Joan, who is thriving in his career, is incompatible with Bernard, who is struggling and frustrated. Bernard has a strong personal consciousness and hopes that his opinions can influence the people around him. It is harmless to treat others' identification with oneself as due, and treat one's own faults as unintentional mistakes. And Joan, during his career upswing, is proud of the spring breeze, and has his own independent view and cognitive system of literature. More importantly, she needs a member of the opposite sex who will give herself tenderness and relief.
As a result, the two senior intellectuals with disagreeable personalities calmly negotiated separation and joint custody, and began to pursue a new relationship, either smoothly or not smoothly.
This situation can probably be regarded as the best ending under the ruined wall. The shadows and shadows linger around the old feelings, and they give birth to the budding new life.
I suddenly remembered that there was a saying by Xiaohan in Zhang Ailing's Heart Sutra, "Marriage with love is often painful. You know it." Of course, it is full of resentment and helplessness, but it is not unreasonable. At the beginning of the month before the flowers, you and me, I was coerced into a cramped and embarrassing situation by the change of firewood, rice, oil, salt, and relationship. It is no longer a simple exchange and mutual satisfaction of materials, emotions, and desires. There are more obligations and responsibilities that may be unwilling and unwilling. The tender and romantic romance can't stand the erosion of such mediocrity and restraint. It also began to slowly transform into family relationships and family relationships, for self-protection, but also restricted by ethics and morality. Love? Too much love in marriage is painful, so I don’t want it.
Joan and Bernard, who make a living from literature, can't accept such compromises and concessions. Since love has deteriorated and rotted in marriage, let it be broken.
The reality is not so common and so free and easy. As a result, there are many parents who came together because of their origin or background. There was no love at the beginning, and there was no talk of being separated because of love's decay. The birth of children and the raising of adults unconsciously squeeze themselves and become all. For those who fall in love freely, whether they are their parents or their peers, many of them are gradually separated due to their personalities, or accumulated friction, or all kinds of trivial matters, such as divorce, arguing for divorce, and de facto divorce. However, the divorce is ultimately a minority. I would rather be so cold and dragged. Acquiesce to the rationality of the status quo and accept the arrangements of fate. If it is said that a marriage with love is painful, then part of what I see around me is that there is no love in the first place, or I endure alive and wait for love to die out.
There are many reasons for dragging, and they are complex. It can’t be said that it is divided, left, left and left, which is good and which is not good. It’s just that sometimes when I see people around me, I think, I don’t know if it’s better than it is now. Something will definitely be lost, and some people will definitely be hurt. He may go around and still find true love. But there is no way and result that protects everyone and everyone is happy. The contradiction between Joan and Bernard and the sub-game is the inducement of Walt and Frank's problems. But Walt and Frank also learned a valuable lesson. Joan and Bernard also stumbled on the journey of finding love. At least at the end of the film, it vaguely pointed to a future that is not too bad and may still be good. Bernard and Joan's love, probably had the best situation when Bernard was full of spirit and ambition. Afterwards, it was a little bit dim, faded, and finally precarious. The two sides realized that, fortunately, they gave up as soon as possible, leaving a tail of thought for the love that was also unforgettable.
A marriage with love is painful. Maybe love can't really be integrated into marriage as a daily routine. It requires dedication and affection. It can adjust life, but it cannot become a sloppy life. If there is no way to balance family relations and love, maybe we can separate and we can settle down.
An impression that is not very related to the movie.
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