The conversation came to an abrupt end, and both of us fell silent.
After a long time, Brother Hai said: Do you think we will become like that one day? Now we still use the upper mother. She helps us bring the children and cook, and we go there every day... One day when the child is old, she can't do it anymore, and she doesn't have to look after the child. Short time stay?
Yes, we will become like that. I said. However, life is reincarnation, no matter how good we are to Baozi now, no matter how attached Baozi is to us, one day, she will become like that.
In the movie, Noriko said to her youngest sister, Kyoko: Yes, maybe one day I will become like that.
Is life disappointing?
yes.
this is life. Yasujiro Ozu is worthy of being a great artist, because, on this black and white light and shadow, he wrote the word "life". Everything that is "human, too human" can always break through the siege of time. For thousands of years, people seem to be the same.
Yasujiro Ozu's films are utterly boring for those who have no patience and no life experience. Take "Tokyo Story" as an example, there is no intense dramatic conflict from beginning to end. It is about an old couple who went to Tokyo to visit their son and daughter, but soon after returning home, the old lady died, and the children came to go to the funeral. s story. Traditionally, we say a movie is good, at least if it's dramatic, obstructive, challenging, or something that stimulates you sensually, or shocks you from the bottom of your heart. And Yasujiro Ozu's film, none of these, it is about the mundane world, you may not have much shock when you watch it or just after watching it, but as time goes on, these lights and shadows will always be there. It entered your mind inadvertently, and finally one day, you realized it later, with hot tears in your eyes, you turned out the old disc again, and read it again and again.
At that time, you finally completed a complete divine relationship with the deceased director, and you will understand that life is plain and subtle. Some things, if you don't understand or say something, are an inevitable choice in life, but Yasujiro Ozu vented your unresolved emotions through the silence of the video.
I used to say the same thing as my younger daughter, Noriko said, when she was young, she thought the same thing: they were all too selfish. Some children will take advantage of their parents' good face and loot their parents' home after they become adults. Just like the eldest sister, she asked for something right after her mother was buried. The youngest daughter was clearly dissatisfied, but she agreed immediately.
Maybe you have experienced it too? Obviously dissatisfied in my heart, but I just can't express this feeling. He clearly wanted to fight for his parents, but they just smiled "hehe" - ah, you are all grown up, or, just like dad, obviously want to keep the children for a while, but still give "they" busy at work" excuse. As another child, no matter how resentful he is in his heart, he can only suppress this resentment.
Fifty years ago and fifty years later, most families are similar. The younger daughter did not continue to complain, she left home to go to work. One day I also left home for a long, long time, and because of work and other reasons, I rarely looked back at myself at that time. At that time, I said this sentence, like this little daughter. Until I watched "Tokyo Story", I suddenly thought, haven't I been the same all these years?
Sure enough, when you reach the age of the eldest sister, you will think that your life is more important.
Big sister and brother, and little brother, they are not strictly bad people, just like you and me in life. However, if parents come to see them and ask them to say: Now they are homeless, it is really sad.
Some people are indeed too selfish, and they only think about their own lives, but they never think that their parents have theirs too. The meaning of the existence of parents is not only to be a stepping stone for the growth of their children, they should also have the happiness they should enjoy. They are parents, but they are also people.
Dad said to mom, ah, wasn't Fan also a child who was passionate about people when he was a child? It's just that when the child grows up, it changes.
How many parents only remember how well-behaved you looked, and are unwilling to accept how you grew up. Every time a child hurts, you need to use this sentence to comfort yourself. And these, the children may not know. Even sometimes they know, but they smile contemptuously: they are old.
The eldest daughter asked her parents to go to Atami for vacation. In her opinion, this was the best arrangement. You can either spend them, or let them recuperate. However, the needs of your parents may not be what you think. Maybe you think that spending thousands of dollars to eat abalone and seafood is filial piety, but in fact, they just want to eat a mouthful of salty porridge at home. They came to Tokyo not for recuperation, but just to see the children. Children, on the other hand, are inconvenienced by the need to make adjustments in their own life patterns.
In my opinion, what Jingzi said is right, the eldest sister is indeed a selfish person. It's just that girls are outgoing, which has existed since ancient times, and maybe the future Jingzi will become like this. She didn't want to admit her parents, saying that they were relatives from the countryside; she was furious after her father was homeless and drunk and was sent back by the police; her son-in-law wanted to visit her parents, but she thought it was unnecessary, so she bought back cakes, She thought it was a waste... But when she heard that her mother was helpless, she cried at that time - I believe, it was sincere.
People are so complicated. When it does not affect your life and does not involve your own interests, you are all sincere, but once there is a conflict, you will be more scruples about your own life. Fan wants his parents to go to Atami to borrow money from his brother, which is so expressive. In a family with many children, there will always be someone who is calculating. I like to be the master, I prefer others to be arranged by myself, and I want others to be grateful, but I don’t want to really give. They are very good at kidnapping others in the name of "filial piety", and most of the kidnapped can only endure it silently. Because most families like this cannot communicate with each other. In adulthood, everyone maintains a superficial peace. For this kind of behavior, there is only avoidance but no direct exposure. We are all Asians, and there are some things that not only can’t be explained, but also can never be explained. No one wants to be accused of "compromising" and "unfilial piety".
This is Yasujiro Ozu. It only took more than two hours to condense the family history of a person's life. You can be anyone in the movie, or you can be someone who jumps out of the movie to examine yourself and express yourself.
Even if it is a big family, the final outcome is actually loneliness.
Setsuko Hara said, I will never grow old. A few years after the film was made, she lived in seclusion in Yasujiro Ozu's hometown, never married, and passed away in 2015. It is said that the prototype of Jin Min's "Millennium Girlfriend" is Setsuko Hara. She really will never grow old, because perhaps Yasujiro Ozu has had a deep influence on her. She has an early insight into the truth of life. People who understand time will never grow old. If you understand yourself, and you understand him deeply, you will never grow old.
Dad said, I should have been nicer to her if I had known. In fact, isn't it because Yasujiro Ozu told the audience that everyone is bound to die, you should be nice to him, your partner, your parents, your confidant, and your siblings.
Maybe when you understand, the person you want to be nice to him should be gone.
Brother Hai said, at that time, I had to visit her often.
So next year, he said he would take his mother-in-law on a trip.
In fact, I sometimes envy him. I understand the movie, but the reality does not give me the possibility to practice. I burst into tears in Ozu Yasujiro's movie, yes, for some people, they have no malicious intentions, in order to make their life healthy, in order to make themselves live a good life, they can only choose "my life is better" important".
However, we do understand each other.
This is Yasujiro Ozu's philosophy, human and soft.
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