I remember that there was such a joke on the Internet, the daily conversation between a son and his parents. "Mom, where are my shoes", "Mom, what are you eating today", "Mom, can you get me a dress" and so on, but when Mom is not at home, the daily conversation becomes "Dad" , where is my mother?".
The first time I saw this passage, I felt that it told the current situation of many families, it was humorous, and even a little complacent, because such daily conversations fully proved the importance of women in the family, but then I thought about this kind of thinking. The situation actually restricts many women to a certain extent...
Today, I occasionally read an article saying that when many women become mothers, they can only enjoy a little peace and relaxation by hiding in the toilet when they face crying children, toys all over the floor, and unfinished housework every day. . When I saw this article, I immediately remembered the movie "Tully". The heroine Marlowe is the mother of three children. The eldest daughter is rebellious and perverse, the second son suffers from agitation, and the youngest son is waiting to be fed. Facing two bear children and a small baby And all kinds of tedious housework, life seems to crush her, every cell of her is screaming, but she still has to keep going. At this time, a night nanny named Tully entered her life. She was confident, cheerful and energetic. She helped Marlow deal with various things and encouraged Marlo to cheer up and find herself. Just when Marlo's life began to slowly start When we were on the right track and started to rediscover our original self, an accident occurred in a traffic accident. We found out through the traffic accident that Tully did not exist at all. The so-called night nanny Tully was just Marlow under great pressure. , another personality from schizophrenia.
We are all praising the selflessness and greatness of maternal love, but if becoming a mother means sacrificing all of yourself, facing endless housework and unfinished trivial matters, then let women choose whether to become a mother or not, I think most women should be hesitant.
Although today's society has been advocating equality between men and women, since it is advocacy, it proves that men and women are not equal. Of course, I do not deny the differences between men and women in terms of physique, way of thinking, etc., but in everyday society and in the modern workplace, society has always given men more tolerance than women, just like insulting other people's words, belittling a woman's personality There are always more foul language than men; women have always been lower than men when it comes to the height of the workplace ceiling. I remember Yao Chen once said that female stars dare not get married and have children easily. Getting married and having children means that you have to take the risk of losing your fame and having no films to shoot. It also corresponds to the life of ordinary people. It may mean that your job and position will be replaced, so women's pain on the road to becoming a mother - not only from the physical effort and discomfort, but also from the psychological pressure that is enough to destroy the sanity... …
I remember a scene in the movie, Marlow just gave birth, the doctor told her to drink a lot of water to urinate, but because of postpartum sequelae, her urination was not smooth, when she was in pain, the doctor was still staring at her to see if she was urinating Smooth, at that moment she was both ashamed and angry, because for her, something as private as urination had to be watched nakedly. At that moment, she seemed to be no longer an independent person, but more like a lifeless machine. I do not deny that doctors observe mothers from the perspective of health, but whether it is mothers or anyone, we hope that at any time, others can give us the most basic respect for privacy.
Please be sure to remember "Before my mother became a mother, she was also a little girl who needed protection and love, so even if one day she became a mother and began to become strong and unyielding, please give her some time occasionally. Let her be herself and give her some space so that she can have inner freedom, because besides being a "mother", she is still "herself"."
View more about Tully reviews
