At the beginning of 2021, I began to vaguely think about the meaning of posting a circle of friends? I was even afraid of posting on Moments, and gradually, because I didn’t post very much, I began to look at other people’s behaviors in Moments from an objective perspective. I felt that a large part of it was to gain recognition and show off myself. Although it was not so high-profile, it still It's something you want to show others. Of course, I also found that there are some people in my circle of friends who have not posted a circle of friends recently, but they are very active and enthusiastic to praise and affirm others, and they are very curious about their psychological activities. Happiness is very good, don't others know? But do you need so many people to know that you are doing well? They know, there is no intersection in this life, what's the point? Maybe when I have a thorough understanding of this issue, I will fully understand the meaning of not posting Moments. I read and searched a lot of words such as Moments on Zhihu and Xiaohongshu at Station B. In fact, it is social media. I finally directed me to watch this documentary. After watching it, I found that many of the remarks about social media that I saw before were originally from For this documentary, I can't do it without watching Moments at all, because I found that I have to change my mentality. For example, seeing the virtuous and thinking about Qi, seeing the virtuous and introspecting to go to Moments, it seems like I stay out of the situation and observe and spy on other people's private lives. , while oneself can remain mysterious, one's own happiness and troubles can be quietly enjoyed or digested by oneself. As for posting on the Moments, I really have a bit of resistance recently, that is, sometimes I feel that I am very special and I want to show that I am special, such as which drama I have watched, which game I have played, and I especially want others to know about it, but I think about it. I have to send it out and be scrutinized and judged by others (no likes). Why should I gain approval through other people’s likes? Sometimes when I wake up, I think that I didn't rush to open WeChat to take a look because I posted on the Moments last night, so I feel at ease. Maybe I can quit it slowly. I have been thinking about this problem for almost a year, and the opportunity came at the beginning of the year. I sent two well-crafted pictures and texts to the Moments, so that when others see it, they will feel that my life is very fulfilling and happy, and I have accomplished a lot of things. But after I posted it, I was very empty, as if I had set up a huge flag. Only I knew if I was slapped in the face. Since then, I have tried to avoid posting it. After my birthday, I will post 2 circles of friends, I hope I don't want to send it anymore when I go out for a trip, I guess I'm really quitting it. In the new year, I want to try a few things: 1. Uninstall Weibo, Xiaohongshu, download it only when you need to search, or go to the web version to search, B station, Zhihu, and try to use the web version, WeChat Moments can be viewed , but try to watch it every 3 days. 2. Try to use only the necessary apps every day, and calculate how much screen time you spend on your phone with minimal use. 3. Even try not to use social media, not even your phone, what would life be like?
For mobile phones, for the Internet, and for social media, this is the first time we have experienced it. From the beginning, we like to play, indulge in it without knowing it, and suddenly wake up. It really takes a process. Thinking about the undergraduate stage, I only have Nokia and Oppo. When I was a simple old computer, I lived a very fulfilling life, and the research was successful. Now, I don’t need social media to attract others. My goal now is to do scientific research, live well, exercise, and live a good life. At this stage, the problem of social media will definitely be taken seriously by more and more people. Now that I have realized the problem, I will start to try to change it.
I hope that on December 12, 2022, I can look back and read this paragraph I wrote. I wonder if there is any progress?
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