to Shuqing, don't ask why, you will understand later), father and son reconciliation - experience changing sons. Afterwards, many also felt that they were too cold to their parents, and took the initiative to apologize to their mothers; it was also possible that the son followed his own way, which made the relationship between father and son very stiff, but then the father finally understood the son's value pursuit, the next generation. People do not necessarily live and work according to the experience of their parents. In Laomouzi's movie "A Thousand Miles Riding Alone", the Japanese old man played by Ken Takakura did this; it may also be that father and son experienced a crisis together, recalling the past, etc. Overcoming difficulties, understanding will deepen. Bearded Floyd said that father and son were born enemies. In fact, the father and son fight, how can such a detached conclusion can be concluded. Nonomiya worked hard to integrate Shuqing into his new home, and even played gunfight games with his son when he was working overtime at home and busy with company affairs. life, they have been inseparable. At the end of the movie, Liao Duo finally said sorry to Qing Duo, not in an arrogant and reluctant tone, but sincerely. The two families were also inseparable.
If I have to say that the film has any educational significance, then I would like to say that the power of literary and artistic works to change reality is too weak after all, just like a depressed young man looking for love skills in novels, but after all, it seems clumsy, he might as well go more Tried a few times. Literary and artistic works are more about people's emotions. They let us understand the difficulties and subtleties of the world and deepen our understanding of the relationship between people. To take a step back, at least let us see that something is wrong with our lives. The moment you close the book and walk out of the theater or turn off the computer, you always feel that something is wrong. ", to see "Smell the Fragrance and Know a Woman", I can't help but sigh: My god, how can I be such a father, how can I not be such a teacher, how can I not understand the value pursuit and emotional world of others. Naturally, the problem cannot be solved in a short time. The hard reality is not that reading a novel or a film can awaken people's wisdom, courage and consensus to push the wall and see the flowers bloom, and the ice to see the water, but at least, we Getting closer to the wall of understanding.
After growing up together, I feel that it is not bad to have a younger brother. My dad used to say, Damn, two sons, there is a helper for a fight. It's not a fight, but it feels good to have a helper sleeping next to you. Damn, fortunately, I didn't exchange my brother out. Later, the family had a miserable life, and my possible sister was also a drifter.
January 16, 2015 Amendment to May 19
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