In the father-son relationship I know, it can be summed up in one word - 'Love deeply'. The love of father and son is not as spoiled as mother and son, father and daughter, mother and daughter. Fathers will inevitably look at their sons from the perspective of men and their own, and teach their values to their sons. There seems to be a lot in this love. It has a layer of educational significance, and it is precisely because of this that we ignore the care of our father. In the film, Masaharu Fukuyama is such a father.
But this is not what I want to say the most, and I want to discuss the [what if] in the film.
I don’t know if everyone, like me, calmly thought about various possibilities when watching the film. (It is precisely because Hirokazu-eda is not provocative, the calm camera language and appropriate white space made me think this way, otherwise I would have cried into tears.)
Possibility 1:
It is the result of my initial imagination, and it is also the original me. think the best result. Originally, parenting can replace the ties of blood. We have been in a relationship for 6 years. The father-son/mother-son relationship has already surpassed the value of a birth certificate and DNA verification. It is an indisputable fact that you are our son, even if it is not us. you.
But in this way, both parents will be tied down, because the other family is indeed my son. If so, will there be unintentional leanings in the process of raising children? After all, this is not my biological family, especially a family of 3 children, so is it a good choice to give both children to the Fukuyama family?
Possibility 2: Both children will be given to Masaharu Fukuyama.
According to Possibility 1, it may be a good choice for both children to be given to the Fukuyama family. But from another perspective, now that the Fukuyama family has two children, will the above-mentioned inclination also occur? Besides, the family of five has indeed raised their adopted son in the past six years. This friendship is indelible and indelible. Sending the child out is also the cruelest decision for them now, so according to the development of this film, the forced exchange It is indeed the best decision to come over now, and leave the rest to time to heal.
Possibility 3: Swap children
In fact, according to the Chinese values, blood is thicker than water, and the connection of blood is the most important point, so if this happened in our country, it may also be forced to exchange the child under the pressure of the family. But as a result, everyone also saw in the film, whether they are sensible or naughty, they all know that their parents are on the other side. Parents also suffer because of this, feeling that they are sorry for their children, of course, this child refers to their adopted son.
So what I ended up with after some useless thinking was that if they didn't know, nothing would happen. But the final result left me with a lot of aftertaste, because all assumptions are just assumptions before action, we might as well try it out, we can know what is really good for children and what is good for families. In fact, in the end, the two families became one big family. After all, children are not commodity people, what they have is the ties of affection and family affection.
A child's right to belong is always the child himself, and all parents can give them is a sense of belonging. Then feel this thing, or let the child feel it!
The title of the film is like a father and a son, rather than a mother or a family, which is also the director's choice of perspective. A more calm and peaceful perspective, more blank space is to look at this issue from the perspective of a man, and the last bit of tears is also the tenderness of a man! (The theme of mother may be handed over to a Korean director for a version, and if home is a Chinese director)
Probably it was my relationship with my father and my growing understanding of the father-son relationship over the past few years that made me suddenly feel this film. A lot...
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