There are no normal people in the world. Every adult is carrying a large basket of sad things, one by one in reality, the little people who have no choice but to be played by fate. Everyone is mentally ill, why pretend to be a normal person, you are not tired.
The only child was already lonely, and Chandler had been stimulated so much since he was a child. There is no warmth in the family for him. It's okay for parents to get divorced. American society is very enlightened, but it's really rare to have such a personality. My mother has such a kind of Muzi beauty, completely disregarding the worldly views, and being a maverick is really a good life. Who cares what little Chandler feels, the whole world knows his mother's slutty life, and her mother can confess with everyone. It is admirable, but there is no time to care about Chandler. His dad is not only gay, he's also cross-dressing, and, also, openly. Forget it. Go after the life you want, so that you can get together and get away. As long as you are willing to care about your children, these blows are nothing. Why are you still having a divorce in front of your children on Thanksgiving, the most important family reunion festival in the United States? The child didn't understand anything at first. Everyone lied to the child about how beautiful the world is. Then suddenly he saw his father run away with his manservant. I really don't know what to thank in this world. Great stimuli often bring about major psychological changes. This stimulus made him start smoking, and he will not learn to speak well in this life. Sometimes the appearance of humor is not meant to bring happiness to people. At first, people don't like to lie, and some things are honest and they will bring harm to themselves. In the end, people who don't want to cheat others with their conscience have no choice but to say nonsense. Chandler's silly joke is a means of self-protection. When it becomes a habit, it is impossible to think about it. Homosexuality is inherited, and it is not so black and white. The percentage of each person is different. Chandler has been suspicious of his own orientation, and he does have a tendency to evolve into homosexuality. Many very deep male friendships have this tendency to some extent, even if they don't realize it or don't admit it. Such as Marx and Engels...haha. It is a deep and pure love in spirit, although there is no physical relationship. For example, he is somewhat of this kind of manifestation of Joey's perennial dedication and tolerance. This tendency can be induced. For example, if Joey is gay, then Chandler may be induced to get along with him for a long time. By the way, I personally think that it is very inhumane to be induced into homosexuality if a person is not obviously inclined. But if it's his own choice, it's ok. In this regard, Chandler has been undecided for a long time. Such a person, do you think he has a sense of trust in his family and marriage?
But everything is so contradictory. The episode where the old man died downstairs was obvious. On the one hand, Chandler unconsciously always breaks up with people for no good reason, because they don't want to deepen the relationship. It seems that he does not want to be responsible, but in fact he is a person who is willing to be responsible. It is his willingness to be responsible that makes him not want to give himself a responsibility easily but cannot afford it. I want to say, maybe it's not that the girls he met earlier are bad, nor that Chandler is too picky, but they are not suitable or really fate. Seeing the end of the old man downstairs dying alone, he was scared, afraid that it would be himself in a few decades. I'm afraid that the other five people will all get married in the end. What should I do if I leave him alone? There is no place for his emotions. A person is afraid of getting married and having a family, and at the same time afraid of being alone for a lifetime, so choose the lesser of the two. After all, one can't spend it like this. If you never get married, you will eventually be abandoned by your friends. When your friends have the constraints of a family , There will be no more friendship like when you were single. People who had this kind of "abandoned feeling" when they were young are more afraid of being "abandoned" again when they grow up. Out of fear of a life of loneliness, he was serious about having long-term relationships with Janice, whom most people couldn’t bear. After so long, he always had the spirit to devote himself to Chandler. It's emotional dedication, not pure sexual relations, otherwise, how could you refuse the top beauty who has a husband and many boyfriends who can have sex without being responsible. He doesn't like to play like Joey. Joey didn't know what true love was after all these ten years. He is an older boy with only a conceptual understanding of responsibility.
Comparing people's happiness and misfortune is inherently stupid. Well, people like Chandler are suffering, as if many people still understand it. Monica must have suffered from childhood pain. Many people said that she didn't know how to groan. Both parents, high social status in the family, no shortage of money at home, and a brother, and friends. Others will say that Phoebe didn't suffer after suffering so much. What's so painful about Monica. This is really a mess. My god, you're not Monica, how can you know how she feels? Why do you want to say that, you! Not only are people incomparable, but there is absolutely no need to compare, because everyone needs a different life. Then maybe Phoebe is born to be so tugged, you can see when they really get angry, facing a cow, you can't compare it! Don't look at Monica being so bullish and boisterous all day, do you think she thinks, isn't she forced? Phoebe is the real cow. Whatever you want to do, no one will throw it away, an orphan, no concern, she can survive wherever she is thrown, she is kind, and very happy, she is not a mere mortal!
Unfortunately, Monica has a well-studied brother, but his parents are totally partial to her brother, and then extremely picky about Monica. From the perspective of ordinary people, Monica is not bad in reading, and her knowledge level and cultural accumulation are good. Compared with Rachel Phoebe, Monica reads a big book, but she can't stand up to reading prodigy like Rose. compare. Of course, in the tenth season of Rose’s black girlfriend, Rose also had a time when he was afraid of comparison. He was pretty good, but one of his ex-boyfriends was a Nobel Prize winner and the other was a two-time Nobel Prize winner. There will always be someone dragging you than you. If you are too unconvinced to care about it, you can only end up vomiting blood and die in Zhou Yu's end. The most depressing thing is that even if you don't want to compare, someone who can't stand it wants to compare. Parents compare every day, what can you do?
There are also people who don't have backache while talking, saying that they are all a family, so there is nothing to worry about about this matter. The person who said this is too ignorant, why did Cain kill his brother? Do you ask him if he is neurotic? It is really a jerk to say that. If you are normal, you are normal and you are not neurotic. Parental bias is a great harm to children. A soft knife kills without seeing blood. Her parents have been persistently criticizing and criticizing her for a long time. The most cruel thing is that they still tell the truth. It just tells the bad truth and doesn't tell the good-or doesn't think there is anything good at all. What's wrong? You just don't study well. Look at your brother. But that's it for you. You are not learning materials, so forget it. Do we have any hope? It seems that these words are not lethal? Hum, lethality lies in perseverance. Moreover, the parents agree with their words and deeds, and they honestly show their partiality towards Rose in their actions. When she was a child, Monica didn't feel that she was loved. She must have thought she was worthless for a long time, and it was really meaningless to live in the world. Not to mention the ugly duckling who is also inferior in school. It is difficult to find a sense of self-worth. So she thinks that what the parents said is that I am not good, so I will try my best to show them. In the end, she was pleasantly surprised to find that, no matter how hard she was and how good she was, her parents were always picky about her, and they didn't trust her at all. They might care more about their reputation than Monica's feelings. And this kind of eccentricity can persist until she reaches adulthood and even persists for a lifetime. Wow ha ha ha, look, there is no reason to talk to your parents! Comrades, if you kill people in the future, don't use such low-tech pistols. Learn from Monica's parents. As long as you use your brain, there must be a way. You can easily kill people without paying for their lives and gain a good reputation. I'm really not kidding. You don't know how powerful it is to persevere. How good is this power to be used for good deeds. Life is really sad.
Monica later put all the joy of life on food, replacing love with food. Thank goodness that people can live if they have something they really like. Later, Monica became a chef. Who said she was worse than Rose, and she would die if she didn't become a scientist? The best pick. Although her parents are still like that, even though Monica has a good career and looks good at this time, her parents still think she is bad and nobody wants her. She is accustomed to being harsh on herself, how pitiful a person so good is that she is not as harsh as she looks like, and she does so many things for her friends every day, but it's not good enough. Especially once the parents pick her up again, this stimulus makes her want to collapse on the spot. It is easy for her to not believe in herself in front of her parents. I really think it's better for Monica to rarely see her parents. Don't irritate her. She is a normal person.
People like Monica are really thankless. Then you have to be strong, you let her go to play and sleep, she doesn't want to. You don't let her take care of her panic. A six-person line, how did six people get together? The core of their relationship is actually Monica. The first scene of friends is the sofa in the cafe with Monica as the center. The first line of the whole play is also from her. Monica unconsciously became a housekeeper, making everyone a happy small circle. She cleaned every day and made good food for everyone. During the festival, Monica would hold a party and make a table of dishes. But everyone can't help but think she is picky, and can't wait to say: You don't do it, you don't be harsh, we can't stand it. Ugh.
You asked me how to solve these problems? I said that the time has accumulated too long, so forget it and accept her. Just let her pay attention when educating the next generation. It's best not to have problems, and to solve them when they can be solved, it won't be solved after a long time.
Ugh. No one is more pitiful, everyone is the same, but those of us who were once poor can still live happily. Everyone is angel with broken wings, hug each other to keep warm. You say that Monica is not so strong, and you say that women shouldn't be so strong. You say Chandler is negative, but you say he should be positive. But they can't change these problems. After too long, these problems will not change. They have been finalized. In fact, personality doesn’t matter whether it’s good or not, only suitable or inappropriate. Chandler couldn't just change his negative attitude towards marriage. If a gentle girl fell in love with him, he might end up falling out or breaking up peacefully. If it wasn't for Monica to be so strong, or for Monica to finally propose to Chandler, how could these two people, just by loving each other, guarantee that they could hold onto their true happiness?
It was only in Chandler and Monica getting along that the character transformation was truly completed. True love makes people mature and become more and more responsible in their hearts. This is an unconscious process, and it is also a long-term process. The character foundation created by childhood experiences cannot be reversed all at once. Based on the fear of marriage, Chandler tried to escape several times. Monica scared Chandler when she booked the church, and Monica explained it well; at the casino, she almost got married at the same time, but in the end it didn't. On the contrary, Ross Rachel got married somehow. At the end of the wedding, he escaped from marriage. Rose and the others arrested him. The fate of mishaps is really endless and interesting. Chandler thought Monica was pregnant and didn't run away again. Real feelings are always like this when you think about it. They seem to be destined, but they have to go through so many twists and turns; such twists and turns are like going in this direction indefinitely.
Perceptual version:
Regarding Monica, I believe that in China, many people have also felt this way, that they can be recognized and even highly praised by friends at work, but parents always blame it, and their family members are not confident in front of them. . I couldn't bear the expectation of my parents, and I worked hard, but I couldn't do anything to my parents' satisfaction, so I felt guilty, powerless, and wronged. It may even evolve into becoming nervous when seeing your parents.
Chandler I understand, but the understanding is not so deep because of the lack of a foundation for understanding. For example, he has a tendency to be homosexual. I sympathize with some kind-hearted and upright homosexuals, but I still don't understand what that is all about, but I don't want to understand too much haha.
Fortunately, my problem was not as serious as hers. Although my mother didn't praise me, but then I realized that she recognized me and didn't love me. So my problem can be solved. The psychological torture that I used to be, through self-recognition and adjustment, it becomes nothing.
Everyone has the shadow of different people in their hearts. The bottom of my heart is actually not Monica, but a little Rachel. Heartless. And my character is better than Rachel, and I can have a good temper a lot because I don't care about it. And there is a little Phoebe. Sometimes he can naturally follow his heart and not care about social evaluation. I believe that when you watch it, you will also feel that you have different aspects of different characters, so that it will resonate more!
The relationship between people is so interesting. Some people just get along. I think if I had a roommate like Monica, I would be very happy. She cleaned the house, she cooked something for me, and she ordered whatever I ordered, and she made whatever I ordered, so she could run quickly. She cares about me and I leave it to her. Anyway, it is not me who does the work, but her. I only need to do one thing, and she will be particularly happy, and that is to constantly and sincerely acknowledge her, because she is too short of this stuff! I praise her all day, she will be very satisfied, and will feel very excited to do these things. I don't need to work, I just need to say sincerely: delicious! Why is it so delicious! too delicious! Why is the house so clean! Why are you so organized! This chair is good! Monica, you are so beautiful! Where did you buy this dress to match your temperament! Monica, your restaurant is so good! Why are you so smart! I don't know how to cook! I was born stupid in this respect. I can't swallow the food I cook. Alas, I really admire you!
If I take the initiative to wash the dishes occasionally, Monica classmates will think that I am the best person in the world, not an exaggeration.
The point is, what I told her was true, not false. I can also make some comments occasionally, and she will listen carefully and make it more delicious next time. So I didn't bully her, I never bullied people.
The interpersonal relationship is like this. Over time, everyone will happily help each other in all aspects. What scheming, is it necessary?
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