People who get married will inevitably have to reflect on what is the meaning of marriage?
The headlines that are popular in chicken soup for the soul nowadays seem to be advertised - "The ideal relationship between husband and wife should be good friends who can talk about everything", or "After ten years of marriage, they become the best of each other." friend", does that sound very familiar?
I don't know how the people who wrote these chicken soup for the soul have their own marriages, but the fact that this kind of thing can resonate so much shows that most people are very eager to live their marriages like this.
There is a topic with more than 100 million page views on Zhihu: [What kind of married life are you experiencing]. The highest number of likes are some sweet and happy marriages, and some of them are not so happy. A young mother said on Zhihu that after a few years of marriage, she and her husband became speechless. They used to talk so much, but now no matter what they say, they can't seem to get her husband's resonance and response. She can't. accept. The message below is divided into two groups. One group thinks that such a marriage is unnecessary, while the other group says that all marriages will eventually become like this.
The point of disagreement is, can a husband and wife really be soulmates in a marriage relationship?
Perfect Stranger tells us, no.
Everyone has secrets, and some truths shouldn't be on the table since they can hurt a stable relationship.
There are so many innocent and kind or dirty thoughts, we can only hide them in our hearts, but we can't express them in our mouths.
However, people often can't bear the pain of "I don't know". Once a clue is leaked, one can't help but pull it out and put it under the fluorescent light to see it clearly. Although the pain of "don't know" is immediately replaced by the pain of "how can you hurt me like this" when the truth is naked in front of you.
Being able to properly control one's curiosity when predicting a bad outcome requires extreme rationality and very good self-control. If you obey your instincts, you can only jump into the hole you dug for yourself impulsively.
The wisdom of marriage may be to know how to restrain one's curiosity and desire to know everything, and to understand that there is room for even the most intimate intimacy.
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