If I could sum up the movie in one sentence, it would be that a well-known female writer, because she felt lost in her current life, chose to divorce and then broke up, decided to travel the world and finally found her own story on the journey.
A common topic these days is that before we can love someone, we have to be ourselves and love ourselves - the truth is, but whether it is to know yourself or to love yourself correctly, in my opinion, it is precisely the hardest thing —We usually just think we know it, but don’t really, or we probably wouldn’t put ourselves in a really bad state too often, screwing up relationship after relationship.
The film is about self rather than love, but this time, I want to talk about love - the two things that moved me the most in the film, Liz said goodbye to ex-boyfriend David and ex-husband Stephen.
Because of the material foundation accumulated by the hard work in the past few years, after Liz left New York, he rented a house in Rome and started a new life, gathering with friends, tasting food, hanging out and talking, as if everything was business as usual. One morning, she was sitting on the floor reading a newspaper, about to eat breakfast, and the memory suddenly flooded in like this, and she remembered that David had told her: you don't lie on the ground, you sleep in the bed.
In the life of an adult, love only occupies a very limited proportion of course, heartbeat is an instant gift, liking and missing are not the normal state of life, daily trivial work problems and repeated three meals and one night are the real life itself - just I think of you occasionally.
Memories always come unexpectedly - when you see a beautiful scenery, you suddenly think, if only you were there; when you go to a museum, you think, what are you seeing? When I was very happy, I suddenly realized that there was no way to share it with you; after I made a mistake, I remembered that you told me before... and then hit the softest place in the center all over the place - all those things were only said at the time Ordinary, only understood after passing, is the most real and profound love rooted in the most simple and ordinary life.
Of course it's not easy to separate. In the Temple of Augustus, Liz looked up at the deep and magnificent ruins, and with the answer, she wrote a letter to David: We would rather maintain the torture of being together for fear of being separated for worse, but the entropy Addition is the truth of everything in the universe, and how can we make each other better if we dwell on this mistake because of fear of change. Destruction is the beginning of change. Live in fate, not relationship.
Pain is addictive, because it carries your sunk costs, and it also proves your sincerity - not to mention a marriage without domestic violence, cheating and other principled problems, and ex-husband Stephen respects women and cares for partners , Liz filed for divorce because of self-confusion.
In addition to the pain of loss, what she can't bear is the debt to others, and she falls into the pain of infinite self-blame.
She had been waiting for Stephen's forgiveness. Just like us who have tried to control and even change our lovers, we hope that they will move forward in accordance with their ideals, and they are persistently unwilling and unable to give up this fantasy - pulling each other, constantly looking for problems, analyzing problems, and solving them. problems, and create new problems.
Such a vicious cycle, like a drowning person, desperately clinging to the last straw, until the other person is also pulled into the water, sinking together and suffocating the other.
In fact, what other people are like, how they look at you, where they will put you, and what they will do... You have nothing to do. We can no longer control anything other than ourselves - how the other party is not important, the important thing is that you let yourself go.
Liz and Stephen got married because they were in love, and they were separated because they weren't fit to live together - it's not right or wrong, it's just fate. They are all good people, but they can't make up a good pair of lovers.
"I loved you." Liz couldn't help but say when fantasizing about dancing with Stephen.
"I know," Stephen replied, "but I still love you."
"Then love me."
"But I miss you."
"Then think of me. Whenever you think of me, give me guidance and love, let it all happen naturally, and then dissipate naturally. It doesn't matter, love and misses don't last long, nothing lasts forever. "
A decent farewell as an adult is the shining truth, goodness and beauty in human nature. In this long life, love and separation are sometimes not contradictory - our marriage failed, but we still retain the sincere loyalty and the kindness that we have shared weal and woe for each other.
I still love you, and will always love you, not about the relationship between men and women, but about one person's love and blessings for another.
Dear, we have detoured such a long and distant road, met and then separated, if I knew this was the end, I would still make the same choice - embrace my life calmly.
I feel very lucky to be able to drop by with you, you are a very good person. The fate between people is not the same, although there is no fate to accompany each other, but I sincerely hope you have a better life. Between you and me, there is no need to say goodbye, because I truly feel your love and sincerity for me, and so do I.
Perhaps the wonder of love is that it cannot overcome all difficulties, but it is also infinitely vast.
In the past, we have loved people sincerely and have been loved sincerely and sincerely. In the future, we will be able to love others bravely and sincerely, and be more confident and have love.
We lose a lover, but we all fall in love with someone else.
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