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"It's boring"
Recently, I often talked about "life" with my friends, and found that most people are basically speechless or even numb about life. We can all talk about it with a smile Once the people and things around you talk about how well your past is, there is only a sigh left. "A group of energetic young people" seems to have been coined by the media. I have hardly seen such a group. In reality, there are only a group of young people who don't know what to do, frowning and desperate.
I believe that most people cannot admit that they are doing well.
Have a relatively stable job, devote 50 hours a week to work hard, thinking about what to eat for three meals a day in the rest of the time, and occasionally fall in love with a friend, or go out and stare with friends. You are satisfied with this fairly ideal state, you can't say what's wrong, but you don't dare to say that you have been very happy.
And I found that most people who feel that they are "unhappy" lack a sense of ritual in their lives.
They may work harder than others to "live", with a clear purpose, but they don't get the happiness they deserve, and they even gradually lose the ability to entertain themselves. "Living" is not the same as "life." Although we cannot escape the inherent routine of studying, working, saving money, and getting married, in order to live a good "life", we also have the right to make life more poetic.
Of course, the poetry here does not mean that you write poems, but that you learn to spice up your life so that it becomes mediocre but extraordinary.
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Recently I just watched the masterpiece "Patterson", which came back from Cannes. Those who are familiar with him know that the characters in his films are always full of poetry, such as the female driver in "Earth Night", such as the Japanese couple in "Mystery Train".
This time the actor Patterson is no exception, he is just an ordinary bus driver. During the 8 days and nights of the movie, I went to work every day, wrote poetry, walked the dog, drank in the same bar, and slept with his wife in the same posture. It goes over and over again, like a machine with precise calculations.
This kind of plot looks very boring, there are no waves, and there is no reversal. But many people have unexpectedly resonated: isn't this the daily life I'm experiencing, ordinary and repetitive, living without surprises and surprises.
The only spoiler in Patterson's life is to write poetry. Poetry is his secret garden, a spiritual world that belongs to him alone, and a way for him to escape from the world. Even if his girlfriend has repeatedly asked him to print and publish, he is unwilling to let his only hobby be tainted by foul-smelling business. However, his poetry is actually not very good (not even as good as a little girl). It may be the director deliberately. The poor writing is embarrassing, but it makes the character more real and vivid.
Full of enthusiasm for something, but no talent, but this does not prevent him from indulging in it, which is like our friend ABC around us.
Another very poetic character in the movie is Patterson's wife. Compared with Patterson’s immutability, her world is changing every day. For a while, she is addicted to interior decoration; for a while she is addicted to making Cup Cakes; for a while she suddenly wants to learn guitar and be a folk singer, as if the only constant is right. The enthusiasm for black and white. But in the end, these were just a passing flick, and she almost "achieved nothing" in these dreams. But even if "nothing is done", so what?
These two roles make me feel very cordial and yearning. They are as ordinary as we are, but they never complain. Embracing my little ideal and immersing in it, I don't need other people's understanding, I only reap my own romance and joy. In this way, day after day, the boring days will shine and bloom with poetic flowers, just like this movie.
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"Life has more than just moments, but also poetry and distance"-perhaps chicken soup, or idealism, but the more mature, the more difficult it is to discover. How to stop self-denial, how to learn to be self-satisfied in a boring life, how to "live" instead of "alive", these are the topics that we need to learn in our poor life. After all, there is always a moment for everyone to want to escape from this world.
Of course, there are many ways to escape.
If you are a person who cares too much about other people's eyes, try to let yourself go once in a while. Even Zheng Shuang started smoking blatantly. What are you pretending to be here? Nowadays, people always have the burden of a honey idol and they can't breathe.
If you always feel that you are unhappy, try to lower the standard of happiness and change "finding happiness" to "discovering happiness". You may find it by accident that it is very happy to eat the dishes you like, and it is very happy to meet the people you want to meet. Happiness, I am happy to play my favorite songs randomly. I wake up and look at the watch and find that I am happy when I wake up for two hours.
And most importantly, you need to find something that allows you to be passionate and not disturbed by the outside world. Whether it's objects, people, or interests.
For me, watching movies and reading travel are all things that can help me escape the world. Recently, I have also become fascinated by cooking. In my opinion, there is no essential difference between cooking and poetry. Vegetables, like words, are processed and combined to become art.
I have four sisters who work average and have low wages, but they enjoy themselves happily than anyone else. They both like rock music very much, so they formed a band together. Although their skills are not very good, no one cares. As long as they can rehearse together every week, drink together and brag after the rehearsal, they will be very satisfied. Occasionally, if they are lucky, they can make some pocket money after a commercial performance, which is simply icing on the cake. Every time I see them, I can feel that they really enjoy it. It is commendable to be able to do things they like with people they like, and to return to innocence amidst the noise of the effects device after busy work.
There is another friend, whose income is not high, but he gives himself four vacations to travel every year. Her circle of friends is full of her footprints all over the world, Thailand, Japan, South Africa, Paris, the United States... Someone asked her where she had so much time and money to go out to play, a reply from her in the circle of friends made me remember . "Why do you save money? It's better to use it to do what you like. After all, money will depreciate, but these experiences are eternal."
In the novel "Book Thief", the little girl Lissell's situation can no longer be miserable-father Taken away by the Nazis, his mother disappeared, his younger brother passed away unfortunately, and he was fostered with relatives. In such a difficult environment, reading became her only hope. In order to read the book, she not only ventured to "steal", but also saved the book from the fire. Because she knows that this is her last straw, and only books can bring light to her.
It may be said that belief is too heavy, but we all have to find a favorite thing to let the boring life tolerate.
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I have written an article before, discussing how to live our lives, especially in the most dazed period of our 20s. It mentioned that we were born for two things, one is to live, and the other is to fill life with something. The first thing is the rights and obligations that God has given us, and we have no choice; the second thing varies from person to person and determines the color of your life.
Some people are struggling to pursue material things all their lives, some prefer a stable and stable life philosophy, and some advocate idealistic spiritual practice. It is the different ways of living of so many people that make the world full of possibilities.
But no matter what kind of living method, when you feel that the road ahead is dangerous, or you can't find the direction for a while, it is better to slow down temporarily and look for the things that have made you carefree and happy. For example, planning a long-distance trip, spending an afternoon listening to the record release, or wandering in the world of books, occasionally immersed in one's own spiritual world, forgetting the hardships of the world.
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This article was first published on the WeChat public account Yin Yi Ying Gallery (sadmovie2017).
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