This is a movie I watched in a film and television criticism class ten years ago. I was unprepared at that time. The lines of this movie and the relationship between mother and daughter really gave me a big impact. The teacher's precise analysis even made me gasp for a long time. The breath eased. Watched it again today. I'll make up for it later. I think Mother's Day can organize a movie viewing event. In addition to "The Fetters of Mother's Love", you can also watch this movie together.
Daughter Eva deserves to be a writer, she can describe her heart so accurately when they quarrel
1. When quarreling, Eva said:
You turned all your repressed energy onto me and never asked me what I thought.
You are desperately trying to make up for the neglect you have given me in the past, and I want to protect myself, but I have no chance.
You speak your thoughtfulness, in a tone of concern, no detail can escape your loving energy.
I have a hunchback. When you practice gymnastics, let me practice together. If you think my hair is too long, you cut it short, so ugly.
And then you think my teeth are crooked, so I have braces and I look like a monster.
You said I couldn't walk around in trousers, so you got someone to make a dress and never asked me what I thought.
I dare not say no, because I am afraid you will be unhappy, the book you brought me I can't read, I read and read, and then I have to discuss it with you.
You go on talking and my mind goes blank I'm scared you'll find me stupid but there are things I understand
Really I'm not going to be loved or accepted in the slightest. You're obsessed, and I'm getting more and more scared, more and more lost
I remember what you want me to say, imitate your gestures, and even when I'm alone, I dare not be myself.
Because I hate things that belong to me, it's horrible, Mom. I still shudder thinking about those years. Terrible.
I didn't realize that I hated you because I firmly believed that we loved each other and I couldn't hate you, so my hatred turned into stupid fear.
... your heart is closed and you always think about things from your own perspective. I love you, but you think I'm nasty, stupid, and a failure. You attack everything that is sensitive and fragile, and you kill anything that is alive.
When you talk about my hatred, your hatred is no less than mine. I was obedient and cute when I was a kid, and you bound me because you wanted my love as much as you wanted the love of all other people. I am at your mercy, all in the name of love.
What a terrifying combination of emotional confusion and destruction for mother and daughter. Everything is possible, and everything is under the guise of love and care.
The mother's injury should be passed on to the daughter, the mother's failure should be compensated by the daughter, the mother's troubles are the daughter's troubles, just like the umbilical cord has never been cut, mother, is that so?
Is the daughter's misfortune the mother's victory? Mom, is my grief your secret happiness?
2. Mom: I see that you love me, and I love you too, but I am afraid of your request.
Daughter: I never asked
Mom: I thought you had, I don't want to be your mother, I think you know I'm as helpless as you are
Daughter: Do you have any evidence to refute it? Look at me, Mom, look at Helena, there is nothing wrong, there is only one truth and one lie, and there can be no forgiveness.
...you wish there were exceptions to you, and you always have to compromise on life, but one day you'll know it's all your wishful thinking and you'll find you're guilty, like everyone else.
Mom: What sin, dear Eva, can't you forgive me for all the mistakes I've made? I will try to make up for it. You have to teach me, we have to talk to each other, but help me, I can't be here anymore. Your hatred is so deep, I never realized, I've always been selfish and childish, can't you hold me? At least touch me and help me. "
3. Later, the mother left
Daughter's letter to her mother: Dear mother, I found that I wrongly blamed you. I only need you, but I don't give any emotion. I torture you with old hatred that is no longer true. I want to ask for your forgiveness.
After all, there is tolerance in the world, I mean, there are many opportunities to care for each other, help each other, express love, I will never let you disappear from my life again, I will persevere, I will not give up. Even if it's too late. I don't think it's too late, it certainly won't be too late.
On the other side of the camera is the mother who has read the letter, as if letting go of the depression and guilt in her heart and getting relief.
Zhang Ailing also stopped communicating with her mother later, of course she was a more determined person. But in the book "How Do You Measure Your Life", it is also said that in fact, a person's family is also very important, even comparable to a person's career. Because the people closest to you also affect your happiness. And those who always put their family behind their career, I don't know if they will regret it in the end. The movie gave a warm ending. It is also a necessary process for the daughter to face her hatred and then reflect on her understanding of her mother. Fortunately, everything can be made up, and I hope everything can be made up. After all, we are all growing. A mother was once a daughter, and every adult was once a child.
If I don’t read much, I can only write so much. If I read more books in the future, maybe the mother-daughter relationship can be discussed more.
View more about Autumn Sonata reviews
