As the title Bad Star says, Bob is an unfortunate person.
When I was a child, I had the best relationship with my mother, but I saw my mother commit suicide with my own eyes, and I felt the pain of separation from mother and son at my mother's funeral before I was sensible.
His father did not spend time with him. He called his father an unpredictable person. It can be seen that he is in awe and resentment towards his father, and the father and son are not very close.
The only younger brother, who competed with him since childhood, from robbing him of toys to becoming his heir, also said in court that he hired security to protect him from his attacks. On the phone, he told his second wife that he must never let his younger brother get a lawyer for him. This would send him to jail and lose the family trust fund. He did not trust his younger brother.
He had no friends, and he was attracted to his first wife's bubbly outgoing nature. He was insecure, he controlled his wife's behavior and monitored her whereabouts. Coupled with differences in origin and personality, the two are constantly at odds. When the first wife disappeared, all her family and friends believed that Bob had killed her.
The second wife, a real estate woman, runs his business for Bob. In the interview, the second wife could not even remember their wedding anniversary for a while.
The best friend was also shot and everyone suspects that he killed the friend because he was afraid his secrets would be leaked.
When he was over seventy years old, he signed an agreement with the family and took the money to cut off the relationship. He had nothing but money.
These unfortunate events happen to the same person one after the other, creating a lonely, insecure, indifferent Bob.
And Bob's desire for intimacy contrasts sharply with his indifferent face.
Recalling his life with his mother, his happiness is beyond words; recalling those painful memories of leaving his mother, he revealed a deep sense of helplessness and insecurity.
In middle age, he said he didn't want to be Robert Durst anymore, resented his identity and his unfortunate life. Recalling his wife, he said that if she married an ordinary person, she should now be living a happy life. He kept pictures of happy moments with his first wife, even carrying them on his incognito escape. I think he loved his first wife from the bottom of his heart, but he never knew how to love and be loved.
In the interview, he held a photo of him and his best friend and said, I have always wanted this photo, can you please give it to me? At the end of the interview, Bob was left speechless when asked, and remembered to pick up the photo and take it with him when he left.
Mother, wife and best friend, these are all warm moments in Bob's life, the spiritual sustenance left by his old age in an isolated environment.
The truth about the death of his wife and best friend is unknown to the audience. If it wasn't for what he did, then he not only suffered the pain of losing his love, but also bore the unwarranted accusations of the world, and lived a life that was exposed and transparent. If he personally hurt the most important person in his life, then this memory may be the hell he escaped from for him.
At the beginning of human beings, is nature inherently good or inherently evil? In fact, the good in human nature also needs to be learned. Our character is not something we are born with. The family of origin is where we grow up and where we are taught to love and be loved. In life, we can often see people from unfortunate families of origin. Even if they obtain a high level of education, they still leave some shadows in their characters, just like planting a bomb in their life. And if life triggers the bomb, unfortunate things will happen. Watching it, especially seeing Bob in court, kept me thinking about the murders in college a few years ago. It's not that the tragedy is inevitable, let alone that it deserves forgiveness.
As I write this, I have to admit that I have a psychological inadequacy to provide solutions for those who were not loved enough in their families of origin as children. But I still think that learning to love and be loved is the foundation of a lifetime of happiness. Although everyone's initial endowment in life is different, and the luck that fate brings to each person is also more or less, but more importantly, our utility function for measuring happiness is different. Bob has wealth that can't be spent in a lifetime, but he is drifting away from happiness. A poor man shares a steamed bun with a loved one, and maybe the happiness he feels is beyond Bob's imagination. Learn to perceive love, learn to express love in the right way, and hope that everyone can finally find happiness in life and spend a lifetime with love.
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