First of all, I admit that my purpose of watching the movie is not pure. I was attracted by the American team. I was attracted by the long eyelashes of the heroine. During the watching process, I also took several screenshots and sent it to my friends. I kept feeling: If this is my daughter No matter what she asked, I would not have the strength to say NO. The picture below has the truth:
Secondly, the whole movie actually discusses a very serious theme: what is right in the process of raising children?
1. What is the meaning of success?
In the movie, although the elder sister of the male protagonist Frank's Diane is a genius in mathematics, her life is not happy. Driven by his mother for "human progress relies on great discoveries", Dinae never went to high school, let alone participated in a prom (everyone familiar with American culture knows how important this prom is); never went to see one. Even if my father has a season ticket; he has not participated in the Boy Scouts; he doesn’t need to go swimming outside because he has one at home. Moreover, the mother felt all this for granted, she felt that her daughter didn't like those things, she didn't know how to love, even if her daughter Diane eloped with her neighbor when she was 17 years old, the mother didn't feel that she had done anything wrong. He even confidently said that his daughter thanked her for her intervention a year later.
Seeing this, it is easy to understand why a mathematics genius committed suicide when he was young, and hated his mother so much that even if he successfully proved Navier–Stokes existence, he would not let his mother know and let the world recognize her. Talent. She doesn't care whether her photos are on the wall, she doesn't care about the great progress of human beings, because she has never experienced the happiness of being a human being, or being deprived of the happiness of being a person because of the so-called success.
So, let's not consider the definition of success, first look at the meaning of success. Perhaps, without this mother, Diane would not have been known as a well-known mathematician at a young age, let alone achieve the success that the world thinks early. But what does this success mean to Diane? Just like Zweig said: " All gifts of fate have already been priced secretly. " For Diane, the price of her success is to live like a walking dead, live like a chess piece, and be slightly inferior to her mother. When the adult wanted, when she was pregnant with a child, she was ruthlessly abandoned by her mother. Therefore, the life of this successful girl was full of coldness and despair. After giving birth to the child, she took the initiative to leave this world without any nostalgia. She left the responsibility she should have, and the revenge she wanted to have, to her brother.
Suddenly it occurred to the reporter that he interviewed Wang Shuo and asked Wang Shuo if he spoiled his daughter and what hope he had for her. Wang Shuo replied: "I don't want her at all. I hope she will live a happy life, and I don't want her to succeed. I hate this word most. It’s my son. If you succeed, don’t you just make some money, do you know about it?” I believe Wang Shuo came from the bottom of his heart, but don’t forget, saying this requires confidence and requires “success”. If success is really as unbearable as Wang Shuo said, it won't make everyone so eager. People who have not been "successful" will not be immune to this "success".
2. Should parents help their children succeed?
To be honest, personally, I think success varies from person to person, because everyone has a different worldview. However, in the process of raising children, this is a headache, because their lives are controlled by you from the beginning, and they don't have the intelligence to distinguish and choose too many options. Maybe a decision can benefit the children for life, but maybe a decision also sends them on a path of no return. This responsibility is too great, even if it is my children, I cannot afford it.
Maybe Frank didn't know what was right, but he knew what was wrong. So he resolutely refused to let Mary go to a private school like Oaks, and let his mother take Mary away and become the next Diane. Frank didn’t want Mary to follow his sister’s old path anyway. He did his best to ensure that Mary could be like a child. To play, you can make friends. When the neighbor tried to prevent Frank from letting Mary go to school, his answer was: "She is going outside. She has no friends of the same age. She has no social skills and does not know how to become a child."
But is this really right? Because Mary is indeed a different child, she felt that the children around her were so stupid that she was unhappy in a stupid environment. Frank is actually raising Mary in another way as a mother. Although he tried his best, he couldn't even afford a piano that Mary wanted. He couldn't meet all of Mary's needs, and some of them were quite reasonable. So he had to give up custody and let Mary go to a good host family, thinking that these were the best for Mary. Fortunately, he later discovered that all these "better futures" were just lies. Even the kittens that Mary grew up with had to be deprived of them. He stepped on the old sister's old path again. Only then did he start to fight back and finally snatch Mary back. To yourself.
I like the final ending of the movie. Mary is sitting in school among a bunch of college students learning the mathematics that her intelligence should learn. After school, she plays games with children of the same age. However, in real life, there are too few opportunities to have both fish and bear's paws. But no matter what, I believe that if success and happiness are a topic that can only choose one or the other, I would rather my child choose happiness.
Finally put a few pictures with tears in the poke:
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