My point of view may not be the same as everyone's, so let me start to talk about my gains. When I watched the last part of the first episode of "The Stain of Human Nature", I suddenly thought of a truth: If one day I have to make a choice, and this choice is the best in my opinion, but my friend I don't think so, and my friend persuaded me to give up this choice. But because I have a bad relationship with him (I often have conflicts with him), at this stall, will I listen to his opinion? It's like the writer in the movie used six rhetorical questions, such as "Do you know his past? What did she do before? Did she have any purpose in approaching you? Did she have AIDS? You asked her if she did. Check?" Wait wait, you think, why did the writer say that? Because the writer looks at the problem from a rational and objective standpoint, and tells him with the mentality of a friend who cares about him, but what? You look at the writer's friend - how did the hero treat him? He was furious and unreasonably attacked the writer personally. Immediately I think about myself, will I be stubborn? Take other people's advice as a deaf ear? Would I be prejudiced to think he was cold and didn't care about the people I cared about, but I didn't think he might care, but he cared more than the people I cared about at the time - it was me, I interests and emotions. So if I don't understand this and misunderstand him, am I going to hold a grudge against him? The advice he gave me, the five or six questions he asked me in a row, I did not consider, because I was only immersed in my emotions at the time, and he only said these five or six questions to me, because he He cares more about me, maybe because he is impatient, he doesn't pay attention to my emotions. He has been reasoning, but I ended up being unreasonable and attacking others personally.
In fact, what I really want to talk about is myself. I have a good friend. This friend of mine is like the writer in the film, and he is also a writer. You see the last part of the film is that the writer is looking for evidence and looking for the truth. And only this writer knows the truth. Why do I say this question is talking about myself, the first conflict between me and my friend happened when he kept asking me questions, and then I finally lost control and hurt our relationship, because I was completely immersed in me In my own emotions, the series of questions he asked me made me have no fundamental understanding of this matter at all, as if I was doing something in vain, out of control because of depression, and the beautiful relationship between us is not as good as before. All right.
But fortunately, I am in the process of maturity, I mean I have not really matured, and my character makes me less willing to express my emotions, so the accumulated emotions will accumulate more and more, and many times we have Most of the quarrels are my main responsibility, and I will become cold and violent in the future, so my mood will get worse and worse.
Let me tell you a truth: my friends and the protagonist's friends say (or preach) to make us better, my friends preach to me to make me better, always keep this in mind, this can change the right Friends' prejudice. My friend is a partner who helps me grow. I will no longer have prejudice against him. When we disagree, even if I am unhappy, I have to reason with him. Gradually, I have no prejudice against anyone. Things that are good for others are not good for themselves.
Finally, let me give you a question to think about, how to persuade the client in the best way, so that the client can temporarily get out of his own emotions and thinking, listen to your reasoning, and look at this matter from the perspective of a bystander? Because many times when a person is immersed in his own thinking, he doesn't listen to other people's reasons, so do you just watch him make mistakes again and again?
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