Freddie Highmore's previous works include "Bates Hotel Season 5" and "Tiger Brother Tiger Brother", and then successively appeared in the "Good Doctor" trilogy.
In this play, Freddie Highmore plays Sean, a surgical resident with autism who had a very unfortunate childhood. His father was very irritable and often beat and scold him.
Although his mother loves him very much, but there is nothing he can do. Fortunately, he has a sensible younger brother. In order to escape from his father, they left home. For this reason, they depended on each other for life. Not only did he wander with his brother, but he also protected and comforted him all the time.
For Sean, his younger brother was the person he loved and trusted the most, but unfortunately, during a play, he fell to his death from a height, and Sean was adopted by another family.
Because he has autism, he looks very different from ordinary people. He also lived in fear in the family that adopted him. Fortunately, he met Dean Glassman later, and started a new life for this.
Later, at the recommendation of Glassman, he became a surgical resident. In the process, he went from being reluctant to contact others and closed himself to slowly adapting to the environment and gradually being willing to communicate with others. In this adaptation process , the following points are worth learning.
1 Tell the truth and treat people with sincerity
In this secular world, each of us will have some lies to some extent, some are well-intentioned, some are concealed first, and some are deceitful and so on.
Sean as an autistic person, at the beginning, there is no lie in his world, because it does not conform to his logic, for this reason, no matter who he talks to, he is sincere and never lies.
Sometimes it's easy to hurt people by telling the truth, but it allows you to face the problem better instead of blindly avoiding it.
In life, we all like to listen to good words and praise from others, so it is easy to live in a false world, because everything is so unreal, and it is not good for our own growth.
For example, when a child has a terminal illness, when his family finds out the truth, should they tell him the truth? Many parents are smart enough to think that the child is too young to bear it, so they hide it.
However, many children are not stupid. During the treatment process, they will come into contact with some information more or less, and sooner or later they will know the truth. In the end, they find that they have been living a lie all the time, and the harm will be even greater.
There are also couples who were together very happily at the beginning. As time went on, they gradually found that they didn’t love each other, but because they were ashamed to speak, they were perfunctory each other all the time, and they were still looking for other objects outside. .
In fact, falling in love is not that complicated. Even if you have been with each other for many years, and suddenly you find that you don’t love each other, it’s fine to just confess to each other directly, because if you find out that you don’t love each other anymore, and you are still dragging it, it will be a problem for everyone. not good. Longer pain is worse than short-term pain, break up early and start a new life, which is better for both parties.
Life is too trivial, and it is more difficult than imagined to deal with it calmly and lightly. People say that growing up is a compromise, knowing how to make progress, how to balance, and how to bend and stretch. But I always feel that growth itself should be much richer than these. It should be after seeing the truth of reality, still retaining the original intention, waiting with sincerity, and still having the courage to move forward and the calmness to retreat.
2 Observe carefully and think calmly
When Sean sees a difficult patient, he is not overwhelmed, but observes the patient carefully and calmly thinks about countermeasures.
Sean has a habit. No matter how urgent the situation is, he will first construct a picture in his own world, immerse himself in it, and carefully search for the answer. After he has thoughts, he will seriously verify it. An invaluable ability.
However, in life, when we encounter urgent matters, we are always in a hurry and lose our way. For example, when we are driving and suddenly see a pedestrian or an animal, our minds will be particularly chaotic. People's minds will even go blank, leading to serious consequences.
And when we encounter troubles in our lives, we often get distracted, and at this time, we tend to be impulsive and do something out of the ordinary.
However, people with the ability to think calmly are different. What he thinks at first is not fear or escape, but will calm down, observe and analyze things carefully, and then take action.
When they encounter big troubles, they will start with small things, first easy and then difficult, because he knows that he will not be fat in one bite, and he will have a plan to do what he can do first, and practice it step by step.
And if he really encounters a problem that he is not ready to solve, he will also have a way to deal with it, they will take the initiative to seek help, because the ability of one person is limited, but the power of a group of people is great. , or will find more powerful people for help, there is a saying that, professional people do professional things, and the efficiency is multiplied with half the effort.
Of course, not everyone has this ability, but we can achieve it through practice. For example, we can start with simple things first, and then find a troublesome thing in life to practice.
Then try to calmly observe and analyze it, why it upsets you, and how to solve it. If you don't know, who can you ask for advice, this is a good habit. Through long-term deliberate practice, It will gradually develop the ability to observe and think calmly.
3 The ability to learn to learn
When Sean first came, he didn't know how to socialize, he had no friends, he was immersed in his own world, and sometimes he even took the wrong bus. He had a strong obsessive-compulsive disorder in life, but through everyone's guidance, he slowly The ground has changed.
For example, when Sean began to see a doctor, he always said things directly, never in any occasion, and sometimes it seemed very unreasonable; later, after living with Leia, because of obsessive-compulsive disorder, some of Leia's thoughts were Habits were unbearable, and he never cared about people.
Through the running-in communication between people, he slowly learned to understand others. He no longer locked himself in his own world, but tried to connect with this world and try to understand new things. Learned to ask others, learned the ability to learn.
In life, we learn knowledge first in school, but after graduation, we seem to let ourselves go, and we rarely study systematically.
But in this fast-moving world, if you don't keep learning, you will easily be eliminated in this era, because there is no so-called iron rice bowl in this era, but as long as you do this, even if you are old, you will not be with you. The world is derailed.
This ability is the ability to learn to learn. After leaving school, we no longer have special teachers to teach us, but we can be our own teachers and learn to learn by ourselves .
Now that the Internet is developed and there are so many books, as long as we remain curious, continue to learn, and learn the ability to learn by ourselves, we can keep up with this era even without teachers.
There was a very popular term before, called the Reaching Hand Party, which refers to a group of people, some of which are minors who have reached out their hands out of ignorance and laziness. He has the following characteristics:
The answer to any question is only obtained directly by others without thinking about it;
· Confidently ask others for the results of others at will;
There are many such people in our lives, and the reason why there are so many of them is that they are lazy, dependent, and have no ability to learn by themselves.
In order to avoid being a party, learning the ability of self-study is very important to our life, because it determines whether a person can live independently, whether he has the ability to think independently, and whether he can live the life he wants.
At last
In life, we will encounter all kinds of people and various things. First of all, we must correct our mentality and face them sincerely is the best way to solve the problem; when we encounter troublesome things or emergencies, don't panic. If we lose our way, the more urgent the situation is, the more we need to calmly observe and analyze carefully. Through repeated deliberate practice, we can develop good habits and solve problems better; in our life, we will encounter In many forms, no one will always be your teacher, but if you learn the ability to learn by yourself, this ability will benefit you for a lifetime, because only you will accompany you to the end.
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