I watched the movie "Hot Air Balloon Pilot" today, because I am afraid of heights + very timid, so this movie is almost a horror movie for me. But I also found a lot of resonance in the movie. These silent shouts are things that I empathize with. 1. Your parents’ expectations are not your destination: Fathers follow the voice of the media, question their son’s research, and ask his son: Isn’t it uncomfortable to be pointed at me like this? Son A: As long as you are not uncomfortable. For children, parents always have an ideal on their shoulders. No matter how hard you work, there is always a child from someone else. What they want is not you, an ordinary child, but an illusory robot constructed with their own ambitions. Even babies can be disturbed by their mother's sadness. Especially the daughter, always take care of the mother's feelings. Some daughters think that my mother is so unhappy, and I don’t deserve to be happy; some children think that they have not been admitted to their parents’ ideal university, and that they have not fulfilled their parents’ expectations. Canaries, are they really happy? Don't they feel suffocated in the cage their parents cast out of love? Total opposition to parental expectations is as much a sign of lack of identity as total compliance. Please start thinking about who you are and who you want to be from a very young age, and then realize it. If you didn't think about it when you were a kid, it's not too late to think about it now. This problem is very difficult. It may take a few years of trial and error, but it is worth it, because only when you realize yourself can you really live. Here, I did not expect you to accept my values: if you think that children inherit their father's will, and children should fulfill their parents' wishes to be valuable, then congratulations, you are standing in the ranks of the majority, you are A happy person who does not need to think in pain. You may think that I may break the hearts of parents by doing this. It is the concern of most people that you should be responsible for your parents' emotions. However, instead of worrying, you should take the time to teach your parents: everyone should be responsible for their own emotions, Their generation lived to survive, our generation has the ability to pursue the life style they want. There are indeed many obstacles on the road to realizing the dream, but if there is hope, the method is always more difficult than the difficulty.
2. Intimacy is not a transmitter of values: The female pilot's sister completely ignores her sister's flying preferences, and blindly allows her to live a 'happy life' of socializing, husband and child. Everyone's definition of happiness is different, why do you always feel that your values are right, advanced and normal? This arrogant sister, what you want to say is nothing more than ''You know what good is better than others, and you are smarter''. Do you really care about your sister's feelings? Why do only others learn your values and you don't learn other people's values? Is it because your values are lower level and easier to understand? There is a class of elders who always look at you worriedly with a foolish look in their eyes. They doubt your preferences, laugh at your persistence, stand on the moral high ground, and persuade you with pretended pity and pleading, as if they are accommodating a retarded person. In their eyes, as long as they don't live according to their 'suggested' way, they are not as mentally retarded. This is the tinted glasses of 'mainstream low-level values', which they use to see their relatives, the world, and themselves. I want to say to people who only have their own little calculus in their hearts: "We disdain those little calculations, are we proud? Please keep a low profile!" Even close relatives, please don't force all your values give others. In Fan Xian's words: "I'm not a table, I have feelings!" We may be close or related by blood, but we are two completely independent people. It is normal for us to have different feelings about one thing, please respect my persistence. In a family, it is so difficult to understand and accept differences, which may be the value of a diverse and inclusive culture. I can't kill myself because of your ''criticism, persuasion, good intentions'', because that is deceiving myself, I will attack inward until depression. The elders who obliterated the child's heart did not convey love, and the obliterated children only had hatred in their hearts. look up, the sky lies open. Call for respect, call for tolerance, call for love.
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