I finished watching "Tully" on 2 flights back and forth. Very intimate subject matter, and for the past 9 months, I've been like the terribly sleep-deprived Marlowe at the beginning of the film. And now in my 10th month, just like her at the end of the credits, I am reborn.
Before I became a mother, in the European and American films I watched, three children were basically the standard for a family, and there were also housewives who handled it well. At the time, I couldn't understand why the lady in "Mad Men" had both a sexy and charming husband who took orders and two obedient children, and finally divorced with depression.
After becoming a mother, there is no need to explain, I understand.
"Tully"'s Charlize Theron is dedicated to gaining **kg to play the 40+ mother of three tormented by sleep deprivation and exhaustion. I am so impressed! Who is she! She is like a goddess in the Dior perfume advertisement!
Her original life had already exhausted her enough—the sensitive son was full of fear and anxiety about everything and faced being persuaded to be dismissed; the daughter entered a period of rebelliousness, and the child was difficult to support. The third child was conceived by accident.
Before giving birth, her brother persuaded her to hire a night sitter. But this matter was despised by her as the behavior of a rich person who has nowhere to spend. As everyone knows, her brother has already worried about problems for her that she was completely unaware of.
Sure enough, she was knocked down by Ye Qi.
Because she is no longer the 20-year-old mother, and she has not much energy left to deal with 2 little furry children; because she is no longer the person who dared to love and hate when she was young, and she is content with a mediocre life with a mediocre husband. , there is no improvement and passion in life; because of the interaction between her and her husband, the function of charging each other has been lost.
Before Tully came, it was no exaggeration to say that she was like a wandering corpse, numb to the surroundings. But at the same time, she was vulnerable enough to be overwhelmed by a milk storage bag accidentally knocked over at any time.
Lack of sleep is not a big thing, but it is not a small thing. If it continues for a long time without buffering the rest cycle, it is like a chronic poison, making you slowly become a disgusting person, not pleasing to the eye, and nothing can make you happy and satisfied.
This matter is also because of my personal experience with Sleeping Tangtang independently, and the experience is particularly profound. Facing the pitch-black night, you stared at the night sky with extremely tired eyes, and at that moment it seemed as if you were abandoned by the whole world. That's why insomnia and depression are inextricably linked.
My sleep problems have also affected family harmony and marital harmony. In addition to work reasons, I weaned the baby decisively around 9 months, and went to Zhuozheng for skin burial when I was very awake. It was as if life that had been out of control was slowly getting back on track, and everything was getting better.
Everyone knows what happened after that. After 10 months of sugar, she gave up the night milk and slept all night. The memory of neinei can be said to be very, very weak, and my attachment to me has been transferred to the grandma who accompanies her the most every day. . Also, my sleep was saved.
Unlike Marlow's way of silently guarding and bearing silently, I often complain to my husband that I can't sleep well. I have also experienced very intense quarrels. In the end, I found that the problem is really not how much the other party understands you, or that the other party has no way to really share for you (unless Marlowe meets Tully), the problem is that at this moment You can't get free.
Marlowe and her husband described the feeling after Tully came: "My eyes seem to be able to see the color again." (Tears)
Of course, in the end, Tully couldn't accompany Marlow all the time, and Marlow was very reluctant. In the end, you have to face everything yourself. Life is like this, most of it is something you face yourself, and no one close to you can participate. Marlowe couldn't take it, and she broke down again. No spoilers for this plot.
At the end of the film, Marlowe hugs her husband and her son.
The dialogue is as follows, tears run again.
(Marlow has to wipe the body of his son with a mentally sensitive disease every day, which has reduced his anxiety and sensitivity to the surrounding environment)
Marlowe: Do you like it when you wipe yourself?
Son: I like being around you, and I like being with you. feels good
Marlowe: Maybe that's the most important thing
Son: Maybe we don't need to wipe our bodies
Marlowe: ok ok
(son hugs mom)
Son: I love you...
Marlowe: I love you too...
The gift of time will quietly make everything better.
I was lying on the bed that day and sighed with my husband. It turned out that after I came over, I found out that in fact, the hard days of the past year will eventually pass. It’s just that we, who were in it at that time, were all wrapped up in exhaustion, tiredness, negative emotions and no energy. To think rationally. But now we are grateful for the time, no matter how hard it is, it will pass, and no matter how tired we are, it will be good to sleep.
One of my favorite lines in "Mary and Maria" is full of lovely optimism and positivity: bon appetite! (wish you good appetite!)
I want to say to every Ma Ma: I wish you a good night's sleep! ?
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