You will leave in three days,
We spent the whole night talking.
Daughter - Eva
Do your mother's duty
hatred of mother worship and inferiority
Say it while you're drunk, and explain it to me when you're sober. I'll be like before, be silent and try to understand you
Mother - Charlotte
The light cannot be concealed, and it is no longer resistant to mediocrity, but it is more self-conscious and relatively irresponsible. Watching a movie should not open a barrage, most of the people above are not responsible for their mothers, but I feel that such a mother herself is actually not ready to be a person who can accept her own children, and she is not even able to take care of her own life. Very good control, unfortunately have children, but I want to live a happy life more than a broken family. It wasn't all her fault for causing this.
It's not anyone's fault.
Family has too much influence on a person. Eva grew up under the shadow of her mother and began to be picky about herself during her growing period. In the family relationship where the mother has been absent for a long time, the daughter, who was originally timid and weak in character, gradually formed a pleasing personality, hiding her unspeakable hatred, which was resolved in her dreams.
She finally picked up her mother, and Eva was really happy when she met her. Maybe in seven years, she saw her mother who she admired and feared again, and she hugged her tightly. And being too polite makes people feel that the mother-daughter relationship will not be as good as it seems.
And Charlotte, who got out of the car, began to ramble about the things in the past few years, all of which were her own affairs, and did not pay any more attention to her daughter.
Finally one day, I found a time to sit down with my mother and start the topic carefully and slowly,
In that nearly 20-minute movie-long quarrel, the mother who originally said that she had moved in could no longer hide her guilt and fear of abandoning her little daughter, and wanted to leave here immediately.
For things, in addition to everyone's personal understanding, in fact, they can remember that there are more bad episodes than good ones.
The early or hidden stage of each quarrel is the foreshadowing of too many previous efforts to cover up. We always think that calm is happiness. In fact, after accommodating each other for a long time and suppressing our own personality, the roaring or inability to cry in the explosive stage is the turning point of the old stage and the beginning of a new relationship.
Then, after a lot of retaliatory lines, we realized that the moment just now was all self-thinking, others would not feel it at all, and the outburst of emotions would come to an abrupt end with this disappointment, silently, maybe Never mention it again.
Everything is in the name of love, including how to adjust the tone of voice, what kind of behavior to do, obviously there is still confusion and doubts, but in the name of the mother, forcing the daughter to inherit the grievances of the mother.
All the deepest hurts come from the closest people. After talking or repenting, what should be is still there.
Charlotte asks: Eva, do you like me? Eva replied: You are my mother.
Eva asked: Do you like me?
Charlotte: But I love you.
Eva's heart is out of obligation to look at Charlotte's role as a mother, and Charlotte uses the love she thinks to support all the time she spends with her daughter.
The characteristics of myself are more and more seen through by myself, which is the combination of mother and father's personalities. I can even quickly find out the source of all these affective emotions while being angry and annoyed, and which character flaws the emotions express are inherited.
I don't know why, but the good ones are always forgotten, and the bad ones are only lucid.
Most of the time, the two sides have a clear division of labor and play the characteristic of positioning roles. For example, the mother's overly enthusiastic concern and admonition, the father's slightly famous education and guidance. In the eyes of outsiders, it is indeed a happy and successful family. And when there is even a small conflict within us, the evils are amplified indefinitely. As children, we can see the source of both parties at a glance, and we also feel the infinite abyss after seeing our own problems. Because no matter how hard they try to improve themselves in this life, if they don't accept it, all their efforts will come to nothing.
The way I communicated with my parents in the past two years has gradually calmed down. Maybe they are willing to listen to some of my suggestions. When I enlightened my mother, I said that the final conclusion of this matter may not be 100% satisfied by the three of us, and may even give up the opinion of one party, but when the stone finally hits the ground, it must be the result of our three-party discussion, even if the individual is only 100% Thirty out of 30 satisfaction levels, adding up to far more than half. When I said this, I thought, why would I say this? Do you even doubt that you can really accept the final outcome?
In the film, her husband Victor said: We live a peaceful and beautiful life here. One of my favorites from her first book reads: "One has to learn how to live, and I practice it every day. My biggest obstacle is that I don't know who I am, I'm groping in the dark. If only someone could love If I am real, maybe I will be able to understand myself, but the chances of that happening are pretty slim."
Even if only once, if someone can love a person wholeheartedly, I mean if that person can feel the happiness of being loved, and that kind of continuous feeling.
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