Marlo is a tired, depressed housewife on the brink of collapse. This is evident from the very beginning of the film. Marlo always pops out of nowhere, and I really want to kill myself. Also, I'm like a big, unwanted cruise ship full of junk. This bizarre, negative rhetoric has clearly revealed her depression and insanity. However, the husband and brother just fooled her by joking and didn't really care about her psychological problems.
But Marlo is a strong woman. Although she was already on the verge of collapse, she still pretended to be at her ease and tried her best to make everything perfect. When it comes to her upcoming baby, she pretends to be very expectant and happy. When her cousin suggested that she find a nanny, she immediately said that she could handle everything without the help of others. When my husband asked about her condition many times, she always said lightly that I was fine, don't worry, and let my husband play games with peace of mind. Even when she finally got into a car accident because she was overworked and delirious, and her husband held her hand with red eyes, she insisted: I'm fine. . . Am I doing something wrong?
Marlo's state of mind is representative of a lot of women. She is holding herself to superhuman standards of perfection. You have to take good care of your children, you have to take care of yourself, and you have to be energetic, healthy, beautiful, and sexy every day. In order to achieve this standard, she took care of the children and all kinds of housework on her own. Even if you are exhausted and exhausted, you will never ask for help from others, even your husband. However, even this is still not able to meet their own standards. Unable to forgive her shame and mental state on the verge of collapse, she created the phantom Tully to help her share her worries.
However, everyone should understand that no one is perfect. Fertility can cause irreversible changes to a woman's body. Using this as an excuse to complain about not working hard enough and always comparing yourself to a young girl who has never had a baby is completely asking for trouble. What's more, long-term sleep deprivation and a weak postpartum body can deplete a person's willpower. A brain without willpower cannot concentrate on anything. Fitness, cooking, makeup, and reading that enhance the taste of life and help self-improvement all require energy. Exhausted from being tossed around by the three kids, all Marlo could do was lie on the sofa and eat potato chips and watch porn. Unwilling to be mediocre and longing for perfection, but she is really exhausted, she can only use the fantasies forced by her brain to replenish her energy. I don't know if it's a defense mechanism in extreme cases.
Many Americans regard children as sacred gifts for religious reasons, and until now many states have not allowed abortion. And many Christians don't use contraception. And they all think that having more children is a blessing, Dink is very absurd. Therefore, female Christians are also made to take parenting as their sacred duty. Now more and more feminists are rising, advocating that women are the masters of their own bodies, which has caused a lot of thinking and opposition. Some of this opposition comes from women who have already given birth to children themselves. This film may also want to use a more documentary method to let everyone see the hardships and torture women experience in childbirth. However, because of concerns about public opinion, they cannot have too strong emotional tendencies. You can only put the facts in front of you in a straightforward manner, so that you know what life is like with children, and it is up to you to decide whether to have children or not.
Although it is not known how many people will choose to have children in the end, after weighing the sacrifice and the joy of growing up in a new life. But one thing applies to everyone: accept your imperfections. Don't hold yourself to unrealistic standards. Be comfortable with your emotional vulnerability. Seek help when necessary and listen to your inner voice. May all women find their happiness.
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