Life is individual, but identity is made up of "the collection of others"

Manuel 2022-04-19 09:02:30

Eileen Chang has a saying, to the effect that the deceased relatives will accompany you all your life, and die again when you die. These words are like the wisp of grandpa's cigarette smoked by Billi half-awake. They are the phantoms and representations of deceased relatives in everyone's dreams... These fragments of others constitute "I" and "I"'s perception of "I".

This film is definitely not about life education, it is more like the director's homeland complex, a journey to find his roots, intimacy, the collision of Eastern and Western cultures, and his identity as a Chinese... But what touched me the most was the reaction to the death of a loved one . When my grandmother died, my parents did the same thing as Billi's parents. They told me after the fact that I was about to take the high school entrance examination, and only met at the funeral home for the last time.

I can't say this is right or wrong. After all, I didn't visit her often when she was hospitalized. How meaningful is it to see her for the last time. But if you don't visit her, it's not that you don't love her, it's more that you don't know how to face it, how to face a person you love, who makes up your life, and who occupies your memories, is about to leave forever... I walked downstairs to my grandparents' house, "They won't be here either"...In fact, "don't tell her" is not because you are worried that "she" can't face it, but we, our relatives, don't know how to face it, how to face the fragments of life that make up us, which will be forever incomplete.

After all, no one ever taught us how to face death, adults only told you to "live"...

Coming back to this film, I don't think the director doesn't understand China, let alone what "black" China is. Her emotional expression is indeed not that Chinese, unlike a very Chinese person who talks about Chinese affairs, and some stand on the sidelines. The feeling of thinking and asking questions. But in her eyes, these things are really happening in China's daily life. Maybe some exaggeration and interpretation, but this is not a documentary. Everyone has a "real China" in their hearts. Why do we think that a Chinese is trying to Is it "fake" in the eyes of Chinese Americans who seek self-recognition in their homeland? Otherwise, how do you shoot so that it is not "black"? Do you shoot like that in Xiao Shi? Everyone lives in urban high-rises and spends a lot of money. Are parents short-lived without firewood, rice, oil and salt?

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  • Christa 2022-03-25 09:01:14

    I thought that there would be a lot of so-called "foreigners' curiosity", but in fact they handled it quite comfortably and naturally, the emotions were delicate and just right, and I could feel the sincerity. Digression: My grandmother was also in the late stage of lung cancer. At that time, everyone chose to hide it and pretended that it was not a serious illness, but in the end, my grandmother passed away after only half a year, and the dying days were very uncomfortable. When I was watching this film, I always thought of my grandmother, so I couldn’t hold back many bursts of tears. I also wondered if my evaluation of this film would be different if I didn’t have such similar experiences and emotions.

  • Nathaniel 2022-03-25 09:01:14

    Four and a half stars. If you have not grown up in the Northeast, even a native Chinese, it is not easy to appreciate the suffocating feeling of the details of the film. Wang Ziyi really wants to present a sense of art too much, and his techniques are sometimes a bit fancy, sometimes creating a kind of visual embarrassment. But if you think about it a little bit, this kind of choking taste is not at all a disgust for dazzling skills, but your shyness in the face of those too vivid vulgar and indecent. You know from the bottom of your heart that many of the behaviors shown in the film are caused by a lack of civilization from a social perspective. But because he is Chinese, such dazzling becomes a self-esteem conflict. Just like the people in the play use the play to cover up their loss, but they can also glow with kindness, which is very two-sided. The role of mother is the sharpest, yearning for freedom but unwilling to bear the secular world of the East, but every corner of her is branded with traces of the East. And the grandma, who is the core of the discussion, doesn't know what happened? How could it not know? But her momentum is the best illustration of group empathy. I really hope that Awkwafina and Zhao Shuzhen can touch the Oscars. Maybe the West is still just looking at it as a novelty, but it's not bad, it's already here.

The Farewell quotes

  • Jian: I don''t like, you know, put all my emotion on display. Like I''m in the zoo. But in here, if you don''t cry, you don''t put a show, they think that you don''t love your family. You know, in here, they even hire some professional criers. Just to show how sad they are. It''s just so ridiculous. I hate that.

  • Nai Nai: I walked the path of life and I have to say, you will face with difficulties. But you have to have an open mind. Don't be like a bull hitting his horns all over the walls of the room. Life isn't just about what you do, it's more about how you do it.