In fact, the core vocabulary: sense of existence, sense of belonging, value realization.
Being needed is a blessing. If the source of need is also something you feel is worth paying; at the same time, you will be grateful for your contribution, understand and support you, and you will have a sense of belonging, responsibility and existence. This kind of giving with feedback is the driving force of life.
For example, there is a girl around who likes a boy very much, and she takes the initiative to show her goodwill, and she pays and waits very firmly; this girl is very good and the salary is high. Another girl, very good at talking, doesn't work, doesn't do housework, reads newspapers and magazines every day, and goes shopping. But the boy chose the second girl. Why?
Because the second girl needs him, give him a chance to show. If you perform well, you can get praise, appreciation and admiration from the other party. This is his emotional need. His emotional value can only be realized if the second girl can give him a sense of existence and a sense of belonging.
However, different people have different emotional needs. Some people hope to be an equal partnership, some people need the other party to pay for their own enjoyment; some people need to pay for the other party's enjoyment.
Happiness is finding the right person. who is right? The person who gives you motivation in life is the person who can give you a sense of existence, a sense of belonging, and the fulfillment of your emotional expression needs.
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