I think my mother's death is the best thing that has happened since my father's death.
At his mother's funeral, when Patrick, who was in middle age, said this while holding a friend who came to express his condolences, he couldn't help but feel happy.
It is often said that lucky people are healed by childhood, and unfortunate people are healed by childhood. Apparently, Patrick falls into the latter category.
"Melrose" episodes are well-made, with the death of the opening father and the death of the closing mother. The lines are harsh and vivid, and the story is carefully crafted but slow. Benny's performance is almost a solo show, except for the first episode that everyone is talking about about taking drugs, especially a few scenes of calling and answering the phone, the person who answered the phone at the beginning of the first episode and the expression on the phone at the end of the first episode Change, that phone call to Julia when buying wine. As well as a large section of her mother's hysterical breakdown lines, it navigates between various emotional states with ease. And Hugo is full of prostitution and morbidity. Even the two little childhood actors did well.
Due to the background of the upper class in the UK, the protagonists do not worry about their livelihoods, they live exquisitely and elegantly, dress gorgeously, go to aristocratic parties in star-rated hotels, take drugs to death, and cheat on the bed sheets. It seems more or less futile, so at first glance it is difficult to empathize with the emotions of the characters as in "Transcendence".
But the good thing is that the portrayal of "people" is profound, making it gradually better, and gradually enabling ordinary people to enter the heart of the character. Because no matter rich or poor, they are all people, and people's pain is usually common in their bones.
Mother Eleanor - the best woman who combines cowardice, selfishness, hypocrisy
More hateful than doing evil is turning a blind eye to the duty to stop the evildoer.
Eleanor is as cowardly as Tara's mother in "Should You Fly Like a Bird to Your Mountain". Years later, when she received a letter from a girl who said she had been molested by her husband at a country house, she still ignored it and deceived herself.
I didn't even pretend to say that sentence to the male protagonist from beginning to end - you are my child, and I should have protected you well. And when the male protagonist finally summoned up the courage to tell her the truth that he was raped by his father in his childhood, she just responded immediately: Me too!
From this answer, it can be seen that she does not have the sense of responsibility as a mother. Or this bottom line was shattered by the fear dominated by her husband. She just took it for granted: I can't protect myself, how can I take care of you.
Eleanor's death caused the male protagonist to collapse indirectly by "disinheriting the right of inheritance". She is a hypocritical mother who can save children all over the world, but not her own son. And the charity she devotes to is just a disguised redemption for her broken psychology. She may not really care about others, she just wants to make herself feel better by "caring for others".
Eleanor once went to the airport to pick up Nicholas, driving a luxury car with a headscarf and pointing at the farmers picking in the fields: "That's called meaningful life, like a native Indian, working at sunrise, drilling wells and Drink, plough the fields and eat, and if you want to eat chicken, you have to go out and kill yourself.”
But she was used to being pampered and wealthy. If she really let her live that kind of life, she would probably collapse soon. It can be seen that Duke Ye is fond of dragons.
And the reason why she disliked alienating her biological son was because she felt that Patrick had the shadow of her husband David in her heart.
Actor Jennifer Jason Lee also interprets it very well. For this role, I personally understand but do not forgive. So much so that after I finished "Melrose", I had to watch the beaten scene in "The Hateful Eight" where she starred in to relieve my hatred for her.
Father David and Nicholas - The Hunter and the Hound
Father and Nicholas, they inherited all the filthy habits of old nobles, and they think that people who do not obey moral standards are better. To ridicule those who are committed to their duties and virtues are puritanical and boring. He is reluctant to follow a well-absorbed tradition, but scoffs at the new changes and ideas in the world. Find excuse props for your own indulgent incest.
The story of eating figs and the taunting of buying the duke can be seen in his attitude towards his wife.
The story of the general letting his soldiers step on the thorns with bare feet shows his view on education.
In a meeting with his father's old friends, Patrick eloquently said David's famous saying: it is better to have less than to waste, as long as it is the best. Never apologize, never explain. See the big picture and don't trust anyone. Don't try, try too vulgar. The eighteenth century was much better than it is now. Despise all women, especially your mother. Every famous quote is a satire on the megalomaniac.
Nicholas comforts the ambassador who has offended the princess at Sonny's banquet. Turning his head and flattering the oncoming princess, together they made fun of the ambassador and his wife behind their backs. It can be described as a double-edged sword.
The two dinner scenes before and after show the British emperor's well-dressed and morally indulgent and decadent upper class portrayal.
After the death of his father and mother, David served as the sole voice in his parents' morbid circle. Words and deeds are still tormenting Patrick with radiation, and living with him under the same roof will suffocate.
The best design is Nicholas's way of death - a heart attack by someone he doesn't agree with. On the way to the hospital, I was accompanied by another woman whom she rejected, which was very pleasing.
Bridget - fly up the branches and fly away.
Bridget has been lost since meeting Nicholas.
When she finally got into the upper class with her flamboyant wrist, and invited relatives and friends to see how high she climbed, she learned that she had been cheated on by the duke's husband, Sonny, and that the third child was pregnant with a boy who could inherit the title.
She cried and said: Mom, sometimes I treat you very badly, very forceful.
Mom said: Nothing, only occasionally. Your father always blames that Nicholas, who was a nice girl before you met him, and then you start criticizing everything in the family, people you've known all your life, nice people. Your father has always loved you, but I can't say he wasn't hurt by it.
Bridget, who finally realized that he was "not worth the loss", drove away with his mother.
Patrick - the brave drowning "self-helper" and the lucky "rescuer".
Patrick initially used drugs and sexual indulgence to escape the unfortunate memories that plagued him. After hearing the good news of his father's death, he began to think about quitting drugs.
The road was long and winding, but he also seemed lucky. There is a friend Johnny who can heart and soul, married a caring wife Mary, and a son Robert who loves him. All this seems to be a healing of the unfortunate wounds of the first half of his life.
Mary is a wife who can fully communicate with and understand her inner situation, and when she perceives the infidelity between her husband and Julia, she does not immediately tear it off. And Robert stretched out his little hand when his father trembled. When it's time to deny his father's behavior, don't give him a hug. The emotional scale of the mother and son has both done a good job of redeeming Patrick.
When her husband was furious over her mother's inheritance, Mary reassured that she was just a frightened woman.
Mary's words were also extremely wise and powerful when she saw that Patrick's alcoholism had been declining since his drug withdrawal:
"When you are like this, I have no love or affection for you, and I have begun to imagine my life without you, and the sympathy and patience I may have had dried up. I don't know if it was because of your alcoholism, or because of your relationship with Julia. Brilliant thing, that's just as insulting to you and mine, or that it's unintentionally damaging because the kids are getting involved. Nancy said watching her father ruin her life, that's your son Robert tonight See. But you still don't stop. If you can't change, then you have to leave."
"I don't want the kids to see you like this. I'm not Eleanor, and I'm not going to stand by and watch you fall into such a pitiful state. I'll never let the kids see you like this, too pitiful. It went on too long, and if you're really determined to drink yourself to death, drink it in your own apartment."
After his mother's funeral, his wife and son invited Patrick, who was living alone, home for dinner and kissed him as they parted. It is also the key life-saving straw for Patrick to step into the circular quagmire again.
And Patrick's sense of self-help has always played an important role. In the absence of a normal person in the family, he was still young and could not count on his mother, and finally dared to say "no" to his father's endless rape.
"I won't do what you said, it's wrong, you're wrong, no one should treat others like this!"
Later, the black musician, who sold drugs, said that it is a miracle that we do not melt in the bathtub like soap. And the beginning of miracles usually originates from spontaneous courage.
When people sink into the quagmire of life, only if they have the courage to save themselves and cry for help can they be rescued by others with their arms outstretched.
Patrick ended the family cancer of [misuse himself, torment offspring]. It's different from a cowardly mother. He saw the insect release it from the upside-down cup, and it was different from his father who saw the insect stick out the cigar head and burn it to death.
To stop being raped, it takes courage to resist loudly, to break the cycle, and to get more out of oneself.
Here are a few excerpts from each episode:
Episode 1 [Bad News]
Did you go to the balance room? ——Go, that is the most beautiful appearance I have ever seen of him.
When they give you the ashes, those are actually adulterated ashes from the bottom of the crematorium. —Good news, it’s better to have it all from someone else.
The irony is that my father's body is hard to find, and I have his shadow everywhere.
Life isn't just a bag of shit, it's a bag of shit that leaks. People are bound to get caught in shit.
There will be rivers of blood, and the wicked will be drowned. Those in high positions are not immune. Bridges were also washed away and people would say that the end of the world has come.
where are you calling from? --Rock bottom.
Episode 2 [Forget it]
Eleanor drove a luxury car wrapped in a headscarf and pointed to the farmers picking in the fields: that is called a meaningful life, just like an Indian native, who works at sunrise, digs wells and drinks, and ploughs and eats. If you want to eat chicken, you have to go out and kill yourself. (Ye Gong loves dragons)
Don't flatter them, don't let them bully you, don't try to fit in with them.
Prostitution is good, incest is the best. He does whatever he wants, without scruples about moral nonsense. -Why do you think people who don't follow ethical standards are better?
Education should allow children to say in the future that if I can survive, nothing will trouble me in the future. - This is both morbid and wrong, and you know it in your own heart.
The story of killing rabies, the story of eating figs, the story of buying a duke, the story of training soldiers.
Episode 3 [Hope]
Lord, give me the grace to accept with equanimity the things that cannot be changed, and the courage to change the things that should be changed.
They are the last Maraxists, the last people who believe that class can explain everything.
If I can get into that gecko, maybe I can get through it. It's a bad escape plan, I know. What I'm trying to say is that now I'm tired of hating him, if I'm going to dive into the real world, learn something, contribute, and live, not just survive. Then I have to say these words.
Maybe the way to turn the page is to become, more detached from oneself, and closer to other things.
Mother. Sometimes I have a very bad attitude towards you, very powerful. ——Nothing, just occasionally. Your father always blames that Nicholas, who was a nice girl before you met him, and then you start criticizing everything in the family, people you've known all your life, nice people. Your father has always loved you, but I can't say he wasn't hurt by it.
It's a miracle that we don't melt in the bathtub like soap.
Episode 4 [Breast Milk]
She wants to help others, anyone, as long as it's not her relatives.
I wanted to loosen my collar as I read the letter so I could catch my breath, and then I realized it wasn't because of the collar, but the noose that was tightening around my neck, the noose of hatred. What I hate is this cancer that has been passed down from generation to generation, and I would rather die than pass it on to our children.
Episode 5 [Finally]
Nicholas's rant line: Try not to complain about the money problem, one or two of my friends, they just didn't handle it well and ended up dying in the National Medical Ward. I must say that I appreciate the humanity that is mainly done by foreigners Activities that remind you of what money is for. You can only have capricious flowers, and complain if you don't. I mean do have to complain about money, after all, it's been six generations, and every descendant is extremely mediocre. You and your kids must be so happy that you didn't have to compete for so long, and finally started to make progress.
Are you mentally ill? I can't, even in this degenerate age of confessions and complaints, when all conversations are filled with Freudian nonsense, like vinegar-soaked chips wrapped in newspapers, there are would choose not to eat, as if it wasn't absurd enough to say that all children have to be gifted, they also have to be sick by now. Asperger's syndrome, autism, dyslexia clutter the campus. Poor children, if they say they are not abused, they must say they are abusive. My dear, I call you dear because I obviously have a lack of sincerity disorder. No, I have never suffered from mental illness in the slightest, because I am the impossible being. That perfectly healthy person. Psychotherapists said to my face that they were ashamed of their deceitful profession. go away!
She may not be the perfect mother, and that must make you angry, but sometimes the people most to blame are often the most deserving of sympathy. (With all due respect, I choose not to be sympathetic. Don’t persuade others to be kind before they suffer. If you suffer from others, they may not be good)
It's not about grief or mourning, it's anger, it's anger burning in my heart, she knows, she knows, even subconsciously, she knows what his virtues are, but she fails to do what she's most obliged to do to protect her son, although I am a useless father and a useless husband, I am really sorry, but if I feel that someone is going to hurt my child, I will definitely resist, no matter what the cost, Because if you love them, you will protect them. But what about my mom? God, no wonder he couldn't live without her. With so many children around, he gave away another son for free. He probably didn't even believe he was so lucky. After so many years, as long as he wants, he can do whatever he wants. No one can do that to anyone else. Mary, I thought I was getting better, but I'm still a mess.
Mary, I've decided I've had enough of ghosts and now I want to see people. Is it too late to change your mind? Of course not, after all, minds are meant to be changed. The kids will be happy to see you.
I won't do what you say again, it's wrong, you're wrong, no one should treat others like this!
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