Loving yourself is the most important thing

Crawford 2022-04-22 07:01:43

Swiping Weibo today and seeing Bonnie recommending this movie, I finished watching it in one go at night. Movies are really good things. It didn't take long for me to devote myself to it, to mobilize all my emotions and senses, and to cry unrestrainedly after the joys and sorrows.

As far as the plot is concerned, this movie really has no turbulence, it is a very ordinary Indian family life story. The housewife, Shahi, is a good dessert maker and good at housekeeping, keeping the family's daily life in good order. Her biggest trouble is that she doesn't speak English. Because she doesn't know English, her daughter never lets her go to parent-teacher conferences; she is also confined to the family's small world and has never traveled far.

Because of her sister's invitation, Shahi came to New York alone to help manage the wedding. She felt embarrassed from getting a visa, getting on a plane, and landing. Because she does not speak English, she is afraid to communicate with strangers and becomes more and more sensitive. When she was reprimanded by the waiter for ordering food at the cafe, she knocked over the plates of other customers in a panic.

The whole cafe was talking about her, look, this stupid woman.

Shahi broke down and burst into tears. This made her realize that she had to work hard to learn English. By chance, she came to a four-week crash course to learn English.

No one speaks English. French chefs, Asian barbers, Mexican babysitters, Pakistani taxi drivers... Some are even worse than Shahi. No one has to laugh at anyone. Shahi loves and marvels that people call her an "entrepreneur". Before that, no matter how the neighbors praised the delicious Dura Balls she made, when she returned home, her husband still felt that it was just a kind of trouble he brought for himself.

The language class opened up a new world for Shahi. She was cheerful and loved to laugh. She shared the food she made with her classmates, watched movies with them, and walked the streets of New York together.

What touched me the most was at the wedding scene at the end of the movie. Because Saxi had to take care of the children and was unable to take the language class exam, the caring niece Mila invited her classmates to the wedding scene. At the wedding, Shahi delivered a speech in English, which is still far from standard and incoherent. She told the newlyweds that marriage is equality and respect, and they should respect each other and consider each other. Learn to love and help yourself even when friction and problems arise. Because no one can be completely depended on except yourself. She also used a word specially asked for her niece, judgemental. Don't be assertive.

Don't judge her dessert business arbitrarily, that she's not a good mother, or that she doesn't care about her children.

Put yourself in the other person's shoes.

Love yourself even if no one loves you.

This is the most simple and meaningful life creed. Learning English is just a way to re-understand yourself and the world. Because of learning English, we love our work more, and we are more cheerful and active. That's enough.

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English Vinglish quotes

  • Yu Son: You hear? Sir David and boyfriend break up! Sir David very sad.

    Eva: I know.

    Salman Khan: Nothing sad about gay. People breaking up... drop one and pick another!

    Shashi Godbole: Salman... don't say that. No making fun... We are all different from each other. For you... David Sir may not be 'normal'... For David Sir... you may not be 'normal'... but feelings are all the same... and pain is pain...

  • Shashi Godbole: When you don't like yourself... you tend to dislike everything connected to you. New things seem to be more attractive. When you learn to love yourself... then the same old life... starts looking new... starts looking nice. Thank you... for teaching me... how to love myself! Thank you for making me... feel good about myself. Thank you so much!