Original title: She bet her life on marriage, from the president to the world's richest man, but...
Original 2017-02-14 Non-Ma Fei Non-Ma (WeChat Official Account)
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"There are two kinds of women. Those who want power in the world; those who want power in bed. )”
In the movie "Jackie", one of the most famous women of the last century, the "former first lady" of the United States, Jacqueline Kennedy (later married to the world's richest man at the time, "Greek Ship King" Onassis ), said so in his confession to the priest.
The next sentence she followed was: "What am I left with?"
The background of this statement is that in November 1963, Jacqueline witnessed the assassination of her then-husband, the 35th President of the United States, John F. Kennedy, and suddenly fell from the seat of the "First Lady". Double whammy.
"First Lady" was originally an "identity" rather than a "job". But Jacqueline in the movie apparently regarded it as a "job". As a result, even though she used to be a fashionable and diplomatic first lady who stood by the president's side, when her husband was assassinated and Vice President Lyndon Johnson took office as the new president of the United States, she not only lost her husband, but also fell down. into a great loss of identity and anxiety.
She was no longer the first lady or Kennedy's wife, she became Kennedy's widow, the mother of Kennedy's two children, a woman without a personal career.
In fact, she quit her job as a photojournalist at the Washington Herald at the age of 24 after marrying then-Rep. John F. Kennedy. What is more interesting is that in middle school, she had the ambition of "not being a housewife". After marrying into the Kennedy family, the most politically and economically influential family in the United States at that time, she began to plan and build her life around her husband. .
To make her husband proud of himself, to be a good wife, a good mother, and to be an elegant and beautiful first lady who can add luster to her husband's political career is Jacqueline's "job" and her ideal in life.
Jacqueline herself once said in a TV interview that the most important duty of the "first lady" in her heart is to take good care of the president and the family, so that the president has no worries and can serve the country well.
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Of course it is understandable. Not criticizing Jacqueline either.
In fact, Jacqueline is a very ambitious woman. The power she wants is not just "in bed", her ambition is "in the world".
But the limitation of that era was that it was often difficult for women to achieve the heights of achievement that men could achieve, whether in politics or other professional fields.
Compared with a person's persistent and lonely hard work and hard work in a certain field, he also has to take the career risk of "not necessarily successful". An ambitious woman in the 1950s and 1960s, One way to "make great achievements", or a shortcut, is: to see a man who can make great achievements, to be his life partner, and to become a partner of ambition to a certain extent with him, to help him Success, thus, the husband is honored and the wife is precious. Turn the halo of the husband into the halo of the husband and wife.
This path, of course, also has a high threshold. All the education Jacqueline has received, from the training of posture and etiquette, to the piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, art music, dance and horsemanship, on the one hand, is her personal interest and hobby, but it is also preparation for becoming a high-class lady in the future. , to increase their price in the marriage and love market.
Her mother, who followed the exact same path, successfully raised her and Jacqueline's living class through her second marriage. The same is true of her expectations for Jacqueline's future path.
According to some sources, as soon as she became an adult, Jacqueline frequently participated in high society parties, trying to get to know more potential partners of excellent marriage. She was once engaged, and the other party was in good condition. She was the descendant of a banker, but her family background was obviously not comparable to the Kennedy family. She broke her contract when she was 22.
The wealth of the Kennedy family at that time ranked in the top ten in the United States. John F. Kennedy's father was the first chairman of the Securities and Exchange Commission in the era of President Roosevelt, and later served as the US ambassador to the United Kingdom. John F. Kennedy was originally the second son in the family, but because his brother died in World War II and his health has always been poor, he was listed by the family as a "future presidential candidate" for key training and support.
As soon as the man so shrouded in the halo appeared, Jacqueline immediately made a decision and choice, and at the age of 24, she married John F. Kennedy, who was 12 years older than her.
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Jacqueline's life and marriage strategies are by no means alone. Even earlier, Song Meiling, who came from the East and was educated in the United States and then returned to the East, also had a similar life and marriage strategy.
However, Song Meiling's legend was complete and she lived a long life because she was lucky enough. The man she was looking for, even if he retreated to a corner of Taiwan, was still the leader of a region. Also, they are considered long-lived. Not only have they experienced the wartime years of the army and horses, but they have also grown old together and enjoyed the joy of the family with their children and grandchildren around their knees.
And Jacqueline reveals the "risk side" of this life and marriage strategy. As a result of Kennedy's assassination, the 31-year-old woman who entered the White House and became the youngest first lady in American history, at the height of her self-financing to renovate the White House and swept the world with her personal accomplishment and charm, died in two years and ten years. A few months later, he left the White House sadly.
In "Jackie", we also see her huge sense of loss as a result of it many times. The new first lady's uncontrollable smile after her husband was sworn in as president of the United States and the color of the curtains she chose in the White House all stimulated Jacqueline's sensitive nerves.
After all, if the sun no longer emits light, the moon without its light source can only be called the moon.
At this time, Jacqueline is no longer White House's housewife, nor Kennedy's housewife. Without the house Kennedy provided, she became a widow.
Because she does not have a job she can rely on for a living, and because she has been living on her husband's income, the former "first lady", who had been able to burn off the president's husband's annual salary for one year's installation cost, was in an instant. From the cloud life of "one set of new clothes to wear every three days on average", he fell into the mortal world and suffered the extremely ruthless and cruel side of fate.
Before Kennedy's funeral, Jacqueline said to Kennedy's mother quite "foresight": After Lincoln's assassination, his widow Nancy lived in poverty for the rest of her life, and she lived by selling furniture to support her life. If I sell a few pieces of furniture, I should be able to get my kids through college.
The Kennedy family replied to her: Don't worry, we will never let you do this.
It sounds comforting, but it reveals the helplessness and powerlessness of life. A young woman has to rely on the commitment of others to have hope for the future of herself and her children.
But who knows, the hand of fate, won't make a joke with you again?
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Back to the movie "Jackie", it was like a deliberate attempt to disenchant Jacqueline.
Jacqueline in the movie, in that extreme situation, reflects more of the personality characteristics not calm and calm, but: fame and fortune and vanity, strong worldly desire, good at manipulating the media, nervous personality, sensitive, At critical times, even self-willed, it is easy to be anxious. To the public and in private, there are almost two completely different expressions and expressions.
Her own lines: Her husband thinks she's vain; she finally realizes that she's wayward planning a grand funeral for Kennedy, not for Kennedy or his legacy, but for herself.
Seize what may well be the last chance to become the focus of the world. It was a farewell performance by the former US first lady to the world political stage. She wants this performance to be grand and grand, and be remembered by the world.
She imitated Lincoln's funeral to organize Kennedy, she wanted Kennedy to be remembered like Lincoln.
The higher Kennedy's status, the higher her status as Mrs. Kennedy.
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Quite a divisive character.
Perhaps, the real Jacqueline is split.
On the one hand, I want to be the perfect "first lady" in front of the public, always elegant, dignified and fashionable, and painstakingly create a happy and harmonious image of the "first family";
On the other hand, in his real private life, he had to endure her husband's romantic nature, including the "famous" scandal with Monroe, and later Monroe's bizarre suicide - this suicide happened when Kennedy was assassinated. Previous year.
In the movie, this is not explicitly mentioned. However, there are hints.
"We seldom shared the same bed, not even the night before his accident," Jacqueline said in her confession to the pastor.
"Sometimes, he (Kennedy) walks into the desert alone. Let him be lured by the devil. But in the end, he always comes back to us, to the family he loves," Jackie told reporters who interviewed her. , eyes sharp.
Either way, there is a price to be paid. Fate had already put a price on everything in secret.
The movie "Jackie" did not interpret Jacqueline's career after that, but only intercepted the short but most critical moments of her life. However, these clips have buried clues to explain Jacqueline's later life choices.
Her vanity, extravagant spending, fascination with a set of Chinese suits, fascination with the first lady's beautiful life and halo, and her worries about her future livelihood are enough to explain why she later chose to marry a 23-year-old and romantic girl The natural Greek ship king Onassis.
That year, Jacqueline was 39 and Onassis was 62.
If, through Kennedy, she saw the pinnacle of world power, and through Onassis, she stepped into a splendid world built with money—even if this marriage was riddled with holes and loopholes.
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Most women, when it comes to choosing a mate, easily fall into the same pit.
Onassis is greedy for Jacqueline's reputation as the "former first lady", Jacqueline Tumu Onassis's extreme wealth and the lifestyle represented by this wealth, and more importantly, the aura of extreme wealth itself, is to Jacqueline The great stimulation and satisfaction of Lin's vanity.
Economically speaking, if a woman with desire cannot become a wealthy family, she needs to cling to a wealthy family.
In terms of value realization, if a woman is not truly confident and cannot create a value that is self-confident and self-confident, she needs to rely on the "worth" of the men around her to "mark a price" for herself. This is a "shortcut" for many women to confirm their self-worth - although this road is actually not so easy to go, and there are many risks and obstacles.
To find a man to give yourself a halo, this kind of lazy approach is actually to give up responsibility for one's life, and it is a kind of responsibility evasion.
After the second marriage, Jacqueline spends a lot of time on shopping. She spends a lot of money and buys clothes and shoes like crazy. She participates in various parties to show her fashion inventory and taste. It is rumored that she can bring back 200 pairs of shoes at a time, and her monthly consumption far exceeds the allowance for pocket money that Onassis gave her.
In the face of the shocking bill, Onassis quickly began to regret the marriage. He frequently began to have private meetings with his former lover, the famous Greek singer Maria Callas, and then let Jacqueline read the news of their private meeting from the newspapers. . It is said that this move is to arouse Jacqueline's jealousy and hope that she will cherish and respect him more.
It is even said that, in order to humiliate and teach Jacqueline a lesson, Onassis even let the photojournalist take advantage of it and planned the sensational Jacqueline nude photo incident. It was the location where he leaked to the outside world where Jacqueline swam naked and landed.
However, Jacqueline did not have any thoughts or actions to improve the marital predicament, nor did she choose to leave this troubled marriage. She has neither the drive nor the ability to improve the marriage, nor the courage and strength to leave this unfortunate marriage.
She just, often returned to the United States alone, living alone in New York at least half of the year.
Finally, Onassis revised Li's will and made the first beneficiary his daughter.
After Onassis passed away, Jacqueline had to fight the inheritance battle with Onassis' daughter. In the end, she received a one-time compensation of $26 million, and Onassis' daughter inherited her father's billion-dollar inheritance and became the richest woman in the world at the time.
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After the second marriage, Jacqueline, who received $26 million in compensation, no longer has to worry about her livelihood and quality of life. She also finally began to reflect on her previous attitude towards life and marriage.
In 1975, at the age of 46, Jacqueline chose to become a professional woman again. She joined Viking Press as a consulting editor. Annual salary of $10,000, working 4 days a week.
Because of the late start of her career as a book editor, or because Jacqueline just wants peace of mind, she doesn't do amazing things in the job. But at least she found fulfillment and happiness in this job.
She never remarried, and later in life was married to her own age, Maurice Tempelsmann, a Swiss who was also her financial adviser.
At the age of 64, Jacqueline was diagnosed with lymphoma. The following year, she died at the age of 65.
This is the end of a legendary woman's extraordinary life.
Taking Jacqueline's ups and downs in life and marriage choices, what I want to say is: if a woman's halo mainly comes from men, no matter what kind of "fascinating moon" you used to be, you will eventually face losing the "light source" at any time. the risk of losing the halo.
This is the sadness of a moon.
Betting your life on marriage, all living beings are tied to an "other", and your relationship with the "other"; investing your life time in growth, not only can you gain a complete and independent self, but also have the opportunity To achieve a relationship of true equality and trust between the sexes.
The same first lady, Michelle Obama, set an even better example. (Click to read: How did Michelle Obama, the most popular first lady in the United States, do it?) Of course, this also benefits from the era she lives in. She is the moon around her husband and her own sun at the same time. Even her radiance can warm and illuminate her husband.
Before Obama became president, Michelle had a good career, earning nearly twice as much as Obama. According to the Obamas' reported income in 2006, Michelle's annual salary at the University of Chicago Medical Center was $270,000; Obama's annual salary as a senator was $150,000.
Having a decent income is not for competing with your husband, but it gives you the confidence to face your marriage and life calmly. My desire, I can pay for it myself. Don't rely on your mother's family, you don't have to rely on your husband's family.
In order to help Obama's campaign and later become the first lady, Michelle did her best to help her husband, but did not completely sacrifice her personal career. So far, in Wikipedia's introduction to Michelle, one of the modifiers is "famous lawyer."
So, before she left the White House, she surpassed Jacqueline and was praised by the American media as "the most popular first lady in American history".
Her ability and charisma are also enough to make people believe that after stepping out of the White House, her career is still full of possibilities and prospects.
If a woman can become her own "light source", then she does not need to be a "moon" waiting for the "sun" and clinging to the "sun".
She herself is the sun.
Note: The film "Jackie" was nominated for Best Actress at the Academy Awards and BAFTAs.
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