As an autistic person, Tempo is lucky. She meets a well-educated mother who believes in herself and doesn't give up easily, an aunt who provides assistance selflessly and who truly cares about her feelings, and a teacher who guides her with love and knowledge, which is also a part of every" The most precious wealth that a normal" child can dream of owning - it is all this that makes Tianbao always understand that he is different from others, but not worse than others! ("Different, but not less." ) - To be Tianbao, you can be different, but it is necessary to be different. As a "normal person", because of normality, every little thing we do right will not be affirmed and valued. We just struggled to get upstream in the huge normal crowd, trying to occupy a place in the fierce competition. There are always people with better talent appearing, and more and more they find themselves powerless in the face of the so-called reality. To accept "different", for many normal people, it may be impossible for many normal people to do it all their lives. For Tianbao, she had to accept the loneliness that is different from most people. For us, we had to accept the loneliness of being in a crowd. One moment I was still floating in the sky, and the next moment I found myself extremely lonely and profoundly different from other people. Like children with autism, we may be more sensitive than others in different ways and have different tolerances for the external environment. However, understanding and empathizing with each individual is a luxury in this world, so we choose to exclude the "weird" of others, and choose to hide ourselves. It is to completely expose one's own clumsiness and incompatibility to the gaze of others. It is very fragile, but it also forces people to get used to it, forcing people to understand. Even if it always causes discomfort to others, the environment is adapting to them, and the society is for them And change (of course, this process is very slow and painful). As a normal person, we have to constantly adapt. In the process of adaptation, we lose our own speciality, lose our sensitivity, and lose our ability to perceive The ability to perceive things others don't perceive. So we get used to all the behaviors of the adult world that once felt weird, unnatural, and hypocritical (many have to be gross!), and we "mature" , become more social, and feel comfortable being part of a group of people on this planet who are coveting each other, and no longer distinguish each other. Compared with the problems that autistic patients like Tianbao need to face, we who are born "normal" We are very lucky, why do we, who think we have the right to judge what is normal and what is abnormal, have no more confidence to face those brutal external forces that want to change us? In the face of the ridicule of others, the judgment of doctors, Despite the worldly wisdom of the school and society, Tianbao's relatives firmly believed that she should receive a normal education, and patiently told everyone: "She is only different, but not worse than you. "It's a belief that everyone needs. A simple, harmless, and incredibly true belief. The belief that made Tempo the Tempo it is today, This belief has created countless miracles on earth. And I can always see a lot of normal people around me, not only normal, but also lucky to have talent, family background, appearance, but under their superior appearance, they have no confidence in themselves. They need the support of peers, psychologists, placebo, fashion, and knowledge. In fact, the hidden pain in their hearts is that they are afraid of their own less and their own difference. Because they are afraid that they are not close enough to the standard of "normal", they choose to lose themselves, choose not to believe in themselves, and choose not to choose. Tianbao's sky is still incomplete, as each of us will have more or less, but she made her choice bravely, and she walked through those doors.
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