it changes, though

Cleve 2022-04-23 07:02:58

For some unknown reason, I've been wanting to see things, texts, images, etc. on the topic of "losing".
I wanted to watch this movie for a long time, because of the trailer, I remember there is a set of shots in the trailer, Nicole is standing in front of the cabinet, standing in front of the washing machine, she is standing like that, but sadness rushed out of the screen. , surrounded me all at once, and when I saw the scene of her crying in the car, I shed tears for the first time because of a trailer.
I finally watched this film today, maybe because of my recent mood, I actually cried from the beginning until the end.
I know Nicole was nominated for the Golden Globes because of this film. I don't know if she won or not, but in my heart, she has already been sealed.
It seems that she has a very suitable temperament for this kind of role, I can't tell, but I was completely brought in by her.
Maybe some people don't like the becca in it, thinking that she deliberately made everyone unhappy, deliberately didn't look forward, deliberately immersed herself in sadness and didn't come out. To be honest, I think so, she can't come out because she doesn't want to.
becca seems to have been trying hard to come out, she sends taz away, puts away danny's paintings, gives away danny's clothes, deletes videos, prepares cakes for izzy, and even sells the house... she seems to be erasing danny's Every trace seems to be returning to a normal life, but deep in her heart, she is using her grief as the last memorial for her son.
She didn't really want to come out. In her heart, only grief could remind her of her son's existence. Her grief was the deepest trace of Danny in this world, how could she erase it! Just let her continue to grieve, this is the last thing she wants from the world for her son.
Therefore, the things she did were just trying to hold on. She had to do something so that she would not collapse.
She went to see jason, no anger, no blame, she just wanted to see him, danny left because of him, she just used this way to comfort herself.

What touched me the most was the conversation between Becca and her mother in the basement:
--does it ever go away?
--no,i don't think it does,not for me,it hasn't.it's going on 11 years.
it changes,though.
--how? --i
don't know.the weight of it,i guess.at some point it becomes bearable...and carry around like a brick in your pocket...and there it is,"right,that.".. .... so, you carry it around, and it doesn't go away. Which is...
--which is what?
--fine, actually.

fine, actually. It will be okay, even if it's always sad , will be fine.

"We are just the sad version." Becca was relieved when he said this. Maybe, where there is really a happy self, then this sad self can be forgiven.

Please forgive my sadness, it won't stop, it changes though, and it will be fine, actually.

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Rabbit Hole quotes

  • [last lines]

    Becca: [voice-over] And then what?

    Howie: [voice-over] I don't know... Something though.

  • Nat: You know, Becca, when your brother died, I found the church very helpful.

    Becca: I know. I know you did, but that's you. That's not me, and Danny... Danny isn't Arthur.

    Nat: You know, I brought you to church every Sunday.

    Becca: Let's not start this again, okay, Mom? I'm just... I'm just calling about the cake.

    Nat: You're not right about everything, you know? What if there is a God?

    Becca: Then I'd say he's a sadistic prick.

    Nat: All right, Becca, that's enough.

    Becca: "Worship me and I'll treat you like shit." No wonder you like him. He sounds just like Dad.