Seeing the last scene, the sad and slow music, watching Connell and Marianne sitting in an empty room, full of tears, knowing each other would be indefinite after a goodbye... The drama came to an end, and I sat, sad in my heart, thinking, I have already felt that the feelings of two people have reached a level of attraction in the body, mind and soul, and I can't help feeling that there is such a complex and lingering emotion and love in the world.
1. Separation and Encounter
At the end of the play, when Marianne proposed to Connell that he wanted him to go to New York to study the writing he liked, when the two were sentimental about the pain of separation, Connell said, I will be back in a year, and Marianne said: "Don't promise that "one year later, no one knows where we will go or what will happen. Marianne's words have been in my mind since then, making me feel the impermanence of life, the chance of encounter, and the changes in the future. The two were sitting in the living room, Connell said to Marianne: "You know I love you." Marianne: "Yes, I know." Wordless sadness... When I stand at this moment and look back at the acquaintance of the two, I can see The two people have been constantly missing and meeting, separated and reunited.
1. In high school, due to the pressure of public opinion from a small group, Connell did not dare to disclose his relationship with Marianne in front of his friends. It was a protection for his self-esteem and identity, but it was also a harm to Marianne - when Marianne was attacked at a party. The boys were sexually harassing, but Connell did not come forward; when the high school graduation dance, Connell confessed to Marianne that he would invite Rechale instead of her; when the high school boys sneered at the arrogant and intelligent Marianne, Connell chose to remain silent.
2. University, they both attended Trinity College, but never heard from each other until they met each other through Marianne's current boyfriend's party. Marianne chose to break up with her current boyfriend. They have been intimate with each other for a period of time, but have never stated or confirmed their relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend. In one summer, Connell said goodbye to Marianne because he couldn't pay the rent. This seemed to be another parting of the two (I don't understand the plot, is this a breakup between the two). In college, they are physically close, but in real life they still seem to be estranged due to various factors drifting away from the relationship between friends and lovers.
3. After parting that summer, Connell had a girlfriend Helen, and Marianne and Jamie became lovers. When the two met again and greeted each other, when Marianne said that her boyfriend's violent tendencies in intimate relationships made Connell sad and resentful, but powerless or ineligible to ask and care. At this time, they are maintaining the relationship of friends, and they will exchange emails with each other and tell their life. Helen knew about Marianne's existence, and she would be jealous and puzzled; Jamie also understood Connell's particularity and spoke ill of Connell during her Italian vacation. I think Connell and Marianne are restraining each other at this time, and they both know that if the relationship goes further, the two will not be able to last long. It is better to stay at the stage of friends and not lose each other.
4. Later, Marianne went to Sweden and also met a very controlling boyfriend, she was not really happy and willing in this relationship, she was still very lonely. Connell is still with Helen, but he doesn't feel his authenticity in the relationship. Connell is back home, and the two haven't seen each other in years, but still keep in touch with emails and phone calls. Marianne Skypeed with Connell through her depression.
5. Until Rob's funeral, Connell and Marianne didn't see each other for a long hug. The further intimacy between the two seems to confirm each other's intentions and feelings. Connell threatened her brother for Marianne, Connell invited Marianne to spend Christmas together at home, the two embraced each other at the New Year's party and publicly kissed and hugged between high school friends. Until later, the two clearly told each other: "I love you" You know that their relationship is no longer puzzling.
At different stages of life, two people separated, broke up, forced or took the initiative, and then they were reluctant and lingering, and then they met again at a fork in life by chance. Their relationship is not straight, but the twists and turns make people heartbroken and affectionate. The road is twists and turns, and people have met thousands of people, but - "Suddenly looking back, that person was in the dim light", so many people , I only have feelings for you.
The evolution of the relationship
Connell and Marianne, they are lovers, friends, and soulmates in the show, but the evolution of their relationship is actually something I don't quite understand.
In high school, there was no doubt that the two were lovers. After that, the two broke up.
When they met in college, the two hit it off once again, with physical intimacy and harmony. But why were the two of them so close during their college days, but they couldn't disclose their relationship to their friends, and why didn't they establish a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship? The impression seems to be because Connell found that he couldn't integrate with the university environment and classmates, couldn't really understand everyone, and couldn't really integrate into Marianne's friends. These external environments and relationships are like obstacles, hindering the two. And when Connell left Marianne's house that summer because he couldn't keep renting, was that an official goodbye? Why it was so painful for Marianne, but Connell's statement afterwards casts suspicion that he was just trying to express his departure, not parting.
After that, are the two friends in a relationship? But you can feel that there is still more love than friendship between two people. It is reflected in the fact that when Connell heard Marianne say that Jamie was controlling and violent towards her, when Connell and Helen interacted, he showed his concern and concern for Marianne. When Marianne was angry with Jamie that night he slept with her, When Marianne misses Connell in Sweden, when Connell is depressed, Marianne's importance and comfort to him... When the above behavior occurs, the two seem to remain friends. Either there are many factors that hinder the further development of their relationship, or because there are many factors that make their relationship impossible to simplify, or because both people know that their relationship cannot be deepened due to the external environment, but they are still inseparable from each other. , so use friendship to maintain their relationship with each other.
At the end of the drama, the two spend Christmas together, Connell threatens her brother for Marianne, the two make out again physically, and say "I love you" to each other, I'm thinking, they are boyfriend and girlfriend at this time. Is it related? Or maybe their relationship is far more complicated and subtle than that of boyfriend and girlfriend.
This is the part of the drama that baffles me, and it is the delicate and delicate relationship that this drama reflects that makes me realize that there is such a complex, profound, and subtle in love.
The lonely soul
Looking back at the bits and pieces of the two again, you will find that the two seem to be so similar and compatible in body, mind and soul.
The two people are very compatible physically, and it was only after watching this drama that I realized that the physical connection in love can also be so frank and affectionate. Perhaps this is also the true part of human love that Western film and television dramas have the courage to show.
Two people seem to know each other very well in their hearts. Although the two of them are in very different situations at the same stage, you can feel that they both understand each other. For example, when everyone was isolating Marianne in high school, only Connell would talk to her well. Every time his quiet and gentle expressions seemed to write understanding; in college, when Connell was out of tune with the group and the environment, Marianne quietly Looking at him and listening to him tell about this confusion and confusion, she would not judge or anything, but a look and expression that understood and understood. And later when Connell was depressed, Marianne would listen quietly; when Marianne met her controlling boyfriend, Connell understood the loneliness and discomfort she endured under Marianne's apparent calmness; when Marianne called herself in the middle of the night crying Stumbled, Connell drove to pick up Marianne, who had been beaten by her brother, without saying a word. Between them, it seems that they can understand each other, no matter whether the other is embarrassed, uncomfortable, or unbearable.
The two also seem to be alone in their souls, and have each other's broken parts. Marianne's family is rich, but she has never felt true family and love. She has a cold mother, a violent father and brothers. She felt no love in her family and suffered from ruthlessness and indifference. I thought that when I got to college, Marianne, who was originally isolated, began to have her own friendship and love, and she became bright and beautiful, but later I found out that she was still very lonely in her heart, because of her broken family, and because of continuous She suffered from her boyfriend's control and violence several times. Connell, he was raised by a single mother. Although his family is ordinary, he has a mother who loves him and cares for him very much. In high school he was the most popular boy in the school, with good buddies and countless suitors, but somehow when he got to college, he found himself unable to fit in with the environment and people around him. Maybe it was because of the open-mindedness of the university, and he had never really cared about his own ideas, maybe it was the changes in the environment that caught him off guard. So when Rob, a good friend from high school, died unexpectedly, he was depressed. On the one hand, because of the friend's departure, on the other hand, he expressed his inner sadness when facing the psychiatrist. When he came to the university, he found out how difficult everything was around him. But now I can't even go back to the past, because my brother who accompanied him in high school has also left. Connell and Marianne, they have both witnessed each other's most vulnerable time, and each other's most real time, they care and accompany each other.
4. Complexity and subtlety
Everything in the world should not be simply defined, it is not black and white, neither is love.
The relationship between men and women is not completely clear and clear, but it is also moving because of its subtlety, just like Connell and Marianne. Even if two people attract and like each other, sometimes they can't be together. Maybe this is the most suitable distance for both parties. As Connell had done to hurt Marianne in high school, but in the subsequent life encounters, the mutual support between them has been far greater than the apology and fault that year. The ending is meaningful. Maybe Connell will come back in a year, and the two of them will achieve a positive result, but it is also possible that their lives will start to miss and meet again. Maybe it will be indefinite, but there is no perfect and absolute thing in the world.
Connell and Marianne, their love, their experiences, make me have a vague affection and lingering in my heart, which is sad and moving.
Attachment: The entire TV series is a cool and simple Nordic style.
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