"The Villain Arrietty Who Borrowed Things" is an animated film produced by Japanese Studio Ghibli, and also the first film directed by Mirin Hiroshi. The screenwriter of this play is Hayao Miyazaki, so from the style point of view, you can still feel it. To Miyazaki's desire to express the emotion that man and nature should live in harmony.
Adapted from British writer Mary Norton's fantasy novel "The Little Man Under the Floor", the film has moved countless audiences since its release, and won the 34th Japan Film Academy Award, Best Animated Feature Award in 2011.
"Arrietty the Borrower" mainly tells the story of a 14-year-old Arrietty and her family living under the floor of an old house. The human boy Xiang saw that a series of stories happened between the two, and finally Arrietty's family was in danger and they had to move away.
When watching this movie, I was not only moved by the strong desire to survive the villain Arrietty, but also regretted the ending that she and the human boy eventually went on different paths, and the thing that touched me the most was the villain Arrietty. Ti's mother's attitude towards life made me sigh with emotion. It was precisely because of her mother's cowardice that she was easily seized by human beings. In the end, she had no chance to resist, but it was her daughter who had always opposed going out for adventure. rescued her.
Next, I will start from the perspective of Arrietty's mother Homily, from the influence of family and character, to talk about how a mother should help her children achieve themselves while paying for the family.
1. Instead of fearing that the child will repeat the same mistakes, it is better to learn to let go and let the child be independent
At the beginning of the film, when Arrietty goes outside to pick her mother's favorite perilla leaves, Homily asks Arrietty anxiously: "Did you go outside the room again? Come on. It's dangerous outside, what should you do if you go out and be discovered by others?"
As soon as Homily appeared on the stage, she left the audience with the image of a loving mother. She loved her daughter very much, but because they were little human beings, she deliberately maintained a relationship with human beings. She was always worried, not only did she not Dare to go out to borrow things by herself, and also prevent her 14-year-old daughter from going out without authorization.
Someone in your grandfather's area was accidentally eaten by a toad
This sentence was originally intended by Homily to warn her daughter to make her fearful not to run around, but before Homily finished speaking, Arrietty picked up the latter. From this, it can be seen that Homily should often say such things in front of her daughter and use it to intimidate her. As everyone knows, her daughter has become accustomed to it. Maybe at the beginning, she will feel scared when she hears this sentence. As her mother keeps nagging for a long time, she doesn't feel so scary in her heart.
In the book "Meet Your Children, Meet Your Better Self," the author writes: Parents who are terrified and worried about the world, usually mothers, because they often had terrible experiences as children, these experiences linger and often It fills their hearts with fear, so such parents often like to restrain their children's behavior and do not want their children to repeat the same mistakes.
Homily in this film is a typical fearful parent, because she had experienced the terrible experience of Arrietty's grandfather being eaten by a toad, so her character was very timid. Once bitten, twice shy. She doesn't allow her daughter to run around, and she doesn't want her to go out to borrow things, just so that her daughter can avoid the pain she once faced.
Sometimes the scarier things that parents go through should be a lesson, not a stumbling block that restricts the freedom of a child. To make children more mature and sensible, as parents, we must not only give them a kind of "care" of home, but also give them the courage to "break the world", and we should also let them go out and encourage them to be independent. People can grow up only by experiencing some things, otherwise the flowers in the greenhouse will not be able to experience the wind and rain from the outside world.
2. The mother is too timid, which will cause a certain burden to the child's psychology
Homily's timidity is vividly shown in many details in the movie, which makes people have to worry about a character like her. Such a mother can not only protect her child when she is in danger, but will eventually Bringing a burden to the child, Homily's timidity can be reflected in the following points:
- When Arrietty first went to borrow something to say goodbye to her, when she saw the cockroach behind Arrietty, she shivered with fright;
- Even when Spiller took out the cockroach's leg and called it dinner, Homily was taken a few steps back;
- The house shook, and Homily saw the kitchen of her dreams. She was so surprised that she fainted again on the sofa.
In addition, Homily also showed excessive anxiety when encountering things. For example, Arrietty wanted to go out to borrow things, but because there was another human boy, Homily resolutely did not want her daughter to take risks. In her opinion , one more person in the human room will be more dangerous, she also became very sad, and said: "Maybe our people are almost dead and wounded."
It is precisely because Homily is timid and afraid of things that she is more likely to have accidents in the environment where she is trying to survive in the cracks, so when the human nanny finds out that there is a little person, she easily arrests Homily. She got up, and in the process, she was powerless, and she had no room for resistance, she could only be at the mercy of others. In the end, it was Arrietty who found out that her mother had been captured by humans, and tried her best to rescue her.
If Homily learned some survival skills, she would not be so timid and would not end up like this. And Homily's timidity also had a certain impact on Arrietty's psychology.
①I don’t want to tell my parents my true thoughts
When Arrietty went out to borrow things for the first time, she set out in a red dress, but her mother said the color was too conspicuous. However, for Arrietty, going out to borrow things for the first time was of extraordinary significance. The performance of her growing up is also her yearning for a better life in the outside world, but her mother does not understand her.
Just after Arrietty was discovered by the human boy, although she was very sad and deeply sorry for the trouble she had caused the family, she could not tell her mother about it, for fear that her mother would not be able to bear the blow, and It is to suppress all the emotions in the heart, and then silently bear the consequences.
②Inner loneliness, very afraid of losing
Arrietty's father is often busy with the family's livelihood, and most of her mother is doing housework, and she still feels very lost in her heart most of the time, and her mother often instills in her "Maybe this There are only three of us who borrowed things in the world." The thought always made Arrietty worry about gains and losses, and was very afraid of losing something.
Later, because of the threat of human beings, Arrietty's family moved to another place, and Arrietty once again faced loss. She not only lost her beautiful feelings with Xiang, but also lost the home full of memories. In the process, she has to take care of her timid mother like a little adult.
In our real life, if parents have more worries, fears, and anxiety, they will also make children have fearful thoughts about many things, and affect their psychological growth, causing children to become timid in the future. people. Only by changing the attitude of the parents themselves to life will it be beneficial to the growth of the child.
3. Combined with movies, talk about how parents should help their children grow up better
In this movie, although Arrietty's mother is very timid when encountering things, she has always loved her child, and Arrietty is not too much influenced by her mother's emotions, on the contrary, she Dare to resist, dare to take risks, all this stems from her having a very enlightened father who always silently supports her behind her back. But sometimes her father can't understand her girlish feelings, and her mother, Homily, is timid and has more control over her, so her mother can't enter her inner world, so Arrietty's heart is still is very lonely.
When watching this movie, I was not only moved by the storyline of the movie, but also made people feel the importance of parents in the growth of children. So, as a timid mother, how should she help her children grow better while paying for her family?
① Correctly face the shadows of the past and do not impose ideas on children
In our life, many parents are not in the process of educating their children because of love, but out of their own inner fear. Homily, because someone in the area of Arrietty's grandfather was accidentally eaten by a toad, became a nightmare in her heart, and it lingered and buried deep in her heart, causing her to be very afraid, anxious and insecure. In the process, she also passed on her emotions to her daughter, the purpose is to not want her daughter to repeat the same mistakes.
However, this kind of education will not make children better, it will only make them more timid. As a parent, first of all, we must dare to face the shadow of the past in our hearts and overcome this hurdle, and secondly, we can grow and move forward together with our children on the road of educating them.
② Let go of your fears and learn to accept your child's emotions
As parents, if we are very timid, we are often afraid of many things, and even feel anxious like Homily in the film, remember not to pass on the bad state to the child, this will only affect the child's heart . Therefore, we should learn to let go of our fears. When we encounter something that is very scary, we should tell ourselves to take a deep breath and try our best to calm down our hearts.
When our heart returns to normal, we can communicate with the child patiently, slow down, stop the work at hand and concentrate on listening to the emotions that the child wants to express. At this time, the child can also feel the parents' intentions and love for her. a. At this time, parents can gain a full sense of trust, so the children will also reveal their own thoughts and enhance the parent-child relationship.
③ Dare to face the challenges of life and overcome the cowardice in your heart
Although Arrietty and her father knew it was dangerous to borrow things, they went there resolutely. In the process, Arrietty was accidentally discovered by a human boy and experienced an unforgettable memory; His father was also injured when he went out looking for a place to stay, but he accidentally met Spiller and found a good place to stay.
In the real world, many parents may always feel that the outside world is cruel like Homily. They do not want to go out by themselves, nor do they want their children to go out to take risks, but they do not know that the outside world is a different world. Dare to face the challenges in life, only then can we overcome the cowardice in our hearts and constantly realize ourselves in the challenges. And children will become more mature and sensible.
Write at the end:
The film "Arrietty Who Borrowed Things" is beautiful, and the story of the hero and heroine is full of emotion. After watching it, I have a feeling of unfinished business. In terms of emotional expression, I feel more distressed about Arrietty's Lonely, one can imagine how important a mother's love is in a child's heart.
After watching this movie, I realized more that as a mother, only by making yourself stronger will the child's heart become stronger. Father's love is like a mountain, and a mother's love is like water. Parents' love is indispensable in our growth. will accompany us all our lives.
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