I feel a little sad recently, especially after watching "Tully" and the Hong Kong drama "BB Comes". Although one is a movie and the other is a TV series, the feelings are very different, but they both mentioned the major changes brought by childbirth to women. .
We Chinese often say "widow-style education". In fact, our family is not only in the aspect of children's education, but even from the time the mother conceives the child, the mother's responsibilities for the child have occupied most of the hard work. In the recent variety show "Happy Trio", Jiang Qinqin had a big belly for 8 months and had to work at home. Even Jiang Qinqin didn't do it himself. Teacher Chen would rather eat fruit as a dinner than cook. In the end, I woke up and had lunch prepared by my wife. Even changing slippers when entering the door, and closing doors and windows when going out, he had to wait until his wife cried in anger to know how to show affection. The husband in "Tully", watching his wife bring three children alone, is still breastfeeding, in addition to going home to teach the children to do homework, he is lying on the bed and playing games, it is obvious that his wife's face is very bad , it is only a symbolic question "are you ok?". Although at the end of the movie, he found in his conscience that he took the initiative to share the task of taking care of the children, but I have to say that in real life, the probability of occurrence is too small. If you have to force the wife to be schizophrenic in order to attract the attention of the husbands, then most of the family will not be able to survive.
I remember my mother told me that when I was born, my mother was 21 and my father was 22. When I was just born, I cried every night, every night, and my mother would coax me by myself. I have to wash clothes and cook for a family of 5 during the day, and I have to take care of my great-grandmother who has limited mobility. There is no difference between day and night. Sometimes when I am really tired, I ask my dad to help me with me. As a result, I woke up the next day and found that my face was purple. I asked my dad, my dad said that my crying was really annoying, he didn't. He held back and pinched me. My mother was so angry that she never let him take me at night. Later, when I went to primary school, I had a younger brother at home. Since my younger brother was still young, my teacher also told my parents that I was a good seed for studying, so my parents had to leave a person at home to take care of me no matter what. So my mother became an official housewife, that is, from then on, I found that my mother was depressed every day, often quarreled with my father, and was crying. She said that she couldn't stand the fact that she had to ask my dad for money to buy a pound of rice, and buying furniture for the family would be said to be extravagant and wasteful. At that time, I was in the third year of junior high school, and my Chinese teacher liked me very much. She was a female teacher and my dad's junior high school classmate. She said something like "You girls should remember that it is better to have a parent than to have a mother, husband. There are still a pair of hands", I went home and learned to my mother. My mother said that your Chinese teacher is a good teacher.
Of course, it doesn't mean that the whole world is such an irresponsible husband. Jack in "this is us" should be a role model for every man. He and his wife have worked together to raise three children of different skin colors. In it, you can find almost all textbook templates dealing with the relationship between husband and wife, father-son, and father-daughter. Although he did not accompany everyone to the end, his love is for the family. Every member of the group has planted a tender seed, and no one will replace it. Although the husband in "The BB Comes" is not perfect, he is also a slave to his wife. He can skillfully negotiate between his mother and his wife, and understand that his wife is not ready to be a mother. Deep down, I still want a little BB, so I went to my mother-in-law in time to comfort my wife and give her psychological construction.
But when it comes to personalities, to be honest, I haven't dared to take the risk yet. After all, there are too few people who can understand your other half, and more men are still like a child who has not grown up. Don't say that they share their worries with you, and they will be thankful if they don't cause trouble for you. Rather than placing hopes on finding an object with such slim hopes, it is better to lay a solid economic foundation from now on.
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