Knowing the laws of female orgasm, knowing how to smoke to make a manly gesture, and caring about whether the mother is happy, is such a requirement too much for a boy? Or the wishful thinking of feminists? This movie tells you that a boy who grows up among women is not necessarily a sissy. As long as you nurture him with music, moderate alcohol and sexual knowledge, the confused boy in adolescence will one day become a responsible literary gay.
The title of the movie is obvious to anyone with a discerning eye, and it is clearly a feminist theme, not new. You know, no matter whether it is novels or movies, it is impossible to express women without the perspective of men. Women in different poses and expressions, so-called each has different eyes, and if you want to express different female images objectively and fairly, it seems that you have to invite an equal number of men to achieve it. After all, we have seen a lot of stories about countless women revolving around a man. It is called Gongdou. It is barely a female theme, but it can never be called feminism.
When it comes to feminism, it is nothing more than equal rights, political participation, I can harass you but not harassment, what else is there to say? Pat the pants are loose. And the strange thing about this piece of bones is that there is almost no love between men and women, and there is no rise to the top. Everything revolves around the rivalry between three "twentieth century women" and one "twentieth century boy"; even better Boys are not in a weak position, and women are not high-minded wise men. They have all experienced pain and struggled with love, but each of them affects the boy to varying degrees, and they also see in him that they can't ask for it. side.
The theme of this film is huge. It is said that how many samples can be found to represent a century, but it is also wonderful here, because the only representative is the image of the mother, and the other two female characters (Abby and Julie) are more. It is a reference to reflect the persistence and belief of the lost "twentieth century" in my mother. The two male judges in the film: one is an uncle who is neither handsome nor rich, and the other is a young man who has nowhere to put his youth. According to the routine, it must be a pair of permutations and combinations that can be slapped once, and then light an after-the-fact cigarette, and see you from now on. However, the director who was born in the MV did not take the usual path, and he had to make an experimental documentary about the growth and education of boys.
The heroine is Sao Nian's mother, who is divorced and only conceived of Sao Nian at the age of 40. The Chinese people say that if you are old enough to have a child, you will not be spoiled. The heroine does practice this principle. If her son wants to skip class, she writes a fake note for the reason; when her son fails to chase the girl, she teaches him that "heartbreak is the best way to understand the world". Born in 1924, grew up during the Great Depression, and the war ended before graduating from flight school. In the words of their son, people of their generation do not admit that their fate is bad.
In fact, people who come from a difficult life believe that there are solutions to all problems. It's not how open and cool Mom is, but that's how she solves the problem. Just like the fathers who were born in China during the three years of natural disasters in the 1960s, only those who have suffered from hunger know that eating is to fill their stomachs, without counting calories or running on a treadmill for a long time. Times have changed, and the troubles of children seem to be bigger than the sky, but in the eyes of their mothers, they are just petty troubles. Such a seemingly omnipotent mother couldn't understand why her son would listen to such an "unpleasant" concert with Abby, and she was completely helpless after her son played the death game, so he could only find Abby and Julie. , I hope they can "help" their son. Therefore, education issues are not divided between Chinese and foreign countries. The faster the development of the times, the less parents can keep up with their children. Do you want to take care? The child's reaction is, you don't care.
Various trends of thought in the United States in the 1980s came flooding in, impacting the younger generation. They have no worries about food and clothing and live in a prosperous society, but they are spiritually empty and have lost the meaning of life. Because of the war, there will be John Lennon "to make love, not to fight"; because of television, there will be the spiritual infection of the media on people (the pictures that appear on the TV screen are quite confusing, giving people a sense of what is happening in the moment. The sense of reality is actually full of falsehoods and performances; Kennedy's TV speeches are rehearsed dozens of times in advance, and there are famous conspiracy theories about whether overseas wars really exist); because of AIDS, homophobia began. In the torrent of the times, personal problems seem trivial. What troubles Sao Nian is that the girl he loves doesn't want to sleep with him, and whether his mother is happy after being divorced for many years. The female protagonist's trouble is whether she can meet someone who is destined to spend the rest of her life together.
In contrast to the heroine, the female tenant Abby (the red-haired Greta Gerwig is amazing) is a modern woman who studied art in New York. She listens to punk music, leads Sao Nian to nightclubs to teach him how to flirt, and The male tenant who the female protagonist likes goes to bed. The interesting thing is that the male tenant must cosplay with her to have a relationship. Maybe this is the last insistence of the female artist. She had also indulged and had cancer. In the film, an understatement said, "Her friends couldn't accept the fact that she was sick. She had to go back to her hometown to rely on her mother." The patents of young people who have the capital to squander their bodies, when you are old, sick, and unable to play, all this will become a bubble. But the lovely thing about Abby is that she believes in "youth without regrets". She encouraged Sao Nian to go out of her hometown. If you want to live an ideal life, go to see the big city, even if you have to come back to set up a stall in the end.
Abby once asked the heroine if it was difficult to raise a child. This is a pun, because Abby now knows that she may not be able to bear children, which means that she cannot raise a child in the true sense; and the heroine is faced with the problem of not knowing how to communicate with the child. For Sao Nian, Abby is a guide. She showed him "Our Body", "The Law of Orgasm", took him to music that "will make you a better person in the future", took pictures of him, and let him release his suppressed emotions. At the dinner table, Abby guides everyone to say "menstruation", which can be said to be the climax of the whole film.
Whether male or child, in her opinion, there is no age limit for issues between the sexes. It doesn't mean that boys do not have the intelligence and thinking to accept this knowledge when they are young. On the contrary, only when you understand sex will you understand what love is. She never stopped Sao Nian from chasing Julie, but she would also say to him, "It's a kind of 'disempowering' for you if she's in the same bed with you every night and doesn't have sex. change)". It can be said that the relationship between the sexes advocated by Abby is relatively healthy and equal. It is not that women dominate men and it is called equal rights, but that they have contacts with each other. If the two are in love, the occurrence of sexual relations is reasonable. If women have been using sex to blackmail or control men, they still see sex as a transaction between the sexes, an old-fashioned male-dominant thinking that if you want me not to give it, you will be hurt if you grab me.
Judging from Sao Nian's performance, Abby's intervention was successful. He will understand that the flaunting of how many girls "orgasm" he has experienced is just self-deception. Think about the conversations that once happened in the men's bathroom, and that's all there is to it. How many boys in middle school and high school go to have sex with girls just to talk to their brothers?
Sex education is not something that can be done by putting a film or opening a lecture. Often, the person concerned always has to pay the price of "blood" at various levels to truly mature. Sao Nian likes Julie, but doesn't force her to have a relationship with him. He and his friends fought over the "fake orgasm" problem, and the mother was puzzled. She felt that Abby's influence on her son was too advanced, and a fifteen-year-old should not know this. But my son's reaction was very indifferent, I want to be a good man who can satisfy women.
It can be said that the single-parent family made Sao Nian feel the unhappiness and dissatisfaction of her mother. He didn't want to repeat the same mistakes, he wanted to understand what women were thinking, what they wanted, how to make them happy. Julie taught him how to smoke cool, walk, and look masculine. He felt uncomfortable, didn't like smoking, and thought it would only give people cancer. But he learned from at least one woman what kind of man she was obsessed with. Abby has said that she knows how to attract all kinds of men, and keep them in a relationship with them and make them want to stop. From the mouths of young girls and young women, Sao Nian obtained a more complete view of the relationship between men and women in women's eyes, which made him think more deeply about understanding his mother, and re-examined his concept of love.
Sometimes we think about why foreigners have so many different aesthetics, while Chinese men have only liked one kind of woman for decades. She may be Liu Huifang, who is forbearing and virtuous, or a pure and lovely girl next door. The younger the better, the more beautiful the better, the more obedient the better. For a girl like Abby to have orgasms and menstruation at the dinner table, I am afraid that many straight men will be scared off. Perhaps it was the docile character cultivated by our single-ethnic culture, which made us have a misunderstanding that if I was not accepted, I would change myself, and hide my disposition and become gregarious. In the hundreds of years of social change, Westerners have formed a tradition of fighting for rights and interests from the minority to the majority. Especially in an immigrant country like the United States, every cultural form and every ethnic characteristic needs to be integrated with the entire social culture, so the social tolerance is getting higher and higher. Of course, the conflict will never disappear, but allowing such different voices to exist or even accept them calmly is a cultural atmosphere completely different from that of the Chinese dynasty.
In the last paragraph of the film, the director asked Sao Nian to show her mother's psychology through the words in the book. She is easy-going, intelligent and friendly, and even invites firefighters to the house for dinner; She can't go to bed with someone she doesn't love like Abby. She can't accept an unknown kiss from a man. She has a crush, but she inevitably feels cringed because of her age. When I was ten years old, I was more aware of human feelings, and I also thought that I was more attractive than my ex-husband when I took off my clothes, but I was outdated physically and psychologically, and I dared not express my feelings because it seemed to offend the other party." The problem is actually the projection of the heroine's problem, "always related to the mother", in fact, there is a certain reason. The mother is full of doubts about whether she can be happy again, and dares not take risks to try love again. In a subtle way, the son feels the unhappiness of his mother, which also affects his emotional development.
Music, social movements, alcohol and sex pervade the course of twentieth century history, and the pursuit of meaning and happiness in life is the same for individuals regardless of gender. Someone once told me that the more you know, the more reactionary you will become. You let a teenage child begin to know that he is after something illusory like "meaning in life", and he will not be happy. I think it doesn't matter whether it is sooner or later, meaning is just a relative concept, just like age, books may not answer the confusion, but at least provide a channel for relief. Whatever choice you make is fine. After all, under such a huge dimension of a century, all problems will sooner or later become a bubble in the tide of history. So Sao Nian, read books, listen to songs, and pretend to be coercive with confidence, the world will eventually be the world of literary gays.
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