"Your family is in the world, and you can be proud of your children and their achievements. If you ask me, I have to honestly say that everyone is fine."
This is another film about family, about fathers.
At first, I knew that the movie was on Weibo, and I saw the reprint of the movie resources. After a month, I found it at home on vacation and watched this tender movie intermittently. After watching the movie, my thoughts are heavy, and I don't know what to say in my heart. It's impossible to judge whether the father Frank in the movie is right or wrong, like he said, he had no dreams when he was young, and when the four children were born one after another, it changed, he just wanted to be a good father. Although his wife left after getting old, he went to the children's cities one by one, only to find that their life was not as good as the one on the phone.
Young Frank used to be a worker who coated telephone lines. His work protected the wires from external corrosion and ensured that the two sections of the telephone line were connected to each other. Perhaps no one has ever observed those high-hanging wires outside the window. Frank works diligently and has unlimited expectations for his children. But in the eight months since his wife's death, he slowly realized that the distance between him and his children was getting farther and farther.
He was looking forward to the children coming back on the weekends, and the family would sit and eat together as before. However, when he was excited to buy all kinds of food, he received calls from the children one after another. They all said that they missed him, but they were sorry that they could not come back. So, just like when he went to the first daughter's place and said, "It's okay, you don't have time to come back, then I'll come to see you."
He ignored the doctor's advice and took medicine for a trip to the family, and he walked step by step. To the city where the children are, the children's home. He looked at the scenery along the way, and when he saw the children, he seemed to see them when they were young. Unexpectedly, in Frank's mind, the youngest son who should be a painter disappeared, and the surprise he wanted to give was not delivered. Then he had to go to the eldest daughter Amy, but it seemed that Amy's married life was not as happy as it seemed, and his grandson's grades were not as good as his daughter said. His daughter kept looking for reasons why he couldn't live long, so he had to go to the next place.
The son who thought he would be the band conductor was actually just a drummer, and the two had a long conversation after a long time, but just like the son said, he didn't know how to get along with his father, and if he stayed with him for one night, he didn't know do what. Frank goes to his daughter who has been dancing since childhood, and although life seems really good, it seems that he also hides something from his father. With everyone saying he was doing well, Frank headed home with suspicion. Because the medicine was smashed by a hooligan on the way, he suffered a heart attack and was in a coma. During the process, he saw four children sitting at a table, and they were talking about their real lives. It's not that it was intentional to hide it, it's just that they didn't know how to say those words to their father. Once my mother was there, those words could only be said to my mother.
Frank said he always wanted to be a good father, but. When he woke up and knew that his youngest son, who had been giving hope, was gone, he was heartbroken, thinking that he had not given them a better company as they grew up. But when he saw the telephone pole painted by his younger son, as the clerk said, "David used to say that if it wasn't for his dad, he wouldn't be a painter, he might be a painter, and the dog would be there. Peeing on the wall..."
Frank finally returned to his home alone, standing by his wife's grave, talking to himself about his trip and the condition of his children. "If you ask me what I've learned this time, I honestly don't know. All I know is that if I could start all over again, I wouldn't expect that from my children. As long as they live happily, I'm very happy. I know I can't keep treating them like children, I can't tell them what to do, they have to find their own way. Sometimes what you tell me, I should listen more carefully. You tell me A lot of the details of the children's lives, and I...I ignored those words, so..." At last Christmas, the children all came back, with loved ones, as a family as before, Frank said: "Your family is in the world and you can be proud of the kids and their achievements, and if you ask me, I have to be honest, everyone is fine." He understood what it means to love, when you love someone deeply , will report good news to him instead of bad news.
This is the truest emotion that this film conveys. In Chinese culture, there is a "worry for a mother who travels a thousand miles". It seems that many times we connect the other side of our family to our mother.
When we go out to work hard, we often talk to our mother about our troubles and worries, and rarely talk to our father. Even if my father answers the call occasionally, we will only say: " Dad , is my mother here?" The communication between fathers and children has been improved, but it is also because of love that many children report good news and not bad news when they are outside. We are willing to tell our parents the good things about life, even if we had a really bad time, maybe the day we talked to our parents at night we just lost our jobs or just broke up with a lover.
This film is shot and expressed from a very simple perspective. The elderly Frank will take pictures every time he goes. He may not know that the suitcase can be pulled. Such small details may be the truth buried in the film. After we got married and established a business, we were far apart from our parents. Time and time again, we put off going back to see our parents, waiting for time to go back again and again. We seldom thought about it, maybe the last time we met, and the next time we met, there might be a lot of surprises.
In life, no one knows which will come first, tomorrow or an accident. In fact, the movie is very simple to express the emotions that people value in life, love, family, and even love between the same sex. We all have bad times, but if my parents would ask me how my life was, I would also say, "I'm doing well, I'm happy."
To love someone is to not make him or her worry about you. When you love someone, you want them to be well. When you love someone, you have high expectations for him or her. This is a very warm and touching movie. Old Frank finally understands his wife's love. They also love each other deeply. His wife won't tell his children's troubles, and Frank won't tell his wife during the 41 years of marriage. The turkey she roasted was too old.
We will all meet the person we love deeply and join hands with for the rest of our life. We will all face the aging of our parents. Many times we are indeed very busy, but no matter how busy we are, we go home to see our parents more, and our parents are looking forward to learning about our lives. and work.
We say to our parents, "I have a good life." Parents will ask again, is it really good? And our parents often say to us, "They are also living a good life." Just like us, they will only report the good but not the bad. We must learn to discover the bad that is hidden behind the "good".
When the whole family gets together at a table, it is really "everyone is good". The Chinese New Year is approaching. If you can go home, go home as soon as possible, put down your career and dreams, and accompany your parents. You have dreams you want to pursue, and your parents have them too, but their biggest dream is that you live really well.
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