Growing up is not easy, and the relationship between people is even more difficult.

Newell 2022-04-20 09:02:10

I always like these kinds of movies. Feminism, the rebellion of adolescence, these are just appearances. Perhaps, hidden beneath the surface is everyone's search for self-definition. Growing up is not easy, and adulthood is not the transformation of that segment of adolescence. Some people, for a lifetime, try to test the boundaries of their own world, to find their own characteristics that distinguish them from others. Inevitably, it will be out of tune with the settings and conventions of this world. It's just that sometimes, if you use too much force, you will end up with injuries all over the body, just like Abbie. Maybe after a lifetime, you find that you are not someone, just a nobody (that's for sure), but what does it matter? Life is all about experience, what we seek is not the so-called meaning, but the "search" is the meaning itself. Growing up is not easy, and every relationship between people is even more difficult, even the most stable mother-child relationship of all relationships. There are far more commonalities between people than those characteristics, but there is an invisible boundary between people. Exploring that little bit of one's own characteristics is exhausting, let alone exploring others. Going out of your way to find others, even at the risk of hurting each other at times, may be because we are inherently lonely, so we cherish and strive to build each relationship. Although, we are doomed to be alone. Growing up is not easy, and the fate and relationship between people is even more difficult.

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  • Jamie: I thought that was just the beginning of a new relationship with her, where she'd really tell me stuff. But maybe it was never really like that again. Maybe that was it.

    Dorothea: In March of 1999, I'll start to feel tired and confused. When I finally go to the doctor, he will say that the cancer in my lungs had already travelled to my breast and brain. I'll try to teach Jamie what to do with my stocks, but my instructions will be impossible to understand.

    Julie: Abbie will take me to Planned Parenthood. And I will go on the pill. I will go to NYU and lose touch with Jamie and Dorothea, and I will stop talking to my mom, I will fall in love with Nicholas, we will move to Paris, and choose not to have children.

    Abbie: I will stay in Santa Barbara. In just two years, I'll marry Dave. A month after I get married Carlotta will die. A week later, Max will die too. I will work out of my garage and show in local galleries. Against my doctor's advice, I will get pregnant, and by the time I'm thirty I'll have two boys.

    William: I'll live with Dorothea for another year. Then I'll open a pottery store in Sedona Arizona. I will marry Laurie, a singer-songwriter. We'll get divorced in a year. Then I'll meet Sandy, we will marry, and I will continue to do my pottery.

    Jamie: My mom will meet Jim in 1983, they'll be a couple until she dies. On her birthday each year, he will buy her a trip on a biplane. Years after she's gone I'll finally get married and have a son. I'll try to explain to him what his grandmother was like - but it will be impossible.

  • Jamie: [to his mom] You know, when the firemen come... people don't usually invite them for dinner.