Wounded souls do not have to be redeemed by others. Neglected by her mother, envied by her brother, Marion felt no selfless love at all in her family life. She is withdrawn and eccentric, and she also shows masochistic tendencies in her subsequent sexual behaviors. My understanding is because in the long-term family relationship, she is used to being ignored and hated by others, and she is desperate for love, and she understands this kind of hurt as love. And when Cornell showed her selfless love, she backed away, terrified of this unfamiliar love, thinking it would disappear anytime, anywhere. Cornell has a low self-esteem and cowardly character because of his class and family. He welcomes fellow students in school and does not dare to disclose his love affair with Marion who is not liked by others. After the reunion of the old relationship in college, he finally left Marion because of poverty and inferiority. They all feel guilty and inferior because of their original family, and are tortured by fear in their hearts. They yearn for love again and again, but they hurt others and themselves again and again. When you know that the person you love the most is the other person, but you are afraid of losing your friendship and turning to someone you don't love. When they have not formed independent and mature personalities, the male and female protagonists are used to investing in a new intimate relationship, seeking comfort but at the same time looking for familiar self-harm, which is sad and ridiculous... If they think about themselves and others, choose A more appropriate way of self-salvation may not suffer so much damage and torture.
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