We seem to have become accustomed to parents using various reasons to justify their neglect of their children, but here is the problem. In court, the judge reminded Zane's lawyer not to use the "scars" of Zane's parents to ask questions. Zane's parents retorted with tears in their eyes, "Look, I'm not good to them because my life is too difficult, you Don't judge the way I treat my children if I haven't lived such a sad life. It seems to be the case all the time. When one person starts to talk about his own suffering, others are instantly shorter than others. Of course, no one can laugh at the suffering of others, but even suffering is never a reason for parents not to love their children. In fact, the parents in the film are usually the most common. It's just that in the context of war and poverty, they have more natural excuses for whatever they do, so their behavior is even more outrageous. If you want to accuse them of ignoring and abusing their children, they can just pull out a shield and let it go. You are speechless. In the film, it's not that Zane's parents don't love their children at all. They will also be sad for Saha's death, and they will bring snacks to see Zane who is in prison, but they usually give their children the warmest words only "Go away, beast". Because their love is limited to this special moment, only when the child's situation seems worse than their own, they temporarily forget themselves and think of love through pity. The lowering of their posture at this time will make them believe that they are actually qualified parents, and use words such as "Saha died, and I also lost a daughter" to anesthetize themselves, so that they can ignore and abuse children more comfortably. There are many similar parents in life. Life is already so difficult, and I am almost exhausted. Why should I leave energy and love to children? Or, I don't have enough time for myself every day, how can I spend time with my children? Or perhaps, the affairs of adults are more important than the unimportant affairs of children, who are forced to talk about their worries for new words. Why should they listen to a child? As long as you occasionally express concern as evidence of love, you can say when you can't say it, "I said what I had to say, and I did what I could do. If you don't listen, it's up to you, and I can't control it." The clever way of excusing, and standing on the moral high ground of suffering, combine to form the perfect response of "I'm right, you're wrong". These parents are essentially no different from Zane's parents, except that there are less difficult times, less extreme behavior, and less serious consequences. They all see love as a kind of self-sacrifice. Loving others is like dealing with suffering. It is a laborious and unrewarding thing, so this thing naturally ranks as a more After important daily chores. But you look at the Ethiopian mother who struggles with her ID card every day. Love is not something that can be done at a certain height. Moreover, love is an expansion. This is true for both parties. People who use various reasons to shirk are actually Not smart, nor easy.
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