The problem to be solved is still unresolved, and the scar of the hole that does not heal is still new. Kym went back to her rehab and life went on, life went on, nothing changed.
Blood relationship is really a very strange thing, because we share some of the same genes, we forbear, keep silent, and even indulge those unbearable history of blood and tears, bad temper, strange character; we complain loudly, accuse, and even sometimes Fighting, but in the end reconciliation, even if it is polite on the surface. But family love is not only limited to blood, husband and wife, old friends, and even pets. Individuals who were originally strangers intersected for various reasons at a certain stage in their lives, so they had to endure each other's dark side, sometimes indulge in venting, sometimes They are silent, and sometimes they clearly love each other, but open all their thorns viciously, and prove the existence of love by hurting each other.
The so-called family, that's how stumbling and stumbling, forbearance and tolerance support each other. The hot tea in the cold night, the handkerchief in the summer, the singing in loneliness, the shoulders where we are tired; these are all, but they are not enough: grace and gratitude are the starting point of the family, but not the root of the family. Family is a tightly intertwined life, joy and sorrow connected by roots, sharing honor and shame, and bitterness. Blood ties can constitute this kind of great harmony; family love without blood ties can also constitute such great harmony. Home is an unforgettable memory and an integral part of "I". We tolerate struggles and compromises, including self-forgiveness. In the end, it is because this person and this memory cannot be missing in our life, and it is because of "I". It represents the whole of the memory fragments. If you want to be complete, you can only compromise, you can only forgive, and you must forgive.
The handling of the ending of the story: nothing was explained, the problem was not resolved, the contradiction still existed, but everything was quietly changing and developing. Seasons change, time passes, life remains, life continues.
Forgive me for not being able to live without you, for loving your body and soul, and for growing old with you.
The misunderstood situation where she yearned for a turn for the better, but was unable to do so, made the situation worse, pushed Kaim into a desperate situation in her heart. She was helpless, and even complained that it was her mother's negligence that caused her brother's death. In the dark night, she had the idea of ending her life with an accident.
For things that we find troublesome and cumbersome, we always find all kinds of excuses to make abandonment and escape become grand. Kymm went away, oh, I can't ask for it, even though I'd feel sorry for her bruised face when I came back the next day. In the end, Kymm finally left, oh, we embraced our hearts, really reluctant to part, but when I turned around, I smiled from the bottom of my heart and the sky was clarified. People are so complicated.
Emotion is not something that can be added or subtracted, but the water and oil of life and death.
This is how Kym loves her family, and her love is always apologetic. After her brother died, she could live with a sense of guilt, but she could never truly forgive herself. She was angry and even blamed and quarreled for not being a bridesmaid, being ignored, being alienated, but it was just a fear that her family would not love her because of the mistakes she had made. While she subconsciously believed that this was the most appropriate punishment for herself, she desperately resisted it. Therefore, she is very sensitive to other people's eyes, and always feels that others are judging her, but she is actually judging herself all the time. A person who feels that he is worthless most hates others' evaluation of him and always feels that others are evaluating her. What she is most afraid of and has no confidence to stop is the judgement of others, and the conclusion after the judgement: she is not worthy of being loved. She desperately wanted love but felt she didn't deserve it. She hurts and creates embarrassment, like a child who deliberately gets into trouble to get the attention of her parents. Her mouth is hard, but her eyes don't lie, always revealing loneliness and desperate thirst for her family's love.
Each of us has a mixture of love and hate for our loved ones, but love is always more than hate, because hate is also a wound caused by love. We hate just because hate keeps us at a safe distance from the person we love so that when he or she does something that hurts our heart, we are not so disappointed and sad. However, when the time comes, when the people we love most make mistakes, no matter how hard we try, they can leave scars that will never heal. So while we love them, we also store hatred in our hearts, and these hatreds will burst into quarrels when the fuse is ignited. But noisy, We love each other still. The weight of this still is so heavy that most people in this world will not be too lonely.
If it wasn't for love, they wouldn't have been hurt so deeply, or even harbored hatred. But if it wasn't for love, they wouldn't forgive and wouldn't let this "still love" happen.
Love hurts yet love heals
The whole film is a hug between relatives, but it is far away from the hearts of relatives; both sides want to release their past suspicions with desperate emotions, but they can't even face the past; It feels like a helpless snuggle between two empty-hearted addicts.
She struggled to save lives that she couldn't save at all, but she was bruised all over by the feelings she valued most.
After the wedding, the moment the mother left early, the end was already doomed. If the wound is not blocked, it will disappear. The elder sister wants to hug the mother and the younger sister. The hugs and tears of the three people who are endlessly entangled in their hearts are very real at this moment. But even so, what can change? Problems are not resolved, and emotions cannot perfunctory facts. Such a relationship cannot bring happiness to anyone.
As for the father, it is not heavy enough in this heavy film. It's just his helplessness when he sees the plate with Ethan's name on it and wants to pretend to be calm but can't pretend that nothing happened. It makes people feel that it's really easy to hurt. People who love each other are always on each other's side. A deep wound in my heart. Resisting this fragmented battlefield site with love makes people feel the pain of hope, the hope of pain.
This kind of sisterhood is really the norm that can be seen everywhere in life. Although they love each other deeply, they cannot communicate fully because the world they live in is so different. In this festive wedding centered on Rachel, Kym, who is always brave but extremely sensitive, must be sad because she can't fit into the atmosphere. Although she is really happy for Rachel, she is too sharp and fragile. Her self-esteem and the same degree of inferiority make her reaction must be overreact. Kym's numerous scars were largely carved by himself. On the one hand, he complained that he could not be understood by everyone, and on the other hand, he was too unpretentious. Anything that was on his face and blurted out, how could he not be hurt. Kym's redemption, I am afraid, still needs a true love to be possible.
The more tolerant people are, the more lethal they are once they erupt.
Kym finally has to carefully ask this question that has been hidden in his heart for a long time - is the responsibility all on me? The mother's defense was very pale, and the inexplicable anger that followed just proved that she was definitely at fault in this matter. Maybe she had an affair and was estranged from her family at that time. The trace of guilt never disappeared from her heart, but she chose to choose. In order to completely escape from the original family, he reassured Kym that "it's not all your fault", but in fact, this kind of attitude has nothing to do with himself but puts the blame on Kym. Another person who cannot fail to mention is Kym and Rachel's father. Perhaps in the family turmoil, he was the strongest but also the most helpless person from beginning to end. During the whole process of the wedding, the father managed with all his strength and forced a smile, but he couldn't hide the haggard and old age on his face. When Ethan's plate suddenly appeared in front of his eyes, he finally exploded, but the way he exploded, like his character, was restrained and silent. The effect of the sudden coldness in laughter is actually no less than a loud roar when it is calm.
This movie really reflects our lives. Sometimes we are the protagonists of the film, entangled in the joys, sorrows and sorrows that cannot be avoided in the family, and life staggers forward in helplessness; but more often, we are the group of guests in the film, appearing in a corner of other people's lives, tacitly watching their joys and pains, clapping and laughing wisely and gracefully, and stepping aside in time to pretend not to hear anything.
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