It's hard to see a healthy relationship from start to finish.
Whether it's Sheba Hart and her husband, or Sheba Hart and students, Sheba Hart and Barbara, and Barbara and her "ex-girlfriend." These relationships are undoubtedly unhealthy states.
From the book "Life is a Long-Term and Continuous Accumulation", I learned that this movie opened the perspective of God. Still, the background in the film feels like it hasn't been made clear, which is a flaw.
Barbara's loneliness and control made this relationship impossible to continue, and the illusions on top of it made it worse, and in the end, when she could only endure it alone, she broke out. From beginning to end, I didn't see any reason why she and Shiba could be together. From her knowledge of Shiba's unethical relationship with the boy, she used this to coerce the heroine into submission. Although she feels good about herself, she can't replace the "boy" in Sheba's heart.
The boy himself is a person with low conscientiousness and conscientious ability, and he starts to shrink when encountering difficulties. This pair of "couples" can only enjoy the pleasure of sex above the relationship, and when the emotional crisis comes, they can only fly separately.
So, although I have gradually come out of the ignorant vision of love, it is still difficult to restrain myself from wanting to find a suitable soul mate.
In personality psychology, there are the Big Five. The conscientiousness mentioned above is one of them, in colloquial terms. Maturity is also a manifestation of high conscientiousness. When we say that a person is mature, he is also conscientious. In the face of difficult things, although there will be strong emotional fluctuations (high neuroticism), he will try his best to complete it.
In addition, another personality trait, high agreeableness is also a good partner choice. People who are high in agreeableness tend to know your heart and empathize with you.
That being said, personality traits alone are not enough to tell if someone is really a good fit for you. Is his/her motivational preference to be gentle and considerate, does she/he want to be a good wife and mother/gentle person? Human nature is too complicated, and this article is written here first.
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