Letting your partner check your phone has always been a controversial issue.
But I have to say that a person's marital status and attitude towards relationships are indeed hidden in the mobile phone.
As an inseparable communication tool, a mobile phone hides almost all of a person's secrets.
Who he likes, who he hates, who is loyal to love, or is hesitant, gender orientation, how much net worth... All the information of modern people can be found in his mobile phone. That's why mobile phones, like safes, have been set with unbreakable passwords. Now, in order to strengthen secret protection, mobile phone manufacturers have even come up with face recognition. This is good. If anyone wants to unlock your mobile phone except yourself, Just knock you out.
A few years ago, Liu Zhenyun, a writer with a keen sense of smell, wrote a story about mobile phones, which was actually a derailment story related to mobile phones - "Mobile Phone". The male protagonist in the story is a famous host, but he cheated on the female editor of the publishing house during his marriage. In the first marriage, his wife divorced him after finding out that he cheated on her mobile phone. After a lesson, he learned to behave well, and since then he turned his mobile phone to vibrate, but his second wife found out that he was still in contact with his lover.
The movie version of "Mobile Phone" starred Ge You, Fan Bingbing, and Xu Fan. Later, there was a TV drama version starring Chen Daoming and Wang Zhiwen. Both versions classically presented the convenience brought by mobile phones to modern people. troubles.
I went to watch an Italian movie, "Perfect Stranger," over the weekend, which is also based on mobile phones to explore marriage and human nature, which is equivalent to the Italian version of "Mobile Phones."
Although the themes are similar, what amazes me is that people from different countries have such a consistent feeling about the same thing.
The great thing about "Perfect Stranger" is that it brings all the contradictions into one party.
Three couples and an otaku had dinner together. In order to make the party interesting, the hostess made a suggestion to play a game similar to Truth or Dare. The mechanism of the game is that during the party, everyone takes out their mobile phones. , all messages received must be read out in public, and calls received must be answered in public and hands-free enabled. That is to say, in these few hours, everyone faces their friends and wives and discloses all their privacy.
Everyone calmly agreed to participate in the game, as if there was no secret at all.
But as a result, everyone's secrets are ruthlessly revealed, and almost everyone has something unspeakable: the husband who once risked jail time for his wife's car accident, but regularly meets every day. I received nude photos of my lover, but my wife also cheated on the Internet with a male blogger. She often sent text messages of love, and obeyed the blogger's request to go out without shorts. The man who seemed to love his new wife was actually He is an invincible scumbag. He cheated on two people at the same time. One is the hostess at this banquet, which is his brother's wife, and the other is a female colleague in the unit. He also enlarged the female colleague's belly, and he his new wife, and keeps in touch with his ex-boyfriend; the secret of the otaku who keeps claiming he has a beautiful girlfriend is that he's gay...
Of the 7 people at the party, 4 were all cheating or mentally cheating. Three marriages, none of which was a happy marriage, either the husband cheated or the wife cheated. In short, beneath the surface of love, hidden is the long-term estrangement. heart and unrecognizable feelings.
Through this game, the film actually discusses a lot of issues, such as homosexuality, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, whether or not to contact an ex-boyfriend, and most importantly, the issue of sleeping with a friend's wife... Each one is sensitive and sour Cool. It is precisely the problem that we often encounter in our life.
When watching a movie, I have a strong feeling, that is, when I turn on my mobile phone, it seems that no marriage is perfect. All seemingly good marriages are a pot of blood or chicken feathers!
Of course, this is not to say that reality is like this, but the film takes the situation to extremes for the sake of conflict. So you don't have to be suspicious when you are married, and you don't need to be afraid of marriage if you are not married.
Not all marriages hide ugly truths, and not all men cheat in marriage.
In the film, the male host Rocco is a distressed good man. He knows how to take care of his daughter and his wife. When the daughter called him and said that her boyfriend's parents were not at home, she wanted to invite her to his house tonight. When asked for his opinion, he replied, "If you recall and find it pleasant, then you go, if you feel hesitant, unsure, don't go, and don't think I'll have much support for you."
When his wife offered to play the game, Rocco objected, joking "I don't want to know if you have a lover."
The otaku who has been hiding his homosexual identity is actually a good man. Although he is gay and is called a dead gay, he knows how to love others better than anyone else. When he was discriminated against by his friends, he retorted and said : "Although I'm gay, it's better than cheating on you. I at least know how to love and how to protect the people I love."
A party broke up because of a game. All the truth emerges, husbands and wives are separated, and friends' plastic friendships collapse.
But this is actually just an assumption, if you play the game. In fact, that night, everyone did not play the game.
At the end of the film, the hostess of the banquet asks the man why he doesn't let him play the game.
The host said meaningfully: "Humanity is fragile and cannot stand the test."
Yes, human nature can't stand the test, but those hidden secrets, if not exposed, will still eat life further. Just like the couple who didn’t even have sex, cheated on each other and spiritually, but still maintained the illusion of love in front of others; homosexuals, they still lied to everyone and said they would bring their girlfriends to meet everyone in the future; The man, while driving home, read the text message from the hostess "I want you very much tonight." Then he happily replied "I want you too".
The life weaved by lies continues peacefully, with no tearing, no divorce, no friends breaking up, and no one breaking up with anyone. But such a sloppy life makes people feel very depressed.
There is always a feeling that instead of deceiving each other to maintain a relationship that has been riddled with holes, it is better to disclose the secrets to each other, sort out the relationship clearly, break up when it is time to break up, divorce when it should be divorced, and come out of the closet... Facing your own heart is the most responsible attitude towards life. The life of deceiving each other has no meaning other than grievances that disgust each other.
If it were my life, I would rather long for that night when I played this game. At least after confessing all the secrets, I no longer have to live with a heavy burden.
I don't know how other couples treat mobile phones and privacy. My own practice is that the password of the mobile phone is shared with the other half, and she can open my mobile phone to view any content at any time. I don't think this is an invasion of each other's privacy, but I feel , which is a good way to supervise. If human nature is fragile, we need to keep the alarm bell ringing all the time, in case we accidentally fall into the abyss of inextricability!
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