To be honest, what I admire is the calm and wise Nordic Germanic Protestant civilization, and I am not interested in the Catholic Latin civilization in southern Europe and Latin America. I always feel that Latin civilization is more than enthusiastic, lacks tenacity and rationality, acts extreme, and always jumps between Catholic conservative forces and leftist radicalism. It seems to be a natural destroyer, but lacks the patience to build.
Many years ago, someone asked me: "What is the purpose of life?" I answered without hesitation: "The lowest goal of life should be to become a person with independent will and complete personality. There are too many people in the world. Go with the flow, take other people's will as my own, and there are too many people whose personalities are incomplete and unsound." At that time, I was young and arrogant, and I was very proud of my answer. After becoming an adult, I have experienced the vicissitudes of life, and my mentality has become much more peaceful and tolerant than in the past. Although I still use this goal to encourage myself today, I no longer use it to measure others. I've found that a lot of geniuses only meet the first half of this standard (even too much), but not the second half of it. Perhaps because God created man with no intention of perfecting him, the more genius he tends to be, the more his personality flaws are as prominent as his other accomplishments. But even a flaw, if it is a great flaw, trumps mediocre completeness. And this kind of incompleteness often produces another kind of beauty, a kind of incomplete beauty, a kind of beauty that is more magnificent and dazzling because of the defects. Frida Kahlo is undoubtedly the dazzling one among the countless imperfect talents. Although her personality is as mutilated as her body, she is so beautiful, moving and heartbreaking. .
At the beginning of the film, in a Mexican-style tropical garden covered with cacti, parrots are dazed at the heights, monkeys are neighing in their cages, peacocks are pacing gracefully between clay pots and stone carvings, and the four tall and eerie clay idols ( The four inhabitants of Mexico) stood by the wall, and the workers carefully carried a huge wooden bed through it, on the bed lay motionless Frida dressed up, a typical Latin American magic realism. opening. When the bed was swayed onto the truck, Frida muttered softly; "Take it easy, lad, this corpse is still breathing!" A plain sentence, but the endless pain in her heart was exhausted.
Frida Kahlo, a German Jew (the core of left-wing intellectuals in Europe) and Mexican indigenous Indians (the backbone of the Latin American left-wing radical movement), was a natural Communist (to be honest, I never I understand why the Stalinist-style communists in Eastern Europe are mostly ruthless bureaucratic machines with puritanical asceticism, while the communists in Western Europe and Latin America are mostly Picasso and Guevara-style liberals with wild passions and unbridled forms. The character is still because of the reasons on and off the stage). As a teenager, Frida, a typical warm-hearted Latina girl and a somewhat naughty tomboy, had a car accident that changed her life when she was 18 years old. In the film, the scene of the car accident is vividly shown, the wall slowly pressing down from the window, the blue bird flying from the passenger's hand, the rolling apple on the floor and the gold powder sprinkled all over her bloody body, all this should have been. A harmonious still life is distorted into a modern painting full of chaos. Frida survived as many as 11 fractures in her body. What's more, a metal handle pierced her vagina, causing her to be sterile. Later, she joked that "that metal handle took her virginity", her first love. Her boyfriend left her because of this. Since then, physical pain and mental torture have accompanied her throughout her life. But as the saying goes, "greatness is made in pain". It was because of this accident that a great soul was born, and it was in her endless battle with her own pain that she shaped her perseverance and gave her endless inspiration. source. The scene of Frida staring at the crucifixion picture for a long time in the church before the car accident is undoubtedly a metaphor and suggestion: it symbolizes the process of her rebirth from the phoenix nirvana in the torment of pain.
The lively and active Frida was imprisoned on her bed covered in plaster. In order to pass the lonely time, she began to pick up a paintbrush and began to paint on the plaster on her body, and it has been out of control since then. Because she could not move, she took herself in the mirror as the object of painting, and her endless suffering gave her an eternal theme. Relying on her tenacious will, she miraculously recovered in the end. In order not to become a drag and a waste, she began to consider turning painting from a personal hobby into her lifelong career. In the process of walking towards the artistic path, she met her life partner, the general secretary of the Mexican Communist Party, the painter Diego Rivera. It is difficult to say whether this is her lucky or unfortunate beginning. They loved each other for a lifetime, but kept hurting each other because of their infidelity, as Frida said to Rivera before her divorce: "There have been two big accidents in my life, a car accident and you, you It was the worst time."
Rivera was undoubtedly Frida's Bole, who was already a famous painter at the time, and he saw at a glance the talent hidden in her immature painting skills, "I paint the You only paint what you see in the outside world." The biggest problem of many contemporary Chinese artists is that they have no self. From their almost perfect performances and paintings, it can be seen that they have solid basic skills and years of hard training. The mature skills cultivated, but only their individuality, their passion, and the creation of their hearts cannot be seen. The lack of skills can be made up by acquired efforts, and if there is no true self and no desire from the depths of the heart, no matter how skilled you are, you are only a skilled artisan at best.
The first time Rivera brought Frida to a party of his comrades, she was just an ordinary girl in obscurity. When Rivera introduced her to the hostess Tina: "Frida Kahlo, a good painter." She immediately corrected: "She wants to be a good painter." And shy, but she soon released a dazzling dazzling brilliance. In order to resolve the embarrassment between Diego and his friends due to their political differences, Tina put down a bottle of wine on the table and said, "Whoever drinks the most can dance with me." At this time, Frida grabbed the wine bottle, drank heavily, and said, "I drink the most." The two of them danced gracefully in front of everyone's astonished eyes, kissing each other like lovers in love, so unpretentious, so unscrupulous, as if the world was performed by them The stage, and everything else, no longer exists. The Latin female singer who accompanies the vocals is equally powerful, and I used to see Mexicans playing guitar in Westerns, but I have never heard such a moving melody as this female singer (of course, maybe The reason for my ignorance), that perfect unity of passion and pain, fiery and sadness, has a power that penetrates the heart and reaches your body. It wasn't a piece of music, it was simply a strong cocktail made of tears and blood and set on a fire. It was not just an ode to life and love, but also a release of the suffering and tragic permeating the blood of the troubled Latin nation. Passionate and sad music, beautiful and wild dancers, together form a perfect and moving picture. I was struck by this unabashed boldness and passion, and I have to admit that some people are destined to be the center of attention, the center of the audience wherever they go.
Although what I appreciate is the kind of deep introverted, calm atmosphere, moisturizing and silently controlling the audience. Under normal circumstances, this kind of trick to attract attention by making small gimmicks is not taken for granted. But what can we ask of an unfortunate and tenacious young girl who is tormented by endless pain all the time, for whom death is even a relief? I am very curious as to what kind of strong will can make this fragile and small body bear such heat and passion, or it is this pain that makes her so passionate and full of vitality, since every day of life is to be All live as their last day, why not let the whole life burn and bloom completely? Maybe I won't stand up tomorrow, maybe my life will never be so splendid again. But tonight at least I want to be as proud as a queen and to dedicate the greatest beauty and passion of my life to you.
At first, I didn't like the image of Diego Rivera, in my opinion, this frivolous, glib guy is another flashy image of a typical romantic and irresponsible left-wing liberal intellectual. , a talented prodigal son who fascinates women madly, and an embroidered pillow that has disappeared without a trace when you really need a support. But as the film progressed, I began to sympathize and even appreciate this poor man with a huge body who was tortured by love. When Frida was pregnant, Diego no doubt didn't have enough confidence in his parents, so he didn't really want the baby. But when he found Frida's desire for a child, he said softly: "Okay, we will give birth to him." When Frida was suffering from the loss of his child, he sat silently in the corridor and wept, These subtle scenes subtly express the deep and unspoken love of this philandering man for the only woman he loves. There is something holy about the picture when Diego lies quietly on the bed, under the light of the twilight outside the wall, holding Frida, who is as petite as a baby. Milan Kundera once said in "The Unbearable Lightness of Life": "Men and women make love together is lust, and men and women embrace and sleep together is mutual support." Although I think Kundera said a lot It's all gibberish, but it's a very subtle statement.
The scene that moved me the most in the film was when the poor and sick Frida was paralyzed in a wheelchair, and the divorced Rivera proposed to her again.
"I don't need anyone to pity you, Diego."
"I do."
"I lost a toe of a foot, my back is useless, my kidneys are infected, I smoke, drink, curse people, I can't Having a baby, I have no money, and I owe a lot of money to the hospital. Do I want to continue?"
"Sounds like a letter of recommendation."
When I saw this, tears almost welled up in my eyes. To be moved by this sincere love from the bottom of my heart is like seeing a blind Rochester ask "Jane Eyre, is that you?" Although there is no such single-mindedness, there is the same sincerity.
After the reconciliation, Rivera took good care of Frida and never gave up. She endured her increasingly irritable and even hysterical character due to her illness, and accompanied her through the last days of her life. At the last exhibition of Frida’s paintings (and the only one in her own country), Diego with white temples said affectionately: “I admire her, her works are ironic and soft, hard as steel, like butterflies The wings are as free, as touching as a smile, and as miserable as the suffering of life." At this time, two words popped out of my mind, "confidant". Rivera may not be a good husband in the traditional sense, but he is definitely Frida's confidant. There is a legend that "When God created man, he cut everyone in half and then threw them into the world. So they spent their entire lives searching for their lost other half." But in the vast world, where are all living beings, where do they go to find them. So many were discouraged and gave up, and only a few persevered. And there are many of them who spend their whole lives without finding it, and in the end only a very few lucky ones find their other half, the confidant. That's why the mountains and rivers have been passed down through the ages, and Lu Xun wrote to Qu Qiubai that "one confidant in life is enough". But when you search all over the mountains and rivers to find your confidant from this slim chance like looking for a needle in a haystack, only to find that she is of the opposite sex, and you can find her at the right time, get to know her, fall in love with her, They even get married and spend a lifetime together. I can't imagine any greater happiness on earth than this. Therefore, God is actually fair. Although he gave Frida endless physical pain, he also gave her endless talents, and he also gave her Rivera, a lifelong confidant. I think that's more than enough to make up for whatever pain she's going through. Unfortunately, because Frida was too demanding of perfection, she did not cherish her hard-won happiness, which caused her tragic fate in her life.
The two most famous lovers in Western history are Don Juan and Casanova, but few people carefully distinguish the difference between them. Don Juan is just a rogue who plays with women's feelings, while Casanova is deeply involved. Love all his women. As he said in his autobiography "My Life": "Maybe I am not single enough about my feelings, but I am sincere every time!" Don Juan treats every woman only as an object to be discarded after playing with her. However, Casanova regarded them as his lovers, and maintained a long-lasting friendship with them after their close relationship. "Maybe we are no longer lovers, maybe the passion between us has faded, but after all, it is a good memory between us. Even after many years, even if we are separated from each other, madam, I still care for you silently and love you from afar. Whenever you are troubled, I will always be the object of your pouring out; whenever you are in difficulty, I will immediately come to help you solve your problems." This is undoubtedly a kind of unfaithful but sincere and beautiful feeling.
True, loyal, but unfaithful, this is the true portrayal of Rivera's feelings for Frida. In fact, Frida is lucky and happy, but she didn't realize it, just as she didn't realize her talent. Rivera is not Casavano, let alone Don Juan. Although he has been romantic all his life, after meeting Frida, his heart belongs to Frida alone. For 25 years, he has loved deeply in his heart. Frida was always the only one who shared it, and was never shared by anyone else. For a romantic like Rivera, being able to do this is already commendable.
Chen Daoming said in "Chinese Divorce": "Chinese people only pay attention to physical betrayal, but they ignore another more important betrayal, heart betrayal." So do people. Although Rivera betrayed Frida countless times physically, he never betrayed him spiritually. His betrayal, as he himself said, is like a heavier handshake, and more is just a A habit rather than a malice. But Frida could not forgive Rivera after all. The fisherman really can't understand, is it not enough to be able to occupy 100% of the whole heart of an excellent man who loves you deeply, must he be so narrow-minded, and must be so concerned about the little flaws in his body?
The fisherman is a person who is easy to be contented. His small mind can never understand why the vast human mind always needs more greed and less contentment; The one you don't have yet? Why are you always reluctant to be satisfied with a very happy life, instead of brooding over the little regrets in your life? Isn't a flawed, imperfect world the most beautiful? Forever comrade, partner and friend, isn't this already the most perfect interpretation of the perfect marriage? Why do you have to force yourself to be a lifelong lover? Maybe it's because human nature is greedy, maybe it's because the world becomes more exciting and interesting only in the continuous pursuit of perfection?
To say that marriage is the grave of love is an exaggeration, but marriage and love are indeed mutually exclusive. Love is romantic, vigorous, like fire; marriage is like firewood, rice, oil and salt, plain and light, like water. Love is irrational and purely spiritual, while marriage and family are realistic and purely functional. Anyone who confuses them will be incompatible. This does not mean that a good marriage must not have love, but if love is the only foundation of a marriage, the marriage must be unstable.
In fact, anything too intense in the world is unstable and unsustainable. Some people say that love is like the feeling of being electrocuted. Love is indeed like a chemical change that is difficult to grasp. It is often a moment of mutual attraction and touching, but it is only a moment, like a shooting star across the night sky, beautiful but beautiful. But short.
To be honest, anglers do not believe that there is any beautiful love in the world that can last for more than ten years. Those lovers who can still remain sweet after ten years are nothing but two situations. One is that both parties are constantly changing themselves. Both the image and the heart have undergone major changes. Although the sweetness is still the same, it is for the you who are completely unfamiliar today, not the you who fell in love with me back then; one is that love has been replaced by something more stable than it is. replaced by a more constant emotion, such as family or friendship.
If the foundation of marriage is only based on love, it is like building a building on the ice. Although it cannot be ruled out in some special cases, such as in Antarctica, it may stand for thousands of generations, but generally speaking, in most cases, , it will collapse as the ice melts.
So, how can we keep our marriage safe and secure for a long time? Then it is necessary to transform the changeable and unstable love into something stronger and more reliable in time.
The foundation of marriage must be centered on a shared worldview and values, bound by shared interests and hobbies, but most importantly, mutual trust and understanding. Really happy couples, they may not be lovers for life, but they should be partners, comrades and friends for life, or a more perfect realm is - confidant, a kind that excludes the interference of feelings and is more pure and constant Relationship.
The family is the smallest unit of society, the cornerstone of harmony and stability in the whole world, and it determines the success and happiness of each of us. Home is our shelter from storms and storms; the light that gives us warmth and hope on cold winter nights, the place where we lick our wounds after being bruised and bruised in the jungle, and our stable rear. Husbands and wives should be the most steadfast and never betrayal allies in the world. They use their bodies to warm each other in the cold winter and support each other with hugs when they are vulnerable. Their backs are exposed to each other relying on each other. Maybe the relationship has gradually become indifferent with the loss of time, but always watch and help each other, support each other, stand together through thick and thin, and stick to each other.
There are two marriages in history that can be regarded as models of perfect marriage in the hearts of anglers. One was the marriage between Henriault, the founding king of the French Bourbon dynasty, and his wife, Queen Margot. On August 18, 1572, the most beautiful princess of the French Valois dynasty, Margaret, married the Huguenot leader, King Henri de Bourbon of Navarre, in Paris. The marriage was a typical political marriage at the time, not emotional, a compromise between the French Catholic royal family and rival Huguenots to end their decade-long civil war. The marriage was shrouded in gloom from the very beginning. Three months before the wedding, Henry's mother, Jeanne de Albre, Queen of Navarre, was poisoned by her mother-in-law, the Queen Mother of France, Catherine de' Medici. ; Even the wedding itself was a conspiracy of the French royal family to deceive the Huguenot leaders to Paris. Only six days after the wedding, the conservative Catholic forces with the acquiescence of the French royal family launched a massacre. On the bloody "St. Bartholomew's Night", 2,000 Huguenot leaders who came to attend the wedding were brutally killed. And such swords and swords, bloody horror did not hinder the happiness of this marriage. On the wedding night, Henry's confession to Margot was: "We are as united as two righteous hearts that should protect each other. I don't get your love, but your friendship. I Trust you as much as you can trust me." They had many lovers throughout their lives, and as historians put it at the time: "They were all lovers, but not each other." But there was no such thing as Influence them to germinate a nobler and purer emotion than love - friendship, and keep it for life. This supported them to walk through the horrific night of St. Bartholomew together, to go through the ups and downs and difficult years of the Huguenot religious war for 20 years together, and to experience the ups and downs of the Battle of Three Henrys together. The waves were treacherous, until finally Henry ascended the throne. At this time, the marriage that had gone through hardships finally came to an end. Because there were no children, the couple who had formed a deep friendship in the midst of adversity broke up peacefully after friendly consultations. Divorced Margot lived in seclusion in her country château, becoming patron and protector of artists and poets, while Henry became the most popular king in French history, Henry IV.
The protagonists of another perfect marriage are the Russian Tsar Alexander I and his wife Queen Elisabeth. In 1793, the 15-year-old grandson of the Russian emperor Alexander and the 14-year-old Princess Louisa of Baden tied the knot at the hands of her grandmother, the Russian Empress Catherine II. The groom is handsome and the bride is beautiful and generous. The idyllic love of this young couple won the envy and blessing of everyone at the time. Unexpectedly, like most marriages in the world, they lost their attraction to each other soon after marriage. The wife had an affair with her husband's best friend, Prince Adam Czartoryski, and gave birth to an illegitimate daughter. The husband also began to empathize. There is no more love between the two young people, but they are friendly, trusting and sharing weal and woe. The husband is truly saddened by the passing of his wife's lover, and the wife is saddened and weeps for the untimely death of her husband's illegitimate daughter. They first worked together to deal with the various conspiracies and calculations in the perilous court, and then shared the torture of the perverse actions of their paranoid father, Emperor Paul I. On the gloomy night of Paul I's murder, they suffered the death of the father together. All kinds of spiritual torture, and finally endured the baptism of the fire of the Great Patriotic War in 1812. After the prosperity, the lead was washed away, and after years of living together through weal and woe and mutual support, they became spiritually faithful companions, and warmth replaced the long-extinguished love. They completely abandoned the shallow emotions such as jealousy and suspicion. We spent the rest of our lives together. In the end, just half a year after the death of the Tsar, the grief-stricken queen followed him, and they finally found their eternal happiness in the kingdom of heaven. Although they have not been lovers for a long time, they have reached a higher realm - confidant.
Of course, this kind of perfect marriage is easier said than done. It requires both husband and wife to have a high degree of wisdom and enough tolerance to transcend such shallow and narrow emotions as envy, jealousy, and hatred. And these are obviously none of Frida's.
Photographer Tina's speech on marriage at their wedding was simply brilliant: "I think at worst marriage is a political expression of hostility where short-sighted men inappropriately lock their wives in." At home, bound under traditional and conservative religions; on the plus side, marriage is a beautiful fantasy of marriage between two people who love each other deeply, without realizing that they are about to start that miserable life of tormenting each other. Everyone knows this, and they will keep their eyes open to each other, or they will marry without hesitation, then I don't think that's conservative or self-deceiving, I think it's brave, radical, and incredibly romantic."
But Free Did Da really face it? On the wedding night, Frida had a big argument with Diego because of Rivera's ex-wife's drunken gaffe at the wedding. The next day, because Diego let his ex-wife who had no place to live in his house temporarily, he made the family work hard. He dumped the prepared food in the trash can, and smashed open the door of his house early in the morning, saying, "I won't be a passer-by." (Obvious guilty conscience) In a flash, the two of them became nothing to talk about. friend. In fact, Frida is a naive person at heart, and she is far less wise and mature in life than she is in her career. It was Rivera's ex-wife who had a clear understanding of him: "Diego never belonged to anyone, he belonged only to himself, and of course that's why he was so attractive. He was a best friend, but Worst husband ever. Diego wouldn't really be anyone's husband." (Diego was actually a good husband, just not in the traditional sense.)
I don't think the really shrewd women in the world are More, fewer smart women, and wise women are as rare as pandas. And the most unintelligent manifestation of women is self-contradiction in pursuit of goals. We respect everyone's self-choice, whether we think it's right or wrong. But again, as adults, we also have to live with the consequences of our choices, whether it's sweet or bitter.
Just like some white-collar elite women in contemporary China always talk about equality between men and women, respect each other's independent space, husband and wife share housework, and it is even better for the man to take care of housework, etc. Although I think that men are stronger than women in most cases, men should cherish, care for, and take care of women (otherwise, why do men need men?) There are also different divisions of labor between men and women, but you need to be independent, we Nor against it. But when they were choosing a mate, they demanded that the other party must be stronger than themselves in terms of status, income and education, have a house, a car, and money, and let them worship. I really don't understand whether this is a manifestation of self-confidence or inferiority. If you really think that men and women are equal or that women are stronger than men, why don't you achieve your goals by fighting for yourself or working together instead of sitting on the sidelines? Know that there has never been an obligation without a right, and no right without an obligation. For a man who doesn't do housework, has no children, and refuses to go home after playing every day until midnight, he can't call to inquire, but as long as his husband is always on call, he will take out a large amount of money every month for his splurge, and nothing else. My wife, I really don't know what the meaning of her existence is? I found that after the opening of the country, the Chinese seem to be moving closer to the West in terms of values. In fact, they want to take advantage of both the East and the West, but they don’t want to pay the slightest amount. On the one hand, parents hope that their children You can have the independence of Western children, and it is best to leave them alone after the age of 18, but expect them to have the filial piety of Eastern children; wives hope that husbands and wives can be independent, and husbands can give them the greatest freedom. And always want to rely on each other financially, hoping that the other party will fulfill the responsibility of a traditional oriental man. It is a pity that there has never been such a thing as "take the essence and remove the dross" in the world. If there was, people would have already removed all the dross. Any kind of system, any kind of behavior, when it brings you benefits, it will inevitably bring you certain losses at the same time, and that excessive greed that only wants to gain benefits and does not want to bear losses will only make you Get nothing.
As the saying goes: "Men are not bad, women are not loved." If you want to live a stable and steady married life, you can find that kind of honest man as a husband, and live a normal life. But in fact, most women don't like this kind of dull man. They feel that although they have a sense of security to live with this kind of man, they lack fun, and this so-called sense of security may only be caused by the lack of external temptation. It may be equally unreliable once exposed to temptation in the future. Rather than that, it's better to simply find the kind of sleazy and suave man who will please women. Although it is risky to find such a man with a history and a story, it is more thrilling and exciting. As a female guest in "If You Are the One" said: "He is just like a blank piece of paper, I prefer the kind of man who reads countless people." This sentence can be said to express the voice of countless women, but the problem is Yes, are you really ready?
The reason why women like to read countless men is not only because of their freshness and excitement, but also because they think that men generally mature later than women, and they are more playful when they are young, but they will not play forever. They are getting older, tired of playing, mature, and immune to temptation. This is true in principle. Many great people have done absurd things such as drug addiction, alcoholism, and whoring when they were young. People don’t start to change their ways until middle age, because there are only a few interesting things in the world. Time After a long time, people will get tired of it and feel that it is nothing more than that, so they start to concentrate on doing serious things. It is better to be ridiculous when you are young than to be ridiculous when you are old. But the problem is that emotion is the most elusive thing in the world, and its temptation to people far exceeds other temptations. Although the general direction is correct, how do you know when he will become immune to it? Maybe a year or two? Maybe ten or twenty years? It was destined to be a long struggle that required unparalleled perseverance and endurance. In 1967, Anna, a 19-year-old female reporter, married Murdoch, a media tycoon almost twice her age. In order to avoid repeating the same mistakes, Anna, who snatched it from Murdoch's first-wife Pat, took great care of him. In the blink of an eye, 30 years have passed. Considering that Mr. Mo, who is almost old and old, may have enough energy, Anna gradually relaxed her vigilance. Unexpectedly, one slip of the ladder turned into an eternal hatred. Taking it away under the nose, Anna, who was exhausted by the organization, ended up with no money and no money, which is really alarming for those who heard it.
Another reason why women choose bad men is that they feel that the reason why they have flirted with Qin and Chu in the past is not because of their indiscretion, but only because the women they met in the past were not strong enough, and they never found their true love, so they played on the scene. , Game room only. And he is the true love destined to end his wild life. As long as he, the true queen, comes on stage, all the wonderful things in the past will be fleeting, and he will definitely be able to tame this flamboyant and proud lion into an obedient sheep. This is typical of what the law calls overconfidence. Why do you think you're stronger than the countless women he's been through in the past? How do you decide that you are the true love? Is it just because of the rhetoric that he repeats countless times to all the women? You think that you are the last page of the ten thousand amorous feelings, in fact, maybe you are just one of the countless passers-by in his life. The tragic fate of the eternal Sissi, Romy Schneider, is a typical example. Schneider fell in love with the famous lover Zorro, Alain Delon, when her career was at its most brilliant, and regardless of the conservative social atmosphere at that time resolutely ran to live with him, but this relationship lasted for 5 years. Afterwards, Alan still eloped with a vulgar and slutty woman. If at the age of 20, Luo Mi, who was in love and had not yet been deeply involved in the world, could be forgiven for being fascinated by love, then 6 years later, as a mature woman, she still made such a low-level mistake, and she could only be angry. . In 1965, Romy fell in love with director Harry Mein, who was 14 years older than her, and even paid for his ex-wife's support. While spending her money, she despised her, and even publicly humiliated her as an "idiot". This marriage barely lasted for 9 years, and finally ended after Maine asked her for a huge breakup fee of 1.4 million. After that, Romy was still deceived by men one by one, making money, and finally died of despair. When we sigh for the tragic fate of the innocent girl on the screen, should we also reflect on the source of her tragedy?
The outside world is very exciting, and the outside world is very helpless. If you are not willing to be ordinary and lonely, and want to seek other wonderful and various styles of the outside world, then boldly seek your own happiness. But I gently remind you that there are risks in beauty, and you may be lost in the beautiful scenery outside and unable to extricate yourself. If you don't think you're strong enough to take the risks, you'd better stay in your garden. After staying for a long time, you will find that the scenery in the small garden is equally wonderful.
Excellent women are always unwilling to marry mediocre men, and hope to find a better man than themselves. But greater interests often mean greater risks, there are always more temptations around good men, and there are always few men who can withstand temptation (after all, women who can withstand temptation are also very Less, but most women are before marriage, and most men are after marriage). The ancients said that "a man's talent is a woman's appearance", which means that a man's greatest capital is intelligence, and a woman's greatest capital is appearance, but the former is gradually accumulated with the passage of time, while the latter is gradually diminished with the passage of time. That is to say, the two are inversely proportional. When this inverse ratio reaches a certain level, your risk comes. I am not criticizing this choice. The pursuit of profit maximization is the commonality of human beings. I just remind you to face up to the risks and be prepared to take losses at any time.
I admire the kind of couples who can break up peacefully. Once they find out that they have been abandoned and betrayed, they are hysterical and crying, as if the sky is falling. Lack of wisdom. If your husband was an honest and innocent child at the beginning, he learned badly in the big dye vat of society, and after his status changed, his mentality changed and he became a contemporary Chen Shimei, I can maintain a moderate sympathy for you, because women originally It's just unpredictable. But I really can't understand those women who know that their boyfriends are suave and merciful before marriage, but if something goes wrong after marriage, they also look like Qin Xianglian. Since you made your own choice without being forced, you should have foreseen the risks involved. Now that you have unforeseen losses, it can only prove that your risk awareness is not strong enough and the crisis plan has not been well prepared. , you can blame nobody but yourself. Now that the loss has occurred, you should calmly accept the consequences and try your best to reduce the loss, instead of blindly blaming others and blaming others. When you chose this path in the first place, it was the dangerous temptation that attracted you. You only saw the rose, but not the thorn on the rose. Now that your hand has been stabbed, who can you blame?
In fact, Diego and Frida are a natural pair. They have common artistic viewpoints, common political ideals, they understand each other, support each other, and appreciate each other, and they are the best comrades, comrades-in-arms and partners. It is precisely because they have so many similarities that this marriage, which no one was optimistic about at the beginning, has lasted for 25 years. They should have been the most perfect couple. However, because Frida was constrained by his own narrow personal feelings, what should have been a happy marriage turned into a long-term misery of mutual jealousy, mutual torture, and mutual harm.
The first stupid thing Frida did was to try to change Rivera, constantly cheating (this word is not accurate, because between Diego and those women, there is no love at all, it can only be called loss of life) almost already Rivi A state of existence that pulls. No one can truly change others, only himself can change, and unless a person thinks he needs to change, any external force can only play a supporting role. It's even harder to change ordinary people, and it's really hard to change a pompous and stubborn elite like Rivera. What's more, even if you can actually turn a lion into a sheep, you'll find that it's not really what you want, and you want to go back in time. As Frida said, "That's what Diego is, that's why I love him, and if he wasn't like that, I wouldn't love him."
The second stupid thing Frida did was to In revenge for Rivera's infidelity, he hangs out with all kinds of men. Rivera's infidelity is because he's addicted to it, and Frida's infidelity is simply because she wants to get revenge on Rivera and irritate Rivera. There is nothing more foolish than stimulating the other party with indulgence and indulgence and causing the other party's jealousy. If the other party doesn't care about you at all, then this kind of stimulation will have no effect. If the other party still loves you, then this kind of behavior can not achieve the purpose of hurting the other party and making the other party suffer. .
One of the great tragedy of life is that you can't know yourself correctly and see your position clearly. Frida had three miscarriages in her life and was crazy about having a baby for Rivera. But to be honest, Frida may be a good painter, a good soldier, and a good lover, but she can never be a good wife and a good mother because of alcohol and drugs. The reason why she wants to be a mother so urgently is probably to make her life more complete, desperately trying to fill the emptiness in her heart and bring herself a sense of security that she has never had before. It's like she always dresses herself up in traditional Mexican clothes not to show off her personality, but just to hide her inner fragility and fear. It is a completely irrational act of self-interest, not a deliberate act of altruism. A mother who is so hysterical, from her birth we see no benefit to anyone other than her own comfort, be it the family or the child. Of course we can't blame a drowning man for his urge to grab the last straw, but this redemption at the expense of the happiness of another innocent life would be cruel. So Frida's lifelessness is not necessarily a blessing.
Beneath her seemingly resolute and tenacious exterior, she actually hides a sensitive and fragile heart. She drinks, smokes, and speaks foul language. These strong expressions of masculinity are actually to cover up the fear and inferiority in her heart, and it is a self-defense measure to prevent herself from being hurt. Perhaps it is because of her deep desire for happiness and security that she is full of suspicion and suspicion about love itself while holding on to Rivera's love like a life-saving straw. doubt. And it is this self-contradiction that is the source of the tragedy in her life.
Despite her flaws, Frida is still admired and respected. She has undergone 31 major surgeries in her life, including extremely painful spine surgery, and countless minor surgeries. I can't imagine how her tenacious will and strong will to survive supported her to survive. At the thought of this, all her bizarre behavior became sympathetic. (Sympathy is a misnomer here. She is so proud and self-confident that sympathy is a blasphemy and an insult to her, and should be understood instead.) She treated herself to herself as she dressed up in bed for her last exhibition. The doctor said: "If you let me drink this glass of tequila, I promise not to get drunk at my funeral." Just for the generosity and heroism of her words, we should cheer and applaud her for her . Her last words at the time of her death "I hope it is a blessing to leave, I hope I will never come back." What kind of sadness and determination is she talking about, what can we not forgive for such a painful soul?
"Life is precious, and love is more expensive. If it is for freedom, both can be thrown away." This sentence clearly shows that in the hearts of excellent men, the order of the three is: career > love > life. In women's hearts, love is always their first life. Maybe it's because "Women are made of water and need to be nurtured with love", while men are made of soil and are naturally dull, so men can never understand women's attachment to love. Perhaps the cool and rational philosopher will never understand the passion in the impulsive artist. But in any case, differences and disagreements in character and opinion cannot stop us from celebrating and applauding a way of life that is different from ours, but just as wonderful.
If the angler is fortunate enough to live in the same era as Frida, maybe we will never know each other for the rest of our lives, and even if we meet, we will not say a word, because we are two planets with different trajectories, and there is no possibility of them ever meeting. But I would like to offer a fiery red rose in front of her tombstone at her funeral, and bow her tears for her. Not because of worship, not because of love, but because of respect, in order to express a calm and realistic idealist, to a naive idealist realist respect.
The Latin nation, a nation that may be blinded by impulses and passions, a nation destined to always be miserable, never to achieve anything, a nation destined to be ruthlessly eliminated in the human competition of the twenty-first century, but it is destined to be in the human race. It left a tragic and majestic page in the annals of history. Thousands of years later, when the splendor of the past is long gone, and the splendor of yesterday is forever sealed in history, its fiery and passionate art, its maverick and unruly artists will still be with Maya. The pyramids and the ancient city of Inca will always be honored by future generations in the afterglow of the sunset!
I would like to pay tribute to Frida Kahlo with this article, a life as blooming as a flower, a life as bright as a flame; a free and unrestrained fiery soul; may she be transformed into a pure white dove in the next life, in the vast sky Fly freely, and always be an unrestrained, light and elegant elf in heaven.
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