In the film "Farewell to the Loved Day" adapted from the novel "The Days End" by Kazuo Ishiguro, the Nobel Prize winner for literature, the elderly father, Steve Vinson, had a calm face and remained calm to his son when he was critically ill. Say: "I have something to tell you. I don't love your mother. I used to love her. When I stopped loving her, I found out that she was pregnant. But I am proud of you. I thought I would be a Good father. I tried my best."
I think this should be the secret that the old father wanted to reveal before his death. At the end of life, people know that they can't take anything with them, and they want to leave without worries, and they will tell the secrets buried in their hearts. Most of these secrets represent a truth, which should not be joyful, nor glorious, and sometimes even secrets that the whole family has not disclosed. Old Steve Vinson wouldn't say to his wife before she died, leave in peace, and then say that I don't love you, just because you're pregnant. In those days, in order to maintain the dignity of a gentleman, I still married you. That Steve Vinson's mother would die, and finally passed away sadly with resentful eyes. And this resentment will make old Steve Vinson feel guilty, even self-blame. Of course, he wouldn't be stupid enough to say that, unless he hated his wife. Just like the domestic drama "The Legend of Zhen Huan", Zhen Huan, who was bent on revenge, revealed the truth on the emperor's deathbed, and was angry with the emperor for his ruthlessness and injustice, which undoubtedly made the man on the sickbed die faster. And Zhen Huan also realized the thrill of revenge.
How many such truths in marriage have been concealed for a lifetime. When I saw the words of the old father in the film when he was dying, I felt a pain in my heart when I was off the screen. If it were me, and I knew that the man I was with for the rest of my life ended up marrying me, not because of love, but because I had to take responsibility, would I feel like I was cheated? I am still grateful that he has endured the lie all his life and gave me a complete home. He did nothing wrong, and in a way, he was even a tribute to the marriage. A marriage without love is like a tomb. Just have to take on the role of father and let him pretend to "love" his wife. How lonely they are, just to complete a home.
Some people say that the relationship between two people is fragile, so people have children and maintain a "triangle" relationship, because the "triangle" is relatively stable. It seems difficult or unrealistic to maintain love for a long time. I think we have love for our relatives. This kind of love may be the family affection that is thicker than water, brought from the mother's womb. It may also be that the dependence after the two have lived for a long time has finally become a living habit. Love and liking don't have to exist at the same time. Perhaps the homework we have to do for our loved ones who are close to each other is to combine love and liking. Marriage can't do love, but at least it's a blessing to be a family who will never give up and share responsibility in this life.
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