Cherish it, pregnancy is really your best time.
Getting up two hours early for breakfast on Sunday, even with a hangover-like head, I have to watch a movie. It is a long-lost alone time, how can I give up? This time it was "Tully". There is no better way to wake up a grumpy old mother's self-help history than this!
It was a bloated woman who was pregnant with three children, with messy pale blond hair, tiredness overflowing from the screen in her eyes, and a huge body that couldn't be covered by a long one-piece dress. When Charlize Theron, who gained 45 pounds, brushed the body of her sensitive and anxious young son at the beginning of the film, (it is said to be some kind of psychotherapy to reduce the child's emotional sensitivity) 360 degrees exudes the soft light of a loving mother, Still beautiful.
"Three children, a life unchanging"
The unfolding of the plot starts from the mediocre daily life of the third-born mother, Marlow. The stubborn and hyperactive son was dismissed from the kindergarten. The daughter grew into a little adult and rolled her eyes in the face of the irritable younger brother. The days before the due date had already exhausted Marlow. "Three children, an unchanging life" is Ah, who could have imagined that? Everyone probably thinks that you have both children and you are bubbling with happiness.
It was just the beginning, and as the due date approached, Marlow was suffocating with anxiety and tiredness. During the family dinner, Marlowe's younger brother felt sorry for his sister's hard work over the years, so he proposed to hire her a night-time nanny. Well, it was really caring. Such a brother please come and fight!
Old mothers who have taken care of newborn babies know that nights when they wake up every three or two hours to feed are really dark and beautiful. Marlowe, however, rejected his brother's good intentions on the grounds that "there is no need for a stranger to develop a relationship with his child at home", and even the husband who persuaded him along the way was turned back. She is an obsessive old mother.
The film's frustration peaked after Marlowe gave birth to her youngest daughter. Every night, turning on the lights, pumping, feeding, changing diapers, and coaxing him to sleep, Marlow turned like a machine in a house full of toys and stains. Looking at the mother with a bloated belly and a disfigured body, even the son asked the mother with disgust, what's wrong with your body?
"30 years old, will arrive on time like a garbage truck at five in the morning"
For most women, marriage is by no means a terrible dividing line, parenting is. The days in your 20s are selfish and free, completely your own, even if you are desperate, you can wake up overnight and start all over again. 30+ after having kids, it's hard for you. Day after day is the boredom and dullness of adults. You can resist and vent, but you can't escape, so you gradually become "tired to cope".
You all work hard, take care of your family, and accompany your children. You can't tell if you really love life, but your family pushes you to deal with the next day before you can think about it. You may not have enough sleep, not much time and space for yourself, you rarely take a serious look at the body that has been fattened by time, and it is too late to pay attention to the sagging breasts and wrinkles on your face, you will be in such a rhythm of operation Gradually forget yourself. It's really sad, every sentence hurts my heart, and it's just scolding me to listen to it!
As for your partner, you sleep in the same bed at night but face your phone or games, and the conversation between you is nothing but your child's feces and farts except what to eat for dinner.
This has never been anyone's responsibility or complained about. Most of the people who have come to this stage are safe and sound. Most people live in peaceful despair, so who is better than whom?
This is the true face of life, and it is also the daily life of marriage and family that you will endure and cherish. Every detail around Marlow is enough to chat for three or five hours as the subject of her best friend's afternoon tea. The faces of housewives and husbands can always find 60% similarities.
And then again, who turned who into what it is now?
"Mother's love, it's a long time to come"
Struggling in the rubble of life, Marlowe chose to seek the help of a night nanny, a 26-year-old girl named Tully. To be able to take this step, to a certain extent, this is a contest between reason and emotion. God knows how many old mothers have fallen into the first big pit due to the psychology of protecting the calf. Therefore, after walking the road of my first child, I have already told myself with certainty that if I can do it all over again, if economic conditions permit, please don't refuse confinement centers, babysitters, etc.!
The arrival of Tully seemed to gradually relax Marlowe. Get a good night's sleep. After getting up early, Tully has already cleaned up the messy house or made delicious cupcakes for the children. He will accompany Marlowe to watch movies and chat, tell each other's secrets to Marlowe, and encourage Marlowe. Marlowe slipped out at night to dance and clubbing, and even helped Marlowe complete the sex act that he always wanted to do but was afraid to do.
Tully let Marlowe slowly cheer up, pack himself up to deal with the mourning of life, and also told Marlowe that mother's love will grow in the future, "You created this little life from beginning to end, and no one will know her better than you until she grows up. A truly independent individual", please treat yourself first, and then face your children.
Don't think that the last simmering is a pot of thick chicken soup, and the reversal is a more sad confession. This is left for everyone to see for themselves, without spoilers.
Anyway, for the glorious dream of a tired hero, a small person like me will not pay for it. It will surely continue to be lost, and it is not the voice of a middle-aged woman!
Here is Xixi Meow Sauce
an unloving old mother
Got two cats, lost one
Raised a baby, lost myself
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