1. What did you see in the movie?
In the movie, I saw a different life as a "pig". The pig named "Wilbur" has gained many friends by virtue of his kindness and humility. With the help of his friends and the little pig's own efforts, he finally broke the usual life journey that fate has bestowed on the pig. (Born on a spring day, which is supposed to symbolize vigor, but it is difficult to survive Christmas), the reason why it can achieve such a journey is precisely because of the friend spider "Sherlock's Web".
In the movie, I also saw the innocence of children. The heroine in the movie saved the little pig from her father from the beginning. She was unwilling to "survival of the fittest" and wanted to give the little pig a chance. , She is a noble person in Xiaozhu's life, and Xiaozhu did not let her down. Although it brought her strange eyes from classmates and teachers for bringing pet pigs in class, it also brought her a different kind of honor. , but also brought the contact and love with the boy who had a crush on him when he was a teenager. It also reminds me of my "childhood". When I was a child, I was like the heroine in the movie, full of childlike interest, with the innocent justice and kindness of a child, and the friendship with many childhood partners has continued to this day, without the interest disputes in the real society. , pure and natural.
In the movie, I also saw that ordinary people also have extraordinary feelings. The little pig was "gifted" by the "God" and wrote unusual things on the spider web. In the end, he won the prize and became a famous pig, making the people in the town feel that the place they live in is special, and they seem to be gifted by God, and the farmer has also changed. In the past, I used to eat pigs and only regarded farm animals as livestock. I treated the farm animals as beings like myself, and treated each other sincerely.
The final ending is also very beautiful. Although the spider "Sherlock" left this world, her children survived with the help of pigs and mice, continued her life, and had three daughters who became piglets again. Good friends, happy farm life begins again!
2. How did you break the ice and start communicating in an unfamiliar environment?
In an unfamiliar environment, because of my reserved and reserved personality, it is generally difficult for me to take the initiative to speak, especially in very formal occasions. In a general unfamiliar environment, but most of them are college students and peers, I will also communicate with others about topics of mutual concern to me and others, talk about past experiences and interesting things together, and deepen my understanding of each other. While understanding each other, you can also absorb the life experience of others, increase your own knowledge, accept yourself in the connection with others, and achieve effective communication.
In fact, in life, you will also meet some people who you often meet but don't know. Sometimes, you plan to make friends with each other. Just like being the first person to break the deadlock in an unfamiliar environment, to confidently communicate with each other proactively is an accumulation of courage for yourself and a good communication opportunity for the other party. Like-minded friends. So, positive psychology teaches us to be proactive in doing this.
Just like when Little Pig came to the farm for the first time, although he encountered some different voices, his initiative, optimism and positivity made the animals on the farm quickly accept him and established a deep friendship with him. . People should do this in unfamiliar environments, because even if your initiative and positivity seem to be ineffective, people today will at most give you titles such as "Hanhan", "Really stupid duck" and so on. It's still you, what you show is simplicity and what life should be like. So, what to be afraid of, positive psychology teaches us to look at problems from a different perspective, to live proactively, and to deal with all the problems of embarrassment, embarrassment, disharmony, etc.
3. What do you value most in interpersonal communication?
In interpersonal communication, what I value most is the quality and personality of the other party, which is far more important than the other party's social status, wealth, reputation, etc., because the inner quality is the most lasting and most attractive. Just like the little pig in the film, his kindness, sincerity, and sincere treatment and gratitude to friends have attracted many farm animals to make friends with him. His sincere praise to spiders and invitation to make friends , what you get is a "Charlotte's Web" that you can make up at the expense of yourself. To get such a friend, you need to become such a person first. To meet someone who truly treats you, you must first be a kind-hearted person. In the past few years, I have met too many people during my student days, but there are always some people who left a deep impression on me and became my best friends. The reason is that it is very comfortable to get along with these people. There was one in junior high school, one in high school, and one in college now. I hope to meet more such people in the future, and meet a confidant in life.
Teacher Chen Guo of Fudan University once said: "When you are really with a good friend, you will find that he is like air. He exists, but he does not interfere with you. He is the kind of person you don't always think about. But there are people everywhere. This is the reason why you don't need to contact many times. Because you don't think about it and you can't forget it, why do you need to keep in touch. To make a real good friend, you need to have a real confidant in your life, and there must be someone who treats you as a confidant , If you want to really understand this person, you must really understand him. What does it mean to really understand him? You have to see his best side, and at the same time you have to see his worst side, you have to see the strongest He, you have to see the weakest of him, you have to understand him like an angel, you have to understand him like a devil. Because this is an idea of mine. If you can't accept his devil, you are not qualified to take his Angel. A true best friend is when he has seen your worst, and he is still willing to hug you. He has seen your weakest, and he is still willing to protect you. He knows how selfish you can be, but he is still willing I understand you and love you." Mountains and rivers are not important, but meeting a confidant, how can you have such a confidant? This is what I just said, you must first be the person you want to meet. If you bloom, butterflies will come spontaneously. I think what Teacher Tu Youyou said is very enlightening, "Don't chase a horse, use your time chasing a horse. Plant grass, and when the spring flowers bloom, you will have a group of horses for you to choose; don’t try to curry favor with one person, use the time without friends to improve your ability, and when the time is right, there will be a group of horses. Friends walk with you. Friends made with human affection are only temporary, and friends attracted by personality are long-term. Therefore, enriching yourself is more powerful than pleasing others." This is how interpersonal communication is, we must look forward positively, Looking forward, you can see your future, and you can see your confidant.
4. What is the meaning of life you see from the movie? How to cherish life?
Along the way, my life has to move forward like a pig, and I have met many noble people in my life. Life seems to be going uphill all the time. Although I stumbled, I am grateful to the people I have met in my life. Thanks to you, I have become the me I am today, and I am working hard towards the me and a better me in your mind. . No matter what the situation is, we must live out the meaning of life. Confucius said, "If you don't know your destiny, you can't be a gentleman." Don't entrust your life to things that you shouldn't take care of. Knowing that you have destiny, you should not complain, but use the resources that destiny has given you. 100% of the efforts that you can master to leverage the impermanence of the changing fate, "do your best and obey the destiny", and actively live in the world, because you are not only living for yourself, you are born with a mission, but also for many people. Live, know how to repay, repay the kindness of heaven and earth, the kindness of parenting, the kindness of good teachers, the kindness of nobles, the kindness of wise guidance, the kindness of emergency rescue, the kindness of green leaves, the kindness of husband and wife, the kindness of brothers and sisters The kindness and the kindness of confidants, being a person who "makes others and themselves better", and enjoy the struggle life heartily and vividly!
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