1. In fact, when I saw Ove put the picture of his wife in front of the window before he hanged himself for the first time, the tears were a little uncontrollable. As if she had gone before me.
2. The character of Ove makes me feel too much like myself. I like cleanliness, rules, and a rule-abiding environment... Halfway through, I turned my head and said to her, "I think I'm old and that's all."
3. I controlled the last sentence for half a minute before I said it steadily. At the time, Ove said at his wife's grave that he would be gone soon.
4. Because she has experienced earthquakes, she always has a lot of tendency to self-destruct, and even said that she would commit suicide at the age of 40. I'll rudely interrupt and refute, hoping to dissuade her in this way (it's probably just an escape, now that I think about it). At the same time, I've been trying to live and plan for the long-term seriously, gradually influencing her, and I'm happy from the bottom of my heart when she first starts thinking about the long-term.
5. But I've never seriously imagined the scene after the "die goodbye". This film gave me an idea with delicate brushstrokes: a coat hangs at the door, a photo is on the steps, and a group photo is placed at the head of the bed... Maybe I projected myself too deeply into the protagonist. When I see these scenes, I will replace them with For myself and her, I thought if one day she really left before me, how should I face it? I think it might be hard for me to be as calm as Ove.
6. "If you don't know life, how can you know death." I've been comforting myself with the words of a sage - if you don't understand life, how can you expect to understand death? But in the past two years, perhaps because I have seen a lot of things, I have also had a vague new idea on this issue-there is death, and there is life.
7. In "Doctor Strange", Gu said to Dr. Strange, "Death gives meaning to life, letting you know that time is short and there are not many days to go."
In Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone, Dumbledore said to Harry, "Death is actually like going to bed after a long day."
Endless life is a kind of torture. The limited time gives all meaning.
8. In an interview with "Little Farewell", when asked if her daughter is getting older and will face the separation, Huang Lei said, "I am ready. I am also ready for my parents. Will leave me, this is life. I will also leave this world. I am a very calm person, of course, this does not mean that I am not sad, it does not mean that I am not sad... People can clearly see this matter and whether it will be because of There are two things to feel about this.”
More and more I can understand Huang Lei's words. I thought that as long as I cut with reason, I could keep the sadness away, but now I find that is not the case.
9. After watching the "Three-Body Problem" trilogy, my worldview has changed a lot. I've never had a belief, but the worldview since then has been pretty close to determinism and nihilism. Denying the meaning and value of feelings, "Life is meaningless, so there is no ultimate concern." Face the mediocre fools in my eyes with an almost mocking attitude. What joys, angers, sorrows and joys, won't all end up in a heat death? From this perspective, if Ove succeeded in committing suicide several times before, it would be no different from the last peaceful departure.
10. But there are undoubtedly differences. I don't think it's a superficial effort such as "spiritual heritage" or "inheritance", nor is it "peace and tranquility" or "reconciliation with oneself" bullshit, but a wish and expectation. "If she was still around, she would probably want to be remembered like this with me."
11. I feel that I still cannot see through life and death. But after watching this movie, I think I might be able to leave with less regrets.
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