In recent days, I have watched two films about people with disabilities. The content is slightly different, and the focus of the perspective is also different. First is "Rust and Bone", and then "The Belliers". In comparison, the former's portrayal of life's misfortunes is very moving and more inspiring, but as a social worker, I have more empathy for the latter. Even if the protagonist is the experience and growth of a normal child, it can be clearly felt that the silent world in which she grew up is the soil that nourishes the youth. In all the shots of this film, the protagonist who seems to be inferior and radiant, busy taking care of a family and a loved teenager, all her radiance and glory have a strong connection with that silent group.
In this family, my father is a model of inspiration. In my mother's eyes, as long as he wants, nothing is impossible. The career he wants to pursue, the woman he wants to pursue, and even finally decide to participate in politics and run for election in order to protect his agriculture and his town. wait for a series of actions. Every action is not something that ordinary people can do with courage alone. With faith and unyielding energy, he has done it all. He loves his family, his daughter more than his wife, and he tries to understand a world he never resonates. Even if I don't know the light and darkness of that world, I accept it with my daughter's love, and I can slowly do ideological work when my wife doesn't accept it. Then I take her to the scene to feel the singing and see the smiling faces in the crowd. Such a role and character seems to be a perfect man. In the society we live in, such a perfect father role in an ordinary family is so rare that it is hard for me to believe his existence. Maybe a five-star recommendation minus one star is the way to go. .
Mom loves beauty, loves to laugh, is the sunshine in the family, is kind, and gentle. She is feminine and always protects her lover. She is not at ease with her daughter's Gao Fei, but she struggles to understand and accept. , she may be accustomed to the existence of her daughter, so the daughter who wants to be bound in the end still chooses to let her go and fly out of the range where she can kiss at any time. This is not only a beautiful woman, but also a warm mother, the fragile mother we love and care about.
The younger brother is still young, and he has learned a lot of love skills while studying into a technical geek. It's just that when my sister left, the first thing I thought of was to get my sister's room. When I had to send her away in the end, he was like a pissed off child. He caredly helped my sister with her luggage. He was my father's first supporter and used various means to go Help your father to run for election, and you can pursue the girl you like in a unique way. The romantic gene seems to be innate, and the tricks are full of tricks to make people smile. Imagine having such loving and harmonious parents, the skill of flirting with girls is indispensable, and he expresses it in a unique way to win his own happiness and joy.
Maybe after sorting out such three roles, we will see many happy families. It seems that girls born in such families should be optimistic, smiling, confident and full of vitality. But when we change the previous three characters to characters with hearing impairment and aphasia, what will be the change in our perception of this girl? Has it changed a lot? "Normal" will say: She is a 'normal' person in the eyes of a secular person, living in a non-"normal" world. It is in such a social environment where the measurement standard is very single, she began to learn sign language since she was literate, and acted as an interpreter when her family communicated with outsiders. Because of this simplification, she couldn't explain to her classmates that her daily life might be too busy, and she couldn't use this reason to deal with the teacher's rejection. Be cautious and cowardly.
Almost without comparing with her family, you can see that she is the one who is the least confident, the one who is the most cowardly, and the one who doesn't seem to be "normal". Of course, lack of self-confidence may be a common problem in adolescence, and it is a sign of immaturity. In this sensitive period, she has not even completely changed her perspective to understand the situation of her parents, but only bears her own destiny in advance, so she occasionally scratches her head because of her parents' "ignorance", and she is too defensive because of a joke from others. Bearing the weight of an adult at an early age makes her seem a little out of place. On the other hand, it is also the ties brought by the excessive love from her family that makes her unable to let go and love the person she loves. do what you want to do.
Therefore, when the perfect family relationship that many people are looking for in reality, the benign parent-child relationship and the husband-wife relationship, are almost all presented in front of us, the prophecy about doors and windows makes us realize the impossibility of perfection again, but this time, What is missing is bodily function. However, I am very fortunate that the director never focuses on this defect, but places the conflict on the incomprehension between parents and children, on the peer group relationship and struggle that a person will inevitably face when growing up, on the relationship between marriage and love and ideals Conflict with reality... This universal obstacle that exists in thousands of families makes us forget the insufficiency of the individual. The humane care revealed in the whole film is reflected in every detail and in the portrayal of every character, which makes people moved and consciously ignore this "defect" that obviously cannot be ignored.
In our social culture, all kinds of books and media always say that people with disabilities should be integrated into society, treat them with a normal vision, create a suitable social environment, and give the same rights and obligations, but the whole film almost sees Less than the recommendations presented in these social work practices are required. Their lives are ordinary but equally wonderful, driving to work, doing a suitable job, marrying a girl they love, having one or two lovely children, living in a cozy cottage, and getting along well with their neighbors. What else can we do? Maybe it's the adolescent girl, of course she has unconditional love for her family, but in the process of integrating with others, while digging out her potential, she feels that her family needs to be taken care of, she needs to give up and pay herself, and cannot be "selfish" In pursuit of one's own ideals, will there be times when they are regarded as weaker than "normal people"? Therefore, he will try his best to compensate for this deficiency, and be more sensitive and delicate than his peers. In any case, a large enough environment of love will soothe the unease caused by this delicate, and will also compensate for this girl with excellent talent. And her talent is not elsewhere, it is precisely what her family lacks, this fateful arrangement, how touching!
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