Recently, the most popular movie is the Indian film "Wrestling!" "Dad"!
The film portrays an unusual father who breaks through the traditional narrow thinking about the value of women, taps the wrestling talents of his two daughters, and trains them into world-class wrestling champions, freeing them from the fact that most Indian women can only rely on their husbands. Survive, the fate of wasting years in pots and pans.
"Wrestle! dad"
If this father follows the rules and only teaches his daughters how to do housework and please men, then it will be impossible for them to realize their self-worth in their lifetime and become an independent and confident woman.
The influence of the elders’ educational philosophy and life values on the children is evident.
Recently, the "Genius Girl" starring Captain America explored the same problem from a different perspective.
Mary's mother was a young girl with great mathematical talent. She achieved high achievements at a young age and had a bright future. However, she had an unhappy life, suffered from severe depression, and eventually committed suicide. Before she died, she Entrust Mary to his brother Frank, and ask him to let his daughter lead an ordinary life, to have friends, play, and have fun...
Who can imagine that this eye-catching genius wants to be ordinary.
Mary inherited her mother's talents and showed extraordinary mathematics abilities when she was only seven years old, when her grandmother Evelyn appeared.
Evelyn has a strong desire for control. She regards her daughter (Mary's mother) as a machine to realize her unfulfilled dreams and interferes in all aspects of her life, from ordinary social to personal feelings, just to better realize her plan. In this process, she never considered her daughter's feelings, let alone respected her as an independent individual.
She deprived her daughter of the right to have a normal life, and made her daughter a monster whose life was blank except for mathematics. She didn't even know how to communicate normally, which directly caused her daughter's suicide.
Evelyn
In Evelyn's body, what is shown is a kind of wrong educational concept-don't need to take into account the children's feelings, as long as they manage their studies well, it also reflects a kind of wrong life values-the most important thing in life is to achieve career success .
The famous psychologist Wu Zhihong once wrote in "Wake up!" The child’s life is hanging by a thread, but you still ask him when he will go to school.” Two high-achieving students are under the pressure of their parents and their extreme pursuit of school, which finally led to the tragedies of schizophrenia and suicide respectively. Respect children’s feelings is more important than anything else."
Education is never the whole of education. Education is a comprehensive caring complex. Life is the same. In addition to career, we also need affection, friendship, and love. We need to be touched by beautiful moments. Fortunately, the satisfaction afterwards... In the building of life, these are as important as career and indispensable.
Mary’s mother, who expressed her desire for the ordinary before her death, is actually a yearning for a complete life. A life such as "to have friends, play, and be happy" appears to be ordinary because it is owned by most people. Unsurprising, but for every life body that is only this once, it is a precious experience. A life without these experiences is incomplete and will not be happy.
Mary's mother wants Mary to be ordinary, and the essence is to wish her happiness.
Frank
Faced with Mary’s outstanding talent, Evelyn’s terrible dream-making education plan was brewing around the corner. Frank, who had long been disgusted with his mother’s way of education, was stimulated by the death of his sister and driven by his dying entrusted responsibilities. Compete with her mother for custody of Mary.
In the court, there was a fierce debate about who is the better guardian, the essence of which is actually a game between two educational concepts and two life values.
Although the film criticized Evelyn's approach, it still affirmed the importance of studies and careers, and merely denied the extreme thinking that studies equal education and career equals life. In the end, Mary started a special course for genius under the supervision of Frank, which not only ensured the development of talents and academic progress, but also did not lose the childhood that children should enjoy.
Talent is a gift from God. It should serve your life and become a part of your splendid life, instead of letting you succumb to it and lose all the joys of life and become your nightmare.
Frank told her mother Evelyn that her sister had already succeeded in research, but she urged that the results must be released after Evelyn's death. This order contained deep resentment. She didn’t want her mother to think that her way of education had won, and Evelyn In crying, I realized that I had lost my daughter long before her death.
This is a story about how to educate geniuses, but it has universal meaning from educational philosophy to life values.
Personally think that despite the "wrestling!" "Dad" has received unanimous praise in China, but China needs films like "Genius Girl" more.
The status of women in India is generally low. This film promotes that women can also have their own careers. Obviously, it has great significance for Indian society. However, in China, the status of women has been greatly improved. With education, the employment rate of women is also very high. Most families train girls and boys equally, so the significance of this film to Chinese society is relatively small.
"Wrestle! dad"
At the same time, Chinese parents like Evelyn in "Genius Girl" are blooming everywhere, especially after the generation born in the 1980s began to be parents, it has become more and more fierce. The greatly increased income and the rapid development of society have made the young Parents can get more educational resources, so many children start to move between various classes and cram schools. An ordinary childhood has become a luxury.
Children participating in Mathematical Olympiad training
The lack of childhood makes children not happy, and parents’ full control of their children’s lives also makes children lose the opportunity to think independently and choose freely, and it is difficult for them to truly grow up. No wonder some people say that China is a giant baby country because it is admiring it. In patriarchal China, the mental maturity of most Chinese people is far behind the physical maturity.
As a result, you will see Ma Baonan who has trouble with his mother, and a female doctor who needs his mother to accompany him on a blind date. Many Chinese people have won their studies and careers under this education model, but lost their entire lives.
This story that took place in the United States has hit the education problems in Chinese society in a down-to-earth manner.
If the child can't even reach the ordinary standard, how can he expect him to become extraordinary? Therefore, for those parents who hope that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes, it is time to listen more to their children's feelings, respect their choices, and guide their children to a full range of healthy development, to have a normal life, and to motivate them with a definite goal. It’s not too late to achieve brilliant potentials.
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