I decided to write this review because of the family relationships I was thinking about, so I chose the title that seemed outrageous.
Although the label of this drama is erotica and romance, if you analyze it from the perspective of Lolita, it is a family movie, and only if you analyze it from the perspective of the male protagonist, this is a romance.
Let me analyze it from the perspective of Lolita first.
First of all, I want to talk about the word family. This is a very interesting word. From a biological point of view, it is a blood relationship. The male and female protagonists cannot constitute a family, so it can be easily regarded as a love movie. In a legal sense, the male and female protagonists have indeed reached a father-daughter relationship, and the male protagonist is Lolita's legal guardian, so their sexual relationship has a sense of incest taboo.
In my opinion, the biggest feature of a family involving parents and children is not the blood relationship or legal relationship, but the unequal relationship between the two members of the family - one is immature and has no economic income at all; the other has a mature mind. and a stable source of income. The material life of one party is completely dependent on the other party, and the knowledge, ability and various survival skills are also completely dependent on the education of the other party.
From this feature, Lolita and the male lead form a complete family.
As for Lolita's resistance, in my opinion, the main object of her resistance is not the male protagonist or the sexual assault itself, but the growth environment that the male protagonist brings her to her - a repressed, no choice, growth that cannot be controlled by herself environment.
I call their family relationship a repressive relationship, and my definition of it is that if the child doesn't do something, he loses something.
If you look closely, this relationship actually exists in every family, but the degree is different, depending on the parents' desire to control their children.
The more controlling parents, the more they will use all means to threaten their children, force them to do what they want, and then get rewarded. Parents often want superior academic performance, diligent housework, and a docile and obedient character. The rewards they give are nothing more than financial and emotional.
The case applied to reality is that if the child is rebellious and runs away from home, the first thing parents do is to cut off the source of income, forcing the child to go home and bow his head. Come up with a -- you've done something wrong, so I don't love you right now, don't want to wash and cook for you.
The core of these things expressed is - what I give you is not unconditional, you have to be a child that pleases me in order to be raised and loved by me, if you let me down, sad, sad, I Everything given to you will be taken back.
Of course, I don't mean to criticize this kind of atmosphere. Absolute freedom is equal to no freedom. Moderate suppression is beneficial to the physical and mental growth of children.
But how to grasp this degree is a difficult problem that every parent needs to face. The biggest problem is that many parents don't realize that there is an inverse relationship between depression and a child's ability to feel loved.
If the repression reaches the level of pain, the message the child receives is that everything they get is through suffering.
In this case, the parents' love is cheap love, useless love, love that brings pain, and they have no reason and no need to be grateful.
So well-behaved children are a very dangerous model, which can also explain why the most rebellious ones grow up, often the ones who look the most well-behaved when they grow up, because they have been in an extreme state of depression for a long time, not dying in silence , is to erupt in silence.
In the movie, Lolita and the male lead are in a very depressing family atmosphere.
Let’s talk about the male protagonist later. Let’s talk about my conclusion about him first – he loves Lolita, he loves humbly, and he loves madly.
According to the intensity of his feelings, if he falls in love with an adult, when the other party doesn't love him, he can use his love to create 10,000 ways to die for him.
The special thing about Lolita is that she is young and ignorant. She does not invest in this relationship from the perspective of love, but from family.
In the plot after they have sex, I divided it into three stages, the lover stage, the family stage, and the escape stage.
The lover's sexual behavior itself did not cause mental damage to Lolita. Even after her mother died, the male protagonist became the only existence she could rely on. She relied on trust, and the two had a relatively good travel time. In fact, in the later part of the trip, Lolita showed signs of resistance. In the hotel, the male protagonist joked with her with magic fingers. Feeling tired, but they are not real lovers, the right to break up is not in her hands.
The real change came when she went back to school, she returned to normal society and the world of her peers, her relationship with the male lead became a family relationship, and she realized that her life completely depended on the male lead to support her, even pocket money, To appear in a drama, these things need her to be courted by sexual intercourse to get them.
From Lolita's point of view, the male protagonist is her custodian, and the condition that this custodian put forward to her is-illegal sexual behavior.
She needs to obtain basic living security through sexual intercourse and the right to go to school. She needs to double her pocket money by seducing the male protagonist and agree to appear in the drama, and she has no right to refuse.
This can easily make her feel that she is betraying her body, so she will say "I earned this myself" when fighting with the male protagonist in bed for coins.
In her opinion, she and the male protagonist have a simple transactional relationship. The male protagonist vents his sexual desires on her, and she lives by the male protagonist.
She didn't feel the male lead's love for her at all, didn't realize that she was the one who had absolute control in this relationship, and never thought that she could get a better life and a better way out through the male lead.
In fact, at this stage, we can replace sexual intercourse with other things, and apply the state between two people to many ordinary families.
I need to mention in particular that I would offer to replace their sexuality with other family conflicts, it does not mean that I think the severity of sexual assault is on the same level as other things.
Only in this movie, because of the particularity of the plot and characters, and the state of the two people as half lovers in the early stage, the harm caused by their sexual behavior to Lolita is greatly reduced, so that we can learn from family relationships. to analyze, and even to draw this analogy.
Lolita's character determines that she is the one who breaks out in silence, arguing fiercely and recklessly trying to escape this oppressive atmosphere.
She knew that the male protagonist's behavior was a crime, and she could have called the police to report it, but instead of doing so, she chose a stranger to conspire to leave the male protagonist.
This also shows that it is not the sexual behavior itself that is causing her harm. What she wants is not that the male protagonist will be punished, but that she should escape from a growing environment that she cannot bear - this is similar to many rebellious children in adolescence, the best they can Thinking of running away from home, not thinking that parents have to pay for it.
During the escape process, she retaliated by sleeping with strangers in the hotel, which reminded me that some children will take revenge on their parents by self-harm the right to freedom.
Lolita was fourteen when she successfully escaped from the male protagonist. After three years, the two saw her again at seventeen. Even if I made a mistake, her age would not exceed twenty, and she was married and pregnant, living a poor life. Life.
In her letter to the male lead, she said that she was fed up with poverty, but even so, she was still reluctant to return to the male lead.
She didn't love the male protagonist, she fled without turning back, and it was painless after the reunion. When the male protagonist asked her if she could forget what she had done to her, she did not answer.
But she doesn't hate the male protagonist either. She is willing to always call the male protagonist her father, and will write to him asking for help when she is desperate, trusting that this person will not come to hurt her even if she doesn't help her.
Her love and hate are very clear. Those who have a good impression will approach, those who don't like life will run away, and those who don't love will leave, even if the price of free choice is living a poor life.
This is part of the charm of this character, and it is also doomed to her and the male lead.
In the end, what I regret about Lolita is that in a depressing environment, she did not feel the love of the male protagonist for her at all.
In the letter she wrote to the male protagonist, she hoped that the male protagonist could send herself a little money, or it doesn't matter if it was less. The tone here is close to being humble because of poverty, but it is indifferent and humble, and she comes to test without hope. She didn't realize that she had the capital to be pampered and arrogant. As long as she opened her mouth, it was just a matter of saying that the male protagonist would die, so she would be shocked when the male protagonist gave her four thousand dollars, which was incredible.
She thought that the male protagonist had always treated her as the object of sexual venting, but had never felt the male protagonist's strong love for her as a person.
Next, let's talk about the hero.
Regarding the male protagonist, he is often labeled as a pedophile.
But in my opinion he is not a pedophile.
A fetish is a fetish. The object of pedophilia is the entire group, and will have sexual desires for a special group, and the male protagonist really loves a person.
I haven't read the original book, but as far as the movie itself gives me, if his feelings for Lolita can't be called love, then I really don't know what can be called love.
Many people think he is disgusting, violates young girls, and is a pedophile, but in fact, he has always been clear that he only likes Lolita.
And it just so happens that Lolita is a girl.
I can't deny that Lolita's youth is one of the necessary conditions for him to like Lolita, but also can't deny that he is not a pedophile.
If he is a pedophile, from his adolescence to middle age in the film review, it is impossible for him to have not met a young girl in all these years, and then he said that it started with Lolita, which inspired his perverted hobby, and it happened to be Died on Lolita, and didn't have time to poison the next one.
And after he and Lolita met again, facing the pale and bloated Lolita who was pregnant with someone else's child, what he said was that as long as I looked at her, all kinds of tenderness came to my heart.
Off topic, the male protagonist is really a love story king, and his monologue in the audience is the level I am willing to excerpt and recite.
After Lolita is no longer a girl, his love for Lolita has not diminished at all, which is enough to show that what he loves is not a state, but the whole state of a person.
But I will never cleanse him. He failed to restrain his desires, and allowed Lolita to seduce him and have an improper relationship with her. These things are really his fault.
His feelings were a mistake in themselves.
Whether he chooses restraint or indulgence, he and Lolita have no future.
Because Lolita will not fall in love with him, Lolita's youth and beauty destined her to have a wider and free world. According to her proper life trajectory, she will have a bright and beautiful life, become a free dancer, and will There are many people who pursue her, and each one is more suitable for her than the male protagonist, and she likes it more.
After the death of her mother, the male protagonist can only choose between a good father and a bad lover to play.
Selfishness made him choose the latter and ruined Lolita's life.
And he took the first step and there was no turning back. He enjoyed the ultimate happiness and could no longer bear the pain of losing, so he tried to hold Lolita tightly in his hand, which achieved the exact opposite effect, and finally lost Lolita. .
But his love for Lolita was real and intense, and it managed to impress me.
When he took revenge for robbing QuiJack, he said "You cheated on my redemption.", I understand redemption refers to Lolita, but at the time I couldn't understand what cheating on Lolita meant until the end, Another of his monologues "I heard the laughter of the children, but I heard nothing else. It's not that Lolita is not with me at the moment that makes me regret it, but that she is not there. In laughter."
Combined with his monologue when he left Lolita's house "I regret what I did before I left Coal Mountain, but I don't regret what I did after I left." And his question to Lolita "Can I Forget what I did to you."
What these words conveyed was that he would never regret killing Qui-Jack, committing the death penalty, and ending his life. But he regretted what he had done to Lolita, and regretted that he had ruined Lolita's life.
He loves Lolita deeply, he is willing to die, and he is willing to pay any price to make Lolita have a good life, to be one of those who laugh and laugh, not a pale and bloated woman who endures poor life.
So he said that QuiJack deceived Lolita, and the message that QuiJack brought to Lolita was that as long as she left the male protagonist, she could have a better life, and from the perspective of the male protagonist, Lolita was deceived Now, she escaped from the male protagonist and only gained a more miserable life. If she stayed with the male protagonist, the male protagonist would do everything in his power to make up for her faults and let her have a better life than she has now.
For Lolita, staying with the male protagonist and leaving him are two completely different lives, one has to endure spiritual oppression and the other has to endure material deprivation. I can't evaluate which choice is better for her. , but I'm sure that if the male protagonist didn't appear in her life, her life would have been much better than either option.
I like the male lead's feelings, but I despise his behavior.
The highest love is restraint, not indulgence.
At the end of this film review, I want to put the opening remarks of the film, the summary of the male protagonist's love in this life-the fire of my life, the light of desire, my soul, my sin, Lolita.
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