Right now, I just want to hold my family's hand tightly

Angelita 2022-04-22 07:01:39

Finished viewing of "The Undertaker".
This time, the heart and lungs that have been bruised by the powerful family love are all afraid that it will be difficult to heal in the near future.
The soundtrack of the movie made by Joe Hisaishi was playing back and forth on the computer. The restless jumping of the cello made me unable to play in the end.
In this film, life and death are closely intertwined, and where there is a living, there must be the dead. But the solemnity of death is as elegant and plain as the mourning hall behind Xiaolin's burial for the dead middle-aged woman. I muttered to myself, why is the Japanese nation so gentle, and even the rebuke is a posture of leaning down. Under the care of this nation, death has receded from the cloak of terror, and some are just a happy life.
Ever since I was a child, I was a person who was afraid of death. I often lay on my back in bed with my eyes wide open in the middle of the night, looking at the ceiling without a trace of light, imagining the shape of death and the turbulent state of mind of the dying. Because the dead will no longer speak, and without expression for the living, death becomes mysterious and unprovoked. No, I was very serious when I told adults that I was afraid of death, and they always laughed and stroked my head, but my heart was tangled and formal, expressing my panic.
After reading "The Undertaker", I suddenly felt a sense of enlightenment. It turned out that the dead people would be so cute and beautiful.
If you ask me which scenes in this play attract me the most, it's really hard for me to answer you.
Because it is quiet and turbulent, like a salmon that has always stopped in the same place when it is traveling backwards in the stream. I never thought that there are such strong and stubborn species of fish. From time to time, there are companions floating down the water like dead fish turning their stomachs, but the two salmon are so energetic, and they have been rushing upstream. This film also has such a gas field, it has no fierce conflict, or Yojiro Takita softens the parts that should be violent. But the warmth and pain are like the potted plants in the office of President Sasaki, the first cello that Kobayashi played in his childhood, the fish white of the puffer fish that the president and Kobayashi ate, the stones that Kobayashi and his father exchanged, and the same The charcoal and firewood used by the old mother in the bathhouse to boil the water was as quiet as nothing but filled with a strong tension, which shrouded our hearts for a long time and could not be dissolved.
I can understand Kobayashi's mood towards this profession from the initial conflict to the final respect and love. President Sasaki is a magical and wise old man, and Kobayashi's encounter with him is a blessing. Not every deceased can be fortunate enough to meet such a virtuous and temperamental mortuary. You especially remember the scene where they were entombed for the middle-aged woman. Being five minutes late made the deceased's husband furious. It might be sadness or desperation, and they happened to vent this emotion on the mortuary. The president didn't say much, bowed and apologized and started work. This scene is very delicate. The expressions of the actors walk around and tell the magical power created by the hands of the mortician, and the respect of their dead makes the living sigh. After the ceremony, the husband of the deceased lay on the coffin and cried bitterly, and then ran out the door to thank the president. He said, "Thank you, my wife has never been so beautiful as she is today."
There are many scenes of relatives parting in the movie. Xiaolin showed us a different way of saying goodbye after helping the deceased with makeup ”; There are women who are not confused and put on delicate lipstick and kiss their fathers heavily, while the old man leaves four lip prints on his face; there are sons who wipe and change his father’s clothes by himself. There are still many farewells, and Xiaolin watched it quietly, and occasionally played his beloved cello in the countryside with the green grass and green creek gurgling.
I love this movie so much, my sister-in-law said she was almost out of breath when she cried. I said I didn't care. Especially in the last scene where Xiaolin sees off his biological father, when Xiaolin starts to shave his father with a razor, the picture of his father who left his wife and children when he was five years old can never be remembered. face, clearly exposed. During the whole process, Xiao Lin's eyes were bright and his eyebrows were solemn. His expression was as calm as a wax statue. Only two lines of clear tears fell quietly. I could hear the sound of tears falling on the face of the old man.
Recently, I have found that I have some quirks, and it is difficult to shed tears at that time, no matter how sad the movie is. The blower in his chest was turning desperately like a miswired circuit, so fast that he was panting but the tears disappeared. And then it would get out of hand in the blink of an eye after the movie. For example, watching the final version of "Evil in the East and the Poison in the West", sitting next to the movie theater, many girls were crying and crying, but I didn't move. And a man was driving a car on the way home, suddenly burst into tears, burst the embankment, and could not see the road ahead.
Maybe I'm half a beat, maybe I set the switch for myself.
And after watching "The Undertaker", I didn't have any uncontrollable reactions. I smiled and saw the music on the screen stopped and the subtitles finished.
Life and death are only separated by a door, so I often see my grandfather smiling at me in my dreams, so when I see my grandfather who miraculously survived after being given a critical illness notice, I see my parents who are getting older. There is a kind of inexplicable sadness, so I will go home whenever I have free time on the weekend, so I always lean on my dad's knee and kiss him on the face coldly, so I always hug my mom who has a phobia of intimacy. Tell her I love you.
Because I know these are the people who are very close to each other, the days with them are dominated by subtraction, and my smiles, hugs and kisses will always be warm.

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Extended Reading
  • Kelsie 2022-03-27 09:01:12

    Revisiting it on the big screen after 12 years is still touching, but this time I saw some flaws. For example, the role of Ryoko Hirosue is too instrumental, and I can't see the male protagonist's love for her at all. It seems that she only came back for the sake of her children. Forgive the hero, so humble. But about death education, about farewells, there is no better film than this one. Those burial ceremonies are so beautiful and gentle. The grandfather of the funeral home said it philosophically: people in the funeral industry are gatekeepers, helping everyone to get through this door to another world, and telling them: be careful on the road, there will be a future.

  • Name 2022-03-29 09:01:04

    Far-fetched, long-winded, emotionally unfounded, and the story doesn't look good. Those cases are to provide emotional credibility, so it is mainly white-haired people who send black-haired people. Even among middle-aged and elderly people, except for the lonely old people who are the protagonists in the induction ceremony, the others are all people whose age of death is lower than their life expectancy. Only for the families of the deceased, the industry of entrepreneurs is a little small. worth it? It was nothing more than a ceremony to give some empty comfort to the deeply regretful family members. However, just like the Chinese folk saying about the so-called filial piety in the funeral of the so-called "unfilial in life, nonsense in death", it is even more so for the children and spouses who died before they reached the age of life. Afterwards, it was beautiful, but it was just another tossing around the victimized deceased, so that the victimized living could buy psychological comfort. The so-called reconciliation at the end is even more ridiculous. A scumbag who dies alone is a self-inflicted sin. He doesn't even have the courage to apologize and make amends. What is there to be moved by holding a stone to death. Even if he has not let go after 30 years, he is still just a frivolous narcissism of a scumbag.

Departures quotes

  • Daigo Kobayashi: There are many kinds of coffins.

    Yuriko Kamimura: 50000, 100000, 300000 yen.

    Daigo Kobayashi: They differ by that much?

    Yuriko Kamimura: The left one is plywood, the next one has metal fittings and carvings on both sides. And the most expensive one is solid cypress wood.

    Daigo Kobayashi: Oh, the difference is in material and decoration.

    Yuriko Kamimura: Yes, they all burn the same way.

    Daigo Kobayashi: Same ashes.

    Yuriko Kamimura: The last shopping of your life is done by others.

    Daigo Kobayashi: Kind of ironic.

  • Shokichi Hirata: Salmon?

    Daigo Kobayashi: [Watching the river] Ah, yes. They're right by the rocks... over there.

    Shokichi Hirata: [to the salmons swimming against the stream] Oh! Go for it!

    Daigo Kobayashi: It's kind of sad... to climb only to die. Why work so hard if you're going to die.

    Shokichi Hirata: I'm sure they want to go back... to their birthplace.