People who are in love, especially like to make trouble without reason, we usually call it "zuo". The heroine played by Jun Ji-hyun in the popular movie "My Sassy Girl" a few years ago can be said to be quite "contrived": playing the game of "passing the line" with her boyfriend in the subway, and beating him in public when he wins; On the road, let her boyfriend put on his high heels to chase him; he also asks him to put on his high school uniform to send roses to his work place; as long as he makes a phone call to his boyfriend, no matter where he is, his boyfriend must come...
Why do men and women in reality like to make requests that they may find confusing, and keep "making" them? The psychological appeal behind this is actually a lack of security. They use constant temptation to "test" how much their lover can give for themselves. That is, testing the boundaries to see where your partner's tolerance is.
The development of any interpersonal relationship has the potential to turn into a power relationship, which is common between parents and children. Parents feel that their children are born and raised by themselves, so they have the right to control their lives, especially before the children cannot achieve financial independence. This kind of relationship also occurs in love, because you think that person loves you, so you can be unbridled and willful, that is, make.
Then for this kind of work, why can people in love do what the other party wants?
Neuroscientists believe that love is a reaction to a bunch of chemicals (mainly dopamine and norepinephrine, etc.), and at best, a cocktail of hormones. By scanning the human brain, scientists found that romantic emotions and love are controlled by the most primitive areas of the human brain, close to the reflex areas that manage thirst and hunger. control.
American biological anthropologist Helen Fisher and a neuroscientist, Dr. Lucy Brown, conducted an experiment. They invited 37 subjects who were in different stages of love (some in love, some in love, etc.). The two scholars recorded the brain activity of these subjects, and then they compared this brain activity with people who are addicted to things (drugs, alcohol, mobile phone addicts, etc.) The brain activity of these addicts was so similar that they concluded that love was addictive.
Addicts may appear miserable to outsiders, but to addicts those external pains are insignificant to the pleasures of the addictive behavior. The same is true of love. The beautiful experience of love is far greater than the pain caused by love. That's why people who are hurt in love seem so "obsessed". For the sake of your lover, you can pick up the stars and the moon, you can bow down under the pomegranate skirt, you can surrender, and you can do anything.
After understanding this, we must understand that when we love someone, what we love is not abuse, but the love of the other person. In the process of love, "act" less, because these actions will drain each other's patience and trust. And addictive feelings will recede over time, so cherish the love you meet!
Postscript: Not a movie review, just record what I wrote (*/ω＼*)20200602
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