The whole film is about the fact that the male protagonist's old father came out of the closet after his mother's death. Three time and space crossed each other: the male protagonist and his mother depended on each other when he was a child, and the male protagonist faintly felt that the relationship between his parents was quite strange. ; In the last time before the male protagonist's old father died of illness, the old father participated in the old gay association, met a little boyfriend, organized a party regardless of the critical condition, and lived like a normal person; the male protagonist met a soul-matched man after his father died. Girl, the two were going to be together, but the male protagonist hesitated again, but fortunately, the girl finally came back. The first line was so obscure, I wondered for a long time why the mother and son were in this movie. . .
The so-called soul fit of the male and female protagonists mainly means that both of them seem to understand each other's sadness about family and love, and this sadness is engraved in their bones. However, I really can't understand the sadness of the two, especially the male lead, life is your choice, you can be sad, but you can try to avoid sadness.
It is said in the film that you cannot understand sadness if you have never loved, which is too underestimating the feelings of those who have never loved.
Speaking of which, what touched me the most in the film was a dialogue between the male protagonist and his father. In the dialogue, the male protagonist found that his mother knew from the very beginning that his father had homosexual tendencies:
son: I just thought you and mom weren't in love.
Father: No, we loved each other.
son: But you were gay the whole time.
father: Well, I tried hard not to be.
son: For 44 years?
father: Yeah, I knew I was gay, though. ...Look, I liked my life, the museum, our house, that's what I wanted.
son: And mom? You wanted Mom, too, right?
father: Yes! ...She proposed to me, you know. Hmm, I said to her, 'look, I love you, and we're great buddies, but you know what I am. 'And then she says, 'That doesn't matter, I'll fix that.' 'I thought, 'Oh God, I'll try anything. '
This conversation gave me the following impressions: First, at that time, people thought that homosexuality was a disease, and a disease could be cured, and there was a possibility of cure; even as a homosexual, I thought it was possible; second, Regarding love, it is not just between two heterosexuals or homosexuals. Since homosexuals and homosexuals can also love each other, can’t homosexuals and heterosexuals love and care for each other? Of course, maybe this kind of love has nothing to do with each other's sexual impulses. After all, if this can exist between homosexuality and heterosexuality, then there will be a problem with the definition of the two themselves. When it comes to the happiness of the male protagonist's mother, is that when she is rejected when she proposes to the gay husband she loves and loses the one she loves, or is she unable to have the one she loves after she gets the one she loves? Complete love for her from body to soul, more painful, or which is more likely to be happy after it happens? But I think she should be happy after getting her lover's commitment to her, that's for sure. Now that men and women become husband and wife, they may not even have pure love for each other. Even if there is no hormonal love between homosexuals and heterosexuals, they may not be able to be happy. Of course, I promised to marry each other in my consciousness, that is, regardless of the mood How to make a promise of mutual loyalty, this is the most important thing in marriage, even higher than love, so in this regard, marriage between homosexuals and heterosexuals is not necessarily
what the outside world sees, the ignorant heterosexual Who is so pitiful, pathetic, or ignorant.
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