This is what a son said to his biological mother.
Do you think he's so fucked up that he should be slapped in the face?
After watching "Why Home", you won't think so!
You'd think this kid shouted out everyone!
Zane, a little boy who was born in Syria and had to escape the war with his parents and fled to Lebanon, sued his biological parents in court. The accusation was extremely sharp: "Why did you give birth to me?"
The parents couldn't answer directly and found many reasons, but their minds were far less mature than this boy who was under thirteen years old.
They really should be in the dock.
It is the fault of the father to raise or not to teach.
No support, cowardice of the country.
Director Nadine Lamaki won the Jury Prize in the main competition unit of the 71st Cannes Film Festival with this film and was nominated for the Oscar for Best Foreign Language Film.
She spent 5 years making a story similar to a documentary.
And among them, there is indeed a lot of suffocating real material.
——The interpretation of the starring Zane is basically derived from personal experience. He really took his parents to court.
——The Ethiopian black mother actor, who was really arrested after the filming, because he did not have an ID card.
- That black baby is really uncared for. Whether it was abandoned or arrested because the parents did not have ID cards is unknown.
The director focused the camera on Zane, the little boy, and followed him around.
There are five scenes that are shocking and raise five thought-provoking questions.
In the first scene, Zane fought with a bunch of children with wooden sticks and guns since he was a child. The surrounding environment is very messy, which fully shows the background of this country affected by the war.
It is conceivable that in a few years, these children will have real knives and real guns.
This scene echoed many later, such as Zane turning the faucet, but only rusty water and stinky water came out. He cursed, "What kind of a fucking country is this!"
——The big environment is like this, what about the little people in it? Is it already doomed to a tragic ending, and is it possible to escape from the "dying circle"?
In the second act, Zane follows his mother, soaking clothes in prescription drugs to make money in prison.
This is "illegal".
Of course, he didn't know that it was illegal or legal, but he only knew that it was the norm, that he could get money by doing this with his mother, including working in a convenience store to get food. Although, he was very dissatisfied with the convenience store owner coveting his sister, and every time he threw the "gift" into the trash can.
The most shocking of these normalities of life is a bunch of children huddled together to sleep. Parents hum at night and only pull a curtain. The children listened with a look of helplessness, but they already knew it. They even know that a parent's humming means a new brother or sister will join soon.
In the eyes of parents, it is not bad to give birth to the child, feed it, and pull it big. As for whether he can learn survival skills well, it is up to him. Go to school, don't talk about it, the children can make money when they grow up.
——Having a child is the continuation of life, but why is it born, is everything just for the sake of giving birth? Do parents need to think carefully about this?
In the third act, the younger sister came to the red, and Zane immediately realized that the crisis was coming. Laihong means "mature" and is about to marry that pesky convenience store owner. Zane knows his parents too well, they will definitely agree and demand a "bride gift", and he will not consider whether his sister should marry or not, and whether she will be happy after marriage, she is just a child!
Sure enough, his parents gave his sister a marriage, and they fought against Zane who tried to obstruct him, ordering him to go back to work at the convenience store and continue to earn money.
Zane ran away angrily.
This run is actually a break. The parents really "sold" their daughter, and Zane thinks this is no longer home.
——Can you imagine selling your underage biological daughter as a commodity with your own hands? While secretly rejoicing in exchange for a lot of things, comforting herself that this is her best home, is it possible?
In the fourth act, Zane walks to a place and has no energy but begs a black female clerk for food. The female clerk moved with pity and took him in.
This place is also the only sub-shot that the director "leaves" Zane's main shot, targeting the black female clerk.
She is actually a breastfeeding mother, but she hides her identity, hides the baby every day, and brings it back quietly.
After taking in Zane, Zane became a part of this "family" and could look after the children at home.
This was in contrast to his own home at the time. Although he was equally embarrassed, compared to a bunch of younger siblings, he only had to take care of one, which was much better.
When the camera pans back to Zane, his face is content. It's fine if you continue to live like this.
But this is not possible. The children are getting older, and black mothers have to work hard to make money to get "legal proof" or smuggle. Just when she was committed to making money, she was arrested without an ID card.
At this point, the conflict point of the whole play arrives.
Without adults, only 13-year-old Zane is left to take care of the 1-year-old baby. How can he ensure that he will not starve to death?
Zane does a lot.
Although he used the method taught by his mother, he made "fairy water" with prescription drugs and sold it everywhere, and he also encountered bullying by older children, but he never gave up.
He is really much stronger than his parents. And this 1-year-old baby is not related to him by blood.
The reason why he did this was for the trust of "taking in his mother", where he felt love and thought this was home.
However, reality is always cruel. When the house was forcibly taken back by the landlord and the money he had saved could not be taken back, he really couldn't support the baby, and had to give the baby to someone who was a "document".
At that moment, the 13-year-old child burst into tears.
He also knew in his heart that it was "selling", but he couldn't say whether it was the same as his biological parents.
- What is right? What is a real home? Who is the real family?
In the fifth act, Zane intends to leave this ghost place and go home to his parents for "proof", but he is scolded by his parents all the time. He wanted to slam the door again, but heard the news of his sister's death from the swearing of his parents.
Such a small girl died at the door of the hospital because of a miscarriage.
Zane couldn't take it any longer and stabbed the convenience store owner with a knife, and was sentenced to prison.
At this time, an ironic scene arrived.
My mother went to visit the prison and said, "You don't have to worry about your sister's death, because I'm pregnant again, and there may be another sister soon!"
It was these words that led to Zane's thought-provoking prosecution!
- "If you continue to regenerate, they will also become the next me! So, why do you have to regenerate?"
In addition to this, there are also a few scenes of the processing, which are also very meaningful.
One is that Zane stripped the female statue's clothes and exposed her breasts, which not only showed his precocious puberty, but also implied his hatred for his mother.
The second is that when Zane was taking care of the black baby, there was light in his eyes, reflecting the sunlight outside the window, he felt very beautiful, in addition to being satisfied, he was more hopeful. And corresponding to the original family before, there is no light.
The third is that when Zane complained, he was really mature. The most important thing is that he did not hide his faults, but after realizing his fate, he urged his parents not to repeat the same mistakes.
What does this movie mean to us?
There are three cores.
One is the environment.
Born in such a difficult place in the play, it is difficult to have a place to stand, so what is home?
This scene is different from what we are now.
We are indeed lucky, but 70 years ago, our environment was the same, if not worse.
No country, no home.
Therefore, cherishing the stable environment, cherishing the motherland, and respecting the people who shield the motherland from wind and rain, and defend against bullets and bullets are the foundation of family as "home" and people as "people".
The second is the small environment.
The parents in the play only care about themselves.
Mother, overwhelmed by life, broke Zane's heart.
Father, there is nothing serious, he has never given fatherly love, and he has never established the image of a father.
As a parent, what should you do?
Is it just to give birth, not to raise, or just to regenerate?
This scene is not that far from us. The more you are born, the poorer you are, and the poorer you are, the more you are born, and it will not take long.
Since it is born, it must be nurtured. If you don't feed it, don't give birth.
Compared with Zane's parents, we are much better. At least the most basic things, such as food and clothing, will be given to the children, and we are also trying to create conditions for the children's all-round development.
Aside from these "material levels determine spiritual giving", what else do we need to pay attention to?
Still need to go up a level.
In addition to birth and nurture, education and education are also required.
Parenting is parenting.
The process of educating him is also the process of educating ourselves to grow.
Only by doing this can we have a healthy "home".
The third is the microenvironment.
Life, nurture, education, and education are not only concepts, but also reflected in every detail of life.
Let's not look down on Zane's parents blindly. In the process of raising children, we need to think about our hearts.
Did we yell at the kid at some point or call him a little jerk?
Does he often think that he is handling the child's demands rudely, and in his heart, has he also thought of accusing us?
Has there ever been such a time or some time when the children did not regard us as family and the place where they lived?
Doing the little things well and accumulating "love" bit by bit is the most important thing.
If after watching a movie, you only know how to feel compassion for others, then at best you only know one thing and don't know the other.
It is a meaningful attitude to be able to truly reflect on these big, small, and subtle places.
Country, home, love.
- Carson Mackay said: "Children's young minds are very delicate organs. Cold beginnings twist their minds into grotesque shapes. A wounded child's heart shrinks to be as hard as a peach pit for a lifetime, It's full of deep grooves."
- Long Yingtai said: "On the streets of Danshui, the sun shines diagonally on this scattered flower shop in the narrow alley. Muslims and Jews are slaughtering each other, Ethiopian old and weak women and children are starving to death one by one, New York Wall Street The stock market is crowded with people with nervous expressions - I, sitting on the stone steps with the light of the setting sun, am willing to wait a lifetime for this child to calmly tie the bow with his five-year-old fingers ."
Being a parent, there are no exams, but that is exactly the scariest part.
Every one of us who is or will be a parent should be like a man behind his back. We need to be more patient and gentle with our children, look at him rather than look down, and let him experience the difficulties of the country, the meaning of home, and the meaning of love. .
That's what we're all about - taking responsibility for the next generation and making kids smile like Zane did at the end.
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